Yea.
It ain’t all Black men, but internet dudes…yea. For sure. Lol
Don’t internalize it tho
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It ain’t all Black men, but internet dudes…yea. For sure. Lol
Don’t internalize it tho
All the women in my family are Pickmishas
There is one in particular who just makes me so sad. She was so creative breh. Now all she cares about is running behind her husband. Literally has no life outside of him. She use to have hobbies but not anymore.
They are both retired. Right after they sold their house she talked about getting a little part time job and her own car. He basically guillted her into not doing either.
He had 2 heart attacks over 30 years ago and hasn't done a fukkimg thing to improve his health since. All he does is eat bullshyt. He's literally eaten himself into disability. He can't even walk 20 steps without injuring himself (I wish that was an exaggeration).
Then he does little stupid shyt he knows will leave him bedridden for days or weeks. He's just fat and useless at this point. He makes zero effort to lose any weight and all she does is enable him.
She can't even have a conversation without talking about him. That's literally the only thing she can have a conversation about. The same energy isn't returned. In fact, he has a life outside of her. He has hobbies, friends and family who call him all the time. He rarely even brings her up in conversation.
She has completely let herself go. All she does is care about him and his health that he literally doesn't give 2 shyts about. Her whole face has fallen and his skin is still tight. He is literally sucking the life out of her.
She will sit in the house all day and be quiet if he's asleep but if she's sleep he'll blaze to TV.
She justifies this by saying he "saved" her. That was almost 50 years ago.
It must be nice being a man. All you have to do is 1 fukking nice thing and you get worshipped like a god for the rest of your life. Meanwhile you can be a woman and give up your whole existence for someone and barely get acknowledgment for it.
That shyt makes me SO mad.
Her and I are close, and we always have little pretend arguments. It's just jokes. We were doing that like normal and he took my side of the "argument" and she literally busted into tears. REAL fukkING TEARS!!!! She said "Why do you always take her side?"
I was literally shocked. I don't think I have ever been more disgusted in my life. And then she proceeded to pout about it for the rest of the day.
I call her on his stupid ass behavior all the time. She doesn't care. As long as she has her handicap God she's "happy." Mind you, she cries about how he treats her regularly.
The funny thing is most people think they have a great marriage.
I will never get married EVER. I would die this very second before I ever dedicated my life to a man.
I'm just super frustrated with her. I know it's her life to live but that shyt is so fukking pathetic.
She has children that she doesn't love like she loves this man.
*Sigh*
I hate this planet.
There is one in particular who just makes me so sad. She was so creative breh. Now all she cares about is running behind her husband. Literally has no life outside of him. She use to have hobbies but not anymore.
They are both retired. Right after they sold their house she talked about getting a little part time job and her own car. He basically guillted her into not doing either.
He had 2 heart attacks over 30 years ago and hasn't done a fukkimg thing to improve his health since. All he does is eat bullshyt. He's literally eaten himself into disability. He can't even walk 20 steps without injuring himself (I wish that was an exaggeration).
Then he does little stupid shyt he knows will leave him bedridden for days or weeks. He's just fat and useless at this point. He makes zero effort to lose any weight and all she does is enable him.
She can't even have a conversation without talking about him. That's literally the only thing she can have a conversation about. The same energy isn't returned. In fact, he has a life outside of her. He has hobbies, friends and family who call him all the time. He rarely even brings her up in conversation.
She has completely let herself go. All she does is care about him and his health that he literally doesn't give 2 shyts about. Her whole face has fallen and his skin is still tight. He is literally sucking the life out of her.
She will sit in the house all day and be quiet if he's asleep but if she's sleep he'll blaze to TV.
She justifies this by saying he "saved" her. That was almost 50 years ago.
It must be nice being a man. All you have to do is 1 fukking nice thing and you get worshipped like a god for the rest of your life. Meanwhile you can be a woman and give up your whole existence for someone and barely get acknowledgment for it.
That shyt makes me SO mad.
Her and I are close, and we always have little pretend arguments. It's just jokes. We were doing that like normal and he took my side of the "argument" and she literally busted into tears. REAL fukkING TEARS!!!! She said "Why do you always take her side?"
I was literally shocked. I don't think I have ever been more disgusted in my life. And then she proceeded to pout about it for the rest of the day.
I call her on his stupid ass behavior all the time. She doesn't care. As long as she has her handicap God she's "happy." Mind you, she cries about how he treats her regularly.
The funny thing is most people think they have a great marriage.
I will never get married EVER. I would die this very second before I ever dedicated my life to a man.
I'm just super frustrated with her. I know it's her life to live but that shyt is so fukking pathetic.
She has children that she doesn't love like she loves this man.
*Sigh*
I hate this planet.
Thaaaaaaaaat’s tough. Hopefully the fog clears one day and she can see more clearly.All the women in my family are Pickmishas
There is one in particular who just makes me so sad. She was so creative breh. Now all she cares about is running behind her husband. Literally has no life outside of him. She use to have hobbies but not anymore.
They are both retired. Right after they sold their house she talked about getting a little part time job and her own car. He basically guillted her into not doing either.
He had 2 heart attacks over 30 years ago and hasn't done a fukkimg thing to improve his health since. All he does is eat bullshyt. He's literally eaten himself into disability. He can't even walk 20 steps without injuring himself (I wish that was an exaggeration).
Then he does little stupid shyt he knows will leave him bedridden for days or weeks. He's just fat and useless at this point. He makes zero effort to lose any weight and all she does is enable him.
She can't even have a conversation without talking about him. That's literally the only thing she can have a conversation about. The same energy isn't returned. In fact, he has a life outside of her. He has hobbies, friends and family who call him all the time. He rarely even brings her up in conversation.
She has completely let herself go. All she does is care about him and his health that he literally doesn't give 2 shyts about. Her whole face has fallen and his skin is still tight. He is literally sucking the life out of her.
She will sit in the house all day and be quiet if he's asleep but if she's sleep he'll blaze to TV.
She justifies this by saying he "saved" her. That was almost 50 years ago.
It must be nice being a man. All you have to do is 1 fukking nice thing and you get worshipped like a god for the rest of your life. Meanwhile you can be a woman and give up your whole existence for someone and barely get acknowledgment for it.
That shyt makes me SO mad.
Her and I are close, and we always have little pretend arguments. It's just jokes. We were doing that like normal and he took my side of the "argument" and she literally busted into tears. REAL fukkING TEARS!!!! She said "Why do you always take her side?"
I was literally shocked. I don't think I have ever been more disgusted in my life. And then she proceeded to pout about it for the rest of the day.
I call her on his stupid ass behavior all the time. She doesn't care. As long as she has her handicap God she's "happy." Mind you, she cries about how he treats her regularly.
The funny thing is most people think they have a great marriage.
I will never get married EVER. I would die this very second before I ever dedicated my life to a man.
I'm just super frustrated with her. I know it's her life to live but that shyt is so fukking pathetic.
She has children that she doesn't love like she loves this man.
*Sigh*
I hate this planet.
I’ll say I haven’t seen many marriages like that.
I think a big part of the issue is most women aren’t taught to center themselves as girls. It’s a man’s world, yes, but that doesn’t mean men have to literally be the center of your world. When you are raised to have your own identity I think it’s easier to spot the men who are actually into you as a person and not just with you because…they like what you do for them. A lot of women don’t know the difference.
I have mostly egalitarian marriages around me (family and friends), and many of the men may be considered “simps” by others— successful, kind, family oriented, homebodies, etc. I have a relative who is ill right now and her husband is up every morning before dawn getting things together