"nice guys aren't really nice" is a Cop out women use

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You believe this stuff? Most dudes aren't really willing to be real friends with chicks as we get older because what's the point? We usually don't have the same stuff in common, do the same activities, etc. Now maybe if she can hook you up with her single friends, y'all go out buddies, or maybe y'all have common interest but that's not the norm at all. Let's be real how many people in general have an actual best friend of the opposite sex that sex hasn't been on the mind with them? Hell how many even have people of the opposite sex as their best friend period?


i'm interested in marriage....and all that,naturally,comes after a woman and man are married


...i need to form a meaningful connection with a man to know that is all possible...to know i'll be in love and connected to that man forever

the friendship between a man and a woman is the foundation of a solid marriage...in my opinion

i said in my prior post, quite a few men, are turned off at the idea...

but i'm not going to give into having a possessive relationship with a man just cause he doesn't like the idea of being friends with a woman...first and foremost...or doesn't believe in true love because this world celebrates love based on superficiality all day...everyday

i just accept it for what it is....

i believe in & value true love....and i'm not going to throw that away for conditional love
 

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Yet I've seen men on many different occasions who hit on what girls want from a guy get :camby:by women because he was too boring or too nice. Educated, great communicator, good looking, knows how to get along with damn near anyone. All of us in our group guys and girls would :cape:for him in a heartbeat but he just keeps catching L's.... He's not the only guy I've seen this happen too either..... This isn't just some one time thing.

I agree that there are many things that have to fall into place for a relationship especially for me who has no desire to date any woman at least from this country atm vs just having casual sex with a woman. The problem is you hear women do the piss and moan about how they're "no good men". Hell they run to the good men to whine about how shytty their boyfriends treat them or how the new guy isn't picking up her calls....... Now if a woman mistreats me or doesn't pick up my calls she gets the :camby: phone number, facebook, snapchat.... everything gets deleted. As far I'm concerned she went out with the Dodo Bird, and I don't give them another chance either, but women continue to give those men chances..... Then when shyt doesn't work out the song and dance starts up about how "Men aint shyt, or I'm not dating because all guys are awful or How there are no good guys out there or All men are dogs...etc". This is a common theme amongst the majority of women I've come into contact with. I find it fascinating that all of them continue to expose themselves to that kind of disrespect when you can see the dudes around them who would actually treat them right but they wouldn't give the time of day because................... wait for it...............WAIT FOR IT....................................WAIT FOR IT............... THEY JUST THINK OF HIM AS A FRIEND. Even after he has admitted his feelings or attempted a play for her he's still just a friend. BTW I'm not talking about "Let's hook up or You should have sex with me" I'm talking about "Why don't you let me take you out sometime, or hey we get along great let's see how a date would go". Good enough to spend a ton of time around, good enough to bytch moan to about everything under the sun.... Not good enough to take her on a date. I call those men "Emotional Cum Rags", and when they bytch to me I inform them of what the situation is.... and they don't listen.

The reason I hold the opinion I do is because time and time again the theme of women allowing men to treat them like shyt and get away with happens. Hell I've had women friends I've told over and over to stop talking to the dude and they just don't listen AND I NEVER UNDERSTAND WHY. I know the game, and I know how it works why would she ask me for advice and then not take it?

I've seen it happen to both my women and men friends. That's the reason I hold this opinion. You say it's not true.... but I'm constantly bombarded with examples that prove otherwise and rarely see the other side where women actually do go after genuinely good guys....:manny:
Hes a weirdo.
 

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Mine is the only one that was deleted because you have an agenda against me and have for some time. Anyone can glance on the first pages of that thread and see a plethora of actual troll comments--not opinions that you just don't like/agree with, but actual troll comments--and all of them managed to not be immediately deleted and are still there. Yet my response, a question to a poster who had already responded to me and would probably say himself wasn't a troll post, was worth you interfering and outright deleting? Amongst all the obvious troll threads that not only manage to not be deleted or moved but even featured and it was my comment that made you take action? You're a fraud.

How about this: you say EXACTLY what the post is that you deleted of mine said, and we'll let @Brooklynzson sort it out. I'm actually appalled at your cowardice. And its really sad you have taken to use your mod privileges to display it.
Hmmmm now Im wondering what your comment was:patrice:
 

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Hmmmm now Im wondering what your comment was:patrice:

I asked the other poster, who I happened to be in the middle of a debate with, if all the same rules he was saying applied to women and how men judge them by how they are dressed, apply to Black men and white people judging them by how they're dressed? He deleted my post and banned me from the thread.

That,
in all the fukkery that we see in TLR, was the "troll" post that couldn't stand.
 

