I was shocked this came from a woman. Most hate the idea of being a side chick but it's not a bad decision considering how some of these women are living
"Most men don't have $1,000 left after paying all of their bills. 100k aint shyt"- Me explaining to my homegirls who say all their dates are BROKE.
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The more you make, the bigger the expenses. Also depends on the cost of living where you live.
$1200/month mortgage vs $5500/month. Big diff.
It’s delaying gratification that fukks up women (and people in general). That’s why these chicks can be short on the rent every month but somehow have been out in the bars and clubs every weekend during said month.One thing I've learned dealing and interacting with women is a lot of them truly don't have a grasp or understand the concept of money management. Some of the baddest women with decent jobs are literally check to check or drowning in debt trying to front or live a certain lifestyle and are out and about every weekend just giving and having fun. I'm not going to knock it do your thing. But it's crazy to expect a potential mate to come in and just find that lifestyle while still maintaining his especially If y'all aren't married or in a long term committed relationship. I've bushed chics that hit me up for light bill money and they literally just came off a trip...... But I also got called broke by a few as well too since I choose not to spend my money the way they think I should. Brehs should just ignore chics that move like this off first contact. Don't even entertain the foolishness. It's the only way things will start correcting themselves.
It’s the best option for a lot them actually, especially on some short term shyt. Most these chicks ain’t tryna commit to anyone anyway. It’s just their egos won’t allow themselves to be the side chick knowingly.
There is no real reward with being a side chick and most women who got a made man ain't willing to share him resourceful.
There is a lot more benefit to being in a poly relationship than a side chick
I've had women call me broke because they can't afford to buy the merchandise/food I'm selling. (20 dollars for a cheeseburger! What are u broke?) I've pissed off a number of women cause I tell right from the start, u can't afford anything that's worth my time so please make way for paid customers (it's called a reality check).
Dealing with the women in this post, any woman who has the word broke in their vocabulary is broke. That's not a word used in rich social circles, and I'm not talking about rappers.
And why can't they take a man out on a date? What's the point of letting women work their way up in life if all they want to do is look down on anyone who makes less than them, and they still want a rich man to spoil them. Get y'all asses back in the house and start raising these kids properly
Dealing with the women in this post, any woman who has the word broke in their vocabulary is broke. That's not a word used in rich social circles, and I'm not talking about rappers.
And why can't they take a man out on a date? What's the point of letting women work their way up in life if all they want to do is look down on anyone who makes less than them, and they still want a rich man to spoil them. Get y'all asses back in the house and start raising these kids properly
Ezekiel 25:17
Veteran
Nah, that's a personal problem. It's not some phenomena you can't control when you get a raise.
Nobody sees the financially smart people because they usually keep quiet about their spending and savings.
aXiom
Maximized Potential
Yeah, this is the part some dudes don’t get.
I spent a lil over $1100 just going out last month. Met a new chick, went on a few dates, watched playoffs games and also chilled with my boys.. I was out every weekend. The last weekend I didn’t really do much.. I hit up a bar with 2 of my boys just shooting the shyt over a few beers and grabbing food.. my bill was about $60 including the tip.. my boy looks over to me and says.. this is a cheap ass night if we had chicks with us that bill would’ve been a lot more than that.. and I’m like yeah you right
Here’s the thing.. most women don’t care and are oblivious to finances and how much shyt costs and the moment you start looking at prices and receipts it becomes a turn off. Keep in mind that they themselves could/would not be going out as much if they had to fund these activities themselves as they would not be able to afford it. But none of that shyt matters… it’s working for them. Had a chick show me her IG of all the pics she took of the spots she been to in Miami after moving here a few months ago. You’d think she was ballin… nah.. she broke as fukk, but she got a homegirl with a crazy ass and they just hit up spots and dudes be trippin themselves to buy them drinks/food.
On another night, left the spot with my boy and we met 2 chicks in the parking lot, chopped it up for a bit, then they wanted to know what the next move was.. keep in mind this is like 5 in the morning.. so we really tryna take them back to the crib.. we told them we knew this other spot open till 8.. they said they were gonna Uber and meet us out there.. cool.. they got there before us.. get to the spot.. every nikka in the spot killing themselves to buy them drinks for no reason and they just kept moving onto the next nikka.. I was just like yeah.. I’m good.. I refuse to do that. I’d rather waste money at the strip club.
