‘My husband refuses to pay my student loans.’ I took out the loans before we were together.

[Curufinwe]

That's call a prenup.
your debt, money before wedding is yours only.

I guess she didn't go to law school...

 

[Blankthawtz]

Slap that bytch with the sharpest edge of her diploma....

 

[Umoja]

What's jokes is asking if there is a loophole to get him to pay after saying taking the money would result in divorce.

In a different thread I talked about letting people talk as they'd dig their own grave. The above is an example of that.

If she used some loophole to get him to pay, divorce would be on the cards but that isn't an issue to her because she would get what she wants, the money.

 

[Starburst]

If he told her not to work, she would have mentioned it. Don't know what it will take for men to break out of the habit of bending over backwards to rationalise selfishness from women.

That’s why I said

Playing devils advocate here. Maybe her and her husband decided that she would give up work and stay at home take care of the kids etc

There is obviously a reason why she doesn’t work, and why he appears to have been ok with it for several years. She obviously got a degree with the intention of working.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I ain't marrying no bytch with debt

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Sounds like they're both refusing to pay.
The only difference is it's not his responsibility.

 

[Originalman]

Sound like her husband had a nice little talk with a pimp named slick back.

 

[Ozymandeas]

I would pay off my wife's student loans if I was:

A) rich as fukk, so i wouldn't care
B) we were married for 30-40 years, had 10 grandkids and clearly going the whole distance
C) I told her to go to school to get a degree while married

Otherwise no. I'm not paying off no broad's loans if we only been together a few years just so her ditzy ass can get a change of heart and divorce me.

 

[RennisDeynolds]

in a lot of states you automatically assume the debts of your spouse. so if she defaults on them, they are coming for his shyt

 

[Bossino]

in a lot of states you automatically assume the debts of your spouse. so if she defaults on them, they are coming for his shyt

And this is how bytches go missing. I wouldn't allow myself to be in the position, because she'd 1000% go missing if I found out I was 100K in the red because of some broad. That or permanently using a wheelchair

 

[Nigerianwonder]

For a lot of women this is their plan for paying off their student loans. Find a sucker with money to marry them and pay it off. Debt and student loans and how they plan to pay it off are one the first things I find out before wasting time dating a chick.

 

[Rawtid]

These marriages be straight trash.

 

[MajesticLion]

Gotta be willing to have those uncomfortable conversations
Phat bumbum don't eclipse long term character traits, no way no how
prevention > cure, every single time
adjust your filters

 

[Peter Popoff]

Question: I am married but unemployed, and my husband refuses to pay my student loans, which I had before we were dating. Do I have access to the money? Yes. But if I were to touch it, it could cause a divorce because he feels that it’s not his responsibility, as we were not together at the time I acquired the student loans. Is there any way to get out of it? Or is there some type of loophole? I haven’t worked in years. I don’t even know how I would repay these back on my own.

My response:

 

[GoAggieGo.]

Gotta be willing to have those uncomfortable conversations
Phat bumbum don't eclipse long term character traits, no way no how
prevention > cure, every single time
adjust your filters

Yep. This is why I ask about degrees and what her current occupation is in the talking process. Ain’t even gotta tell me you’re in debt, but in my mind while she’s talking, I’m calculating all that shyt just by her telling me those 2 things.