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There you go again making assumptions about my education as well, tell me what documentation do you have proving that I attend or have attended a community college? Can you honestly back up anything you post? I can just look at the way you type and play your "dope boy" dialect in my head lol. And please don't be irate with me for criticizing your atrocious English and limited vocabulary. It's just hard to take someone serious when they're up here typing like they're some internet thug. The only reason you refer to my statements concerning your level of education as *babel*(See how it's spelled?) is because you have no rebuttal to anything factual. The negg rep only shows me that you're upset, but then again you shouldn't be upset with me, this is how you've presented yourself I was only being honest with you. You're nothing more than the typical "KeyboredWarrior" who takes the internet to heart. Good luck with all that p*ssy you're getting.
:yeshrug: Think what you want it matters not but you ain't getting no p*ssy talking the way you talk. Oh yeah I can't prove that but fukk it so what what you going to do "said in my dope boy voice" As a matter of fact I can't prove shyt I post (make you feel better? ) but I bet you can since its not hard to prove you are a nice guy fakkit caping for grown men not getting p*ssy. Good luck with that and thanks for conversing with somebody with my limited everything. Good to see people spend time with the less fortunate in the world. FOH and learn there's more than one way to spell certain words too stupid ass.
 

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I asked the other poster, who I happened to be in the middle of a debate with, if all the same rules he was saying applied to women and how men judge them by how they are dressed, apply to Black men and white people judging them by how they're dressed? He deleted my post and banned me from the thread.

That,
in all the fukkery that we see in TLR, was the "troll" post that couldn't stand.
Hmmmmm To not further derail this thread perhaps you could send me the exact words you said, if you still have them that is.....
 

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What's fukked up is some of my females friends have ended up with actual nice guys and dumped them because of it. I can't tell you how many times I've heard "there was no drama" or "he treated me too good and it made me feel weird" and then in the next breath bytch about how they can't find a good man.

And no one ever questions men's taste in women.
 
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If all the women you know are in shytty relationships (and I assume men too because, y'know...men and women date each other), thats on you. If there is not one example of a good relationship that you can think of in your life, OK. Thats extremely hard to believe, but again, thats your experience. I also wonder if your experience means that you would also say that there are a lot of bad men out there, and not too many good men for women to choose from. Or would the next part of your experience be that all these women are all dating the same one bad man, and passing up the 20 other good ones? You know, the plethora of young men you know intimately enough to know their intentions with women and therefore know they don't want just sex but want a real relationship and are being rejected left and right by women (:comeon:).

I guess.

My experience has been that that's bullshyt. My experience has been that you're much more likely to have a situation where a guy presents himself in one way to get what he wants, then switches up once he does or after the woman has sufficiently developed feelings for him and might not leave as readily as before. But I will let you tell it that there are far more attractive, educated, great communicators with zero bad faults men out there looking for long term relationships and getting curved, than there are men out there looking for something casual and doing and saying whatever they need to to women to get it.

:comeon:

You're doing it again, going into attack mode thinking I'm painting some broad brush and generalizing all women rather than seeing it as one person's experience with relationships.I realize my experiences are a small sample size(In the context of one man's life on this planet), but it's kinda interesting to see other men who share those same experiences wouldn't you say? You're also taking my statements out of context. I keep telling you no one is attacking you or generalizing women or attacking women yet you keep taking it in another way. I'll address this entire thing point by point later gotta go to work
 

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Not true about all good gentlemen being timid, not all gentlemen are timid or afraid to make a move, in fact the majority of men(be it a good man or a sex hound) who do actually approach women on a constant bases(From my observations) aren't timid.[/B] It's not even because they're constantly doing it either, but because they have a decent level of self esteem. Listen to what some of the guys say up here, it's like they believe that a man who doesn't share the same bad qualities of the typical "badboy" is timid by default. As I've already said a man can be funny sociable or just a pleasure to be around regardless of he's edgy or clean cut. It doesn't take a "Rough Neck" kind of guy to hold a conversation with a woman or keep her interested, that is unless you're dating the typical hood rat, but even then to my knowledge the typical hood rats are also intellectual beings with deeper interests and appreciations, if exposed to the right circumstances.

But, I do see what you mean. I'm sure there are some men that feel that they are entitled to sex simply because of how they act. Of course they're not entitled to sex, no one is; however, I can't ignore the defining line between the men who genuinely express their experiences in the dating world and the men who are faking their intentions just for sex.

Typical logic of this forum, people are always arguing extremes, not every dude that is considered "nice" scared or timid or whatever, there is a deeper rooted issue that judging from this thread, no one knows why this happens not men or women.. Maybe these nice guys are corny, maybe they are too clingy or pushy, maybe the chick don't want a relationship at the time they meet said nice guy, maybe the definition of nice is extremely subjective.. Maybe these "a$$holes" are just more "fun" to be around maybe they are great in every other way, they just don't want or know how to be in a committed relationship.. I think woman should, when asked about the type of dude they want, use another word to describe "nice" or good because its obvious most dudes have a different idea of what it is to be nice..


This is why I say women have just as big an ego as men. If not more so really, because they certainly won't put themselves out there and approach a man, they can't handle that rejection.

