Most men 30 and up need to consider settling or just forget about starting a family

[klientel]

What do you consider baggage? You don't have to have things happen directly to you to be damaged or have baggage.

Well she comes from a 2 parent home, parents were financially well off, no ex, no kids, breezed through school, got a good job immediately out of college, father paid her bills for the first two years she worked, has a group "friends" and she got me

I'm pretty sure it's her little crew that she started hanging with after college that turned her into this. This bytch just out the blue told me that she thinks my mom is a "user" who takes advantage of me....I was seconds away from choking her. Like it was just completely out of nowhere. And she knows I get crazy behind my momma, yet she said it anyway almost like she wanted to start a fight.

 

[David_TheMan]

That's true. But in 2017 if you're a man over 30 who can actually be in a healthy, stable relationship with a 19-22 year old you gotta check your maturity level.

On top of that how you a grown ass man dating a chick that cant even legally drink?

Not really just got to find the right type of girl, like you would at any age.
I don't drink or club, so drinking aint a big issue for me.
Get in where you fit in breh, but my 20s were lean, 30s settling into my job getting close to paying off these student loans, I've come into my own.

 

[ultraflexed]

Your thoughts? @ultraflexed

Current true story
I have a friend...female, 32, works as a ER tech at my hospital and will be graduating from nursing school in 2weeks, the hospital told her that they will hire her immediately.

She is idea height 5'7 nice shape, she is light skin, even has dimples really pretty, really classy, really nice girl, has no kids..she is single....not even really dating.....black guys are not checking for her like they should.

Their are black women out their that are ready and have their stuff together.

If a guy has it together and he is single it is because he wants to be, I have friends that make north of 75k from 31 to 39 and they are single, they say the want a family and are looking for the right one but their actions show there more happy running through chicks every couple weeks.

 

[Weaver31]

If you didn't lock something down early, you lost heavily.....

This is the absolute truth. I kinda knew it when I was younger but now I see it. I should've snagged up a girl earlier when I was in college or just started with my career. Its hard finding someone with all the desired qualities once u get 30+. So many women do have baggage but I'm not perfect myself so....

 

[thewarrior05]

I often wonder what men think dating as a black woman is like when there are literally 5 million men out of our community. And that's not accounting for those who are also illegitimate fathers or have baggage themselves? I dunno but I let them cook b/c I KNOW it's some trife chicks out there. But i just wonder if they give a thot about that from time to time?

Another poster had me laughing when there were dudes talking about blk women being horrid and raised in broken homes and she quipped "Where do u think blk men were raised, Narnia?!"

I felt my soul leave me body with the laughter. LMAO!

A lot of what blk men and women are complaining about in dating is nothing more than the fruits of years of systemic bullshyt placed upon our community. If I can just get average blk people to remove the chips from their shoulders and stop looking at everybody EXCEPT other average people, I think we'd be okay. But blks are HYPER critical of each other. I think it's because of a collective self-esteem issue. I've said it before and I've said it again: blk people dating for social validation, not love. So average won't do which is why a lotta people missing each other.

Don't waste your time dudes in this thread cry way to damn much if they spend as much time developing themselves as much as they do complaining this wasn't be their mindset. For goodness sake theirs a fat lame non dude by the name of DJ Akademiks who is eating and building something for himself.............. and hes beyond lame............. internet dudes have no excuses anymore man up stop bytching and do better

 

[Weaver31]

If you didn't lock something down early, you lost heavily.....

This is the absolute truth. I kinda knew it when I was younger but now I see it. I should've snagged up a girl earlier when I was in college or just started with my career. Its hard finding someone with all the desired qualities once u get 30+. So many women do have baggage but I'm not perfect myself so....

 

[Coli Bot]

Literally only 9 million single moms in America
Only 3 million of them are blk. If ur in an area saturated with single blk mothers, u wanna think about moving.

Pull statistics out of your ass brehs

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Not really just got to find the right type of girl, like you would at any age.
I don't drink or club, so drinking aint a big issue for me.
Get in where you fit in breh, but my 20s were lean, 30s settling into my job getting close to paying off these student loans, I've come into my own.