If you out here fun dating as a dude, good luck.. I’ll reserve my finances for women that are worth the effort.
It’s lopsided relatively speaking. By that I mean the number of above average earning (>70K+) men to women in the black community isn’t as big a gap as we see within other races.
You might think it doesn’t matter as long as BM outnumber BW, but because women generally date up this causes an imbalance of expectations. Most men will take a 50K woman over a 100K woman if the 50K woman looks good and isn’t a hoe. On the flip side often a woman who makes 70K is coming with the expectation that their man should be hitting 6 figs hence the imbalance.
IVS
Superstar
This shyt right here is too true.
They need to start dating Nigerian men.
They all guaped up.
guess you have never been t o nigeria
or your mortgage is up for renewal and with the higher interest rates you're now paying 800 more a month
The Half-Blood FKA Prince
Avada Kedavbreh!
This what every woman wants. And that is ok. Every nfl player wants a ring. The thing is they dont just hand those out to them the moment they get drafted. They have to EARN THAT SHYT. Train hard, pull their weight, coordinate their plays with rest of the team, beat the competition, and in all likelihood take some L's along the way. Its all part of the sport.These are 2 girls I'm cool with, one is 30 (nurse) and the other 39 (govt employee). In the same week, the both are complaining about the men they meet are all Broke.
Now the 30 yo has an amazing body, face not to bad either.
She's pretty broke herself always working long and extra hours and double shirts to make it. We use to mess around and kick it sometimes, but she wants a man to spoil her and help ease her financial burdens., so we never got far.
Just trying to understand her expectation I asked her, how much does a man needs to spend/help on her monthly to make her happy? She really couldn't say. I tell her, seems women want to go out weekly to dinner or some activity when you first dating. That can easily be over $500 a month. She says that's cool, but I tell her, that's a lot for a man making 100k here in DC. Here's how I broke it down to her.
$100,000 = est. $2500 after taxes bi-weekly (depending on your tax situation)
Rent easily can be 2250$, after utilities and internet, that's one check gone.
Car, insurance, gas, food, dining, happy hours, and shopping can easily reach 2000$ God forbid he likes to gamble, smokes or tricks off. Or is paying child support.
So it's not about how much you make per say, but how much you have to play with after all your bills are paid. I don't think most people in DC have $500 left.
Even if a man does like her a lot he might run up that credit card, but after a few months, he's going to have to slow it down.
She gets quiet and reality starts to hit her.
The 39 year old Govt Employee seems to be making good money, but she brags on her credit cards, so I don't know how much she really getting. She is taking a European cruise soon, says it's alike 10k. But going in debt to travel and stunt isn't unfamiliar to DC. I just know we split when we go out. She tells me that every man she meet is Broke and don't want to travel with her. She's a cute, well kept women, but she doesn't dress the best. She's from GA. Dresses like a conservative teacher id say.
I tell her, I don't know where this idea that men are making all this money came from. There's a lot of men making in DC making 100k, but to have a nice car / crib and money to play with in the DMV, you need about 130k minimum in my opinion.
To use another football analogy, , u gotta treat these type of females like u would talking to most pats fans. They wanna ride the bandwagon thats fine but dont come to my house in ur forman mills eagles jersey talmbout we #1 the moment we finally have our season.
U chose ur team chick, go back to whiffing Brady's jockstrap. im rocking with my day 1 and savoring her fiya
wing dings lovingly marinaded with her patented lime habanero pepper sauce, and we dont share with moochers
To bad, so sad, better call ya mom and dad
OperationNumbNutts
Superstar
Many women who actively date never consider the money men spend on dates and all the experiences they get for free. 
Average salary for a black man is 42k a year… white man 52k a year
Where do these women especially black women think everyone is making 80k above a year
And black women themselves …. overall only 25% make over 75k year and majority makes 50k or less.. look at the stats
Black Women Statistics - BlackDemographics.com
According to the US Census Bureau the Black female population in the United States was 21.7 Million. This is 52% of the total Black populatiblackdemographics.com
This modern generation minds are not on reality
Actually only 9% of black women make 75k or more.