my girls depression has gotten so bad that I don't want to be around her

[SeveroDrgnfli]

I definitely feel you and I agree that expecting happiness all the time is unrealistic, but with that said the same person you are depressed and single CANNOT be the same person you are depressed and in a relationship/friendship/parentship or whatever.

When you agree to these "associations" with others, you also agree to try to work through issues with those people and not shut them out. You can't just expect people to deal with it if that makes sense.

True. That's my expectation of anyone I'm around. But I don't think relationships are like that. People just want financial security and they want to fukk and show off their partner. Does anyone really care about who they date? If they do why is it so easy for people to walk away and pretend they never knew someone?

Only reason I'm able to do it is because I'm expected to. That's normal. And I have to be normal. Lol shyt is insanity.

 

[ultraflexed]

She could be bi polar

 

[Rawtid]

True. That's my expectation of anyone I'm around. But I don't think relationships are like that. People just want financial security and they want to fukk and show off their partner. Does anyone really care about who they date? If they do why is it so easy for people to walk away and pretend they never knew someone?

Only reason I'm able to do it is because I'm expected to. That's normal. And I have to be normal. Lol shyt is insanity.

Preach breh!! I completely agree with your line of thinking. I take relationships very seriously and I've asked myself similar questions.

 

[ultraflexed]

Back to back like LeBron and wade on the heat, like the warrior about sweep.

Fixed

 

[ZEB WALTON]

I was actually told today that I might have Schizoaffective or Bipolar Disorder. They thought it was depression years ago. I didn't take it well at all and I'm furious tonight. Gonna start treatment I really don't want to do. I can be very difficult to live with I put my friends and family through hell for the past ten years. We have choices. You can stay or leave. You can't fix her or really help her, I know with me, people who try to help just end up enabling or feeling resentful because they just don't know what to do and get frustrated.

I have a lot of work to do, and have to accept that it can only happen through baby steps. She has a choice. She can do better or not. It's more than just taking pills and talking to someone. That's what I'm learning. But allegedly i'm not okay, so maybe I am wrong.

I always thought it was just my drug use and came to 12-step fellowships and still ended up in wards, court, and lonely without drugs (violence and major crimes are no part of my story, so the way I act sometimes is not me). I'm grateful to be clean, but I'm struggling with life right now, and had no idea until recently. I could right an essay on what happened this year, but allegedly I'm not stable, and need a lot of help (three separate social workers told me this past two months). I got suspended from college, and lost a job, and then spent the whole month threatening people and harassing people, and had no idea that anything was wrong. I'm gonna feel like shyt when I come down.

i wish my ex had this level of maturity

@Dad watch and make sure she dont start blaming you for everything now. my ex held onto ther esentment of an abortion we had (she had a bicornial uterus and the baby wouldnt have fully developed anyway and could have killed her) and she blamed me for it and never forgave me even tho it was a lose lose situation.

ones that resentment starts coming thru be careful

hope it works out fot everyone. peave stay positive and good luck

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

Preach breh!! I completely agree with your line of thinking. I take relationships very seriously and I've asked myself similar questions.

Ditto. I think that's where my anxiety comes from. If I give someone my time or call them my friend I really fukking care. I can't not care about them. So when I find out they're just going through the motions I can't deal.

If I'm with you I'm with you for better or worse no matter what. Lol but if I don't fukk with you, wow! I could watch someone I don't fukk with be eaten alive by dogs and not acknowledge it. I'm either all the way in or all the way out.

 

[director_of_bands]

leave that broad NOW...you think she would help you through your depression? I bet she one of them broads that will only act right after she sucked all of the happiness out of your day and once she sees that you have been pulled into her misery - then she's ok now these broads just have a way about them. I peeped game with a couple of exes.

 

[Da King]

@Dad, have you tried putting hands on her? Sometimes they need that

 

[4fossa]

That's a Maple Leaf breh

Yeah man I just posted cuz it resembles weed (I guess)

 

[Giselle]

She's always battled with depression / anxiety issues & is currently on medication for it.

Recently though out of thin blue air, shyt has gotten worse. It's almost as if I'm living with another person.
She's ultra sensitive towards everything, getting her to talk out her problems is like getting blood from a stone and what makes it even more troubling is she doesn't know why she's feeling this way.

According to her these bouts can last from weeks to months and we have to ride them out. I'm trying to be patient because I realize that depression is a form of mental illness and God forbid she went ill with anything else, I'd be there and support her to the end but, this is the most strenuous and nerve wracking thing we have ever had to deal with in our relationship.

Does anyone suffer from depression or partner fighting it?

You aren't her dad and you are not her husband or her therapist. That is not your responsibility. You have the right to leave if you want to. You can still be her friend though, if you want.

In my opinion, people who have severe depression should be more focused on themselves and getting rid of their depression than trying to date. Time being single working on her self could be good for her right now. I don't understand how someone could have a healthy/happy relationship with other people if you can't even have one with yourself.

With anxiety, it depends on what kind of anxiety it is and how bad it is.

How did you even end up with her if she had all of those issues?

 

[Texasdymond]

Sounds like a terrible idea

Why