True, not saying this should be the norm, but it should happen more. You cant complain when you don't put in the effort, its crazy people go about dating the same way after continuing to not get the results they want
 

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First off this isn't a pity party, it's a mutual discussion between adults/adolescents; however, judging by your constant ad hominem, childish juvenile affront and wild broad unsupported generalization and bias, you're obviously not mature enough to even engage in a casual discussion such as this one.

Funny you didn't respond to me directly but I will address this anyway because of course all you're doing is restating what you've already stated previously, but has already been confirmed as false. It's not that males can't accept hearing the truth about themselves. It's that males, more times than none, KNOW who they are and what they're perceived by women and society to be and are not willing to conform.
This is the exact opposite of what's actually going on. Self identifying "nice guys"/"good gentlemen" are doing just that- conforming. They are just conforming to the wrong ideals.


And, I'm glad I'm touching on this because this is something other people have posted up here earlier but is also FALSE. If men were only playing the "nice guy" simply to get laid, then why do they still continue to "act" even though it's not working? Fact of the matter is, they are not acting.
No

The reason dudes play the "nice guy" is because they don't know any other way to interact with women. They straddle the line of being just aggressive/persistent enough to stay within her sphere of attention, but nowhere near aggressive enough to make a move and take a chance at facing rejection, because they treat every woman they interact with like the last one that will ever give them a chance.

The reason why they vent and detail their experiences is because they aren't blind to what's going on and aren't going to pretend to be blind simply to make women feel more conferrable about something that's true.
No

They vent their experiences because they are willfully blind to what's going on. The only person that can put someone in the friend zone is one's self.... self-identifying nice guys blame women and "society" for the choices they make.

Again, A woman has the right to chose who she wants as long as the man wants her as well; however, when she or any woman responds to accusations and criticism regarding her choices made by her male counterpart, and the accusations made are all absolutely true and she's responding to them in a way that's condescending and deflective, then yes it is a cop out.
Again more "nice guy" bullshyt. Trademark nice guy bullshyt. You can't win over her affections so you try to rationalize your way into the p*ssy through shame. "Why do you date all these a$$holes? You should date a good gentleman (like me!!! :( )" Meanwhile those "a$$holes" are nothing more than guys who were willing to make the move and take the chance the "good gentleman" wasn't.

It really seems as though you feel that men should work on them selves in an attempt to "get p*ssy" is that what you've done personally? Then tell me who's more of a "p*ssy whipped Simp" the guy who refuses to conform or lower himself to obtain sex from a woman who engages in sexual intercourse with his underling? Or the guy who's only acting like a jerk to "score some p*ssy"?
No, I think men should stop "beating around the bush" and just be upfront with women. It would save a lot headaches and bodybuilding.com/misc threads. You find a woman attractive, you let her know in clear language. If she's feeling you, great. If she's not, KEEP IT MOVING. ACCEPT THE REJECTION AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. This idea you seem to be pushing that women make the "wrong" choices with men is silly... if all a woman dates is "a$$holes" why would you want to date that woman? Just move on to another one. I have seen manifestos like yours... it all revolves around an inability to accept rejection and move on. If ONE woman isn't feeling you, who cares? There are 3 BILLON OTHER ONES you can take a chance with. With those kinds of options why waste time putting yourself in the friend zone and playing the passive aggressive guaranteed for failure "nice guy"?

And there is a big difference between being a "nice guy" and being an actual nice guy. A "nice guy" is a chronic passive aggressor who absolutely refuses to take any responsibility for the outcomes of his choices in life. You exemplify this. You are INCENSED at the idea of rethinking how you deal with women, even though it's clearly not working. A true nice guy is respectful but direct... and in doing so wastes no time, sees what works and what doesn't, and has more success with women. A true nice guy doesn't wear his "niceness" on his sleeve like some kind of VIP pass to the p*ssy because he knows it doesn't work that way. He is nice to everybody because it's the right thing to do.

So no Im not saying men should work on themselves. As fake nice guys love to point out "a$$holes" get plenty of women. Only thing they are doing differently is approaching directly and walking away if shyt doesn't go their way. Its not rocket science, cavemen realized this.
 

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Women have loved bad boys since the beginning of time and nice guys have been who they settle for after they have been used and abused by bad boys. Usually these women will come to the nice guy with emotional and physical baggage that the nice guy will put up with just to have a woman on his side.

Problem is nice guys refuse to accept the truth, the quicker you accept the truth the easier life will be for you. Bad boys have the mascuilinity and confidence that women seek that nice guys lack. Nice guys should be more masculine and build confidence and only be nice when someone deserves it.

Nice guys will be seen as food in this dating age or the favor guy she is always asking a favour from. If a woman been thrown out she will call up that nice guy for a place to stay RENT FREE. If she hungry she will call up a nice guy for FREE FOOD. If she needs a ride to see her bad boy, she will call up a nice guy for a FREE RIDE.
 
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