That's cool if that's what you like. Personally I have nothing in common with women that age based on my experiences with them. I came into my own in my 20s so I think we're just looking at things from a different perspective. A woman that young literally can only offer me p*ssy and that is it

 

[Dad]

WRONG!
The options out there for dudes 30 plus is the best ever, it's nothing but

You got newly single women who ready to party and not commit or the ones who got bank and want to spoil you.

 

[AB Ziggy]

This nikka just can't stop making threads for the sake of daps

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Pull statistics out of your ass brehs

"According to U.S. Census Bureau,3 out of about 12 million single parent families in 2016, more than 80% were headed by single mothers."

"About two thirds are White, one third Black, one quarter Hispanic. One third have a college degree, while one sixth have not completed high school.7"

Single Mother Statistics — Single Mother Guide

Birthrates have been taking a nosedive across cultures for a while. But the oversaturation of single moms in the media, online and otherwise has created panic over a false reality that the majority of chicks u see are single moms.
This is by design b/c the Powers intend to demonize relationships between men and women in an attempt at population culling.

Like I said. There are only 3 million blk single moms in America. But welfare queen rhetoric and Worldstar hip hop, and Brotha tales would have u believe otherwise.

Believe stereotypical myths to give urselves excuses for dating woes....brehs.

(S/o to Dr. Chang my advanced stats professor who broke this stuff down for us! Descriptive statistics and regression models and correlation coefficients and p-values and analysis of variance! Yay! Got my grades back today!)

 

[GoPro]

alotta delusional...many of yall nikkas are going to have to settle... ...its called reality....idealism needs to end

Nah bruh, dudes with good jobs, our own place, own car, money in the bank, certs, beards () - we don't settle. Get your money up, buy some meds, stop thinking youre gonna be the next nikka van Gogh and maybe you might have obtain a wider range of options.

 

[thewarrior05]

"According to U.S. Census Bureau,3 out of about 12 million single parent families in 2016, more than 80% were headed by single mothers."

"About two thirds are White, one third Black, one quarter Hispanic. One third have a college degree, while one sixth have not completed high school.7"

Single Mother Statistics — Single Mother Guide

Birthrates have been taking a nosedive across cultures for a while. But the oversaturation of single moms in the media, online and otherwise has created panic over a false reality that the majority of chicks u see are single moms.
This is by design b/c the Powers intend to demonize relationships between men and women in an attempt at population culling.

Like I said. There are only 3 million blk single moms in America. But welfare queen rhetoric and Worldstar hip hop, and Brotha tales would have u believe otherwise.

Believe stereotypical myths to give urselves excuses for dating woes....brehs.

(S/o to Dr. Chang my advanced stats professor who broke this stuff down for us! Descriptive statistics and regression models and correlation coefficients and p-values and analysis of variance! Yay! Got my grades back today!)

Aquarius Gang wins again gudd shyt no loses

 

[DCSpinerz]

Current true story
I have a friend...female, 32, works as a ER tech at my hospital and will be graduating from nursing school in 2weeks, the hospital told her that they will hire her immediately.

She is idea height 5'7 nice shape, she is light skin, even has dimples really pretty, really classy, really nice girl, has no kids..she is single....not even really dating.....black guys are not checking for her like they should.

Their are black women out their that are ready and have their stuff together.

If a guy has it together and he is single it is because he wants to be, I have friends that make north of 75k from 31 to 39 and they are single, they say the want a family and are looking for the right one but their actions show there more happy running through chicks every couple weeks.

I'm in my 20s and I got my stuff together so I can kinda relate. I was about to marry my ex girl but she cheated on me. She's a lawyer.

So I'm kinda on the path of enjoying my youth and wait till the right woman fall on my lap so I'm honestly not worry about marriage/kids.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Aquarius Gang wins again gudd shyt no loses

I'm just outchea trying to eliminate excuses for shyttin on our own people.

It scares the holy shyt out of me that a rumor can gain so much momentum that it is spread as axiomatic truth and used to discredit millions of blk women just b/c u going thru a drought and not able to get ur dyck wet.

It's like those Sista Tales about blk men making less than blk women
"I just can't find a blk man with his act together!"

bytch! After student loans and credit cards and weave debt yo ass only bringing home $10!

I'm sorry. I luh ya'll. I'm bored today b/c I took a friend to the hospital today. She had surgery so I'm just wilding out online with ya'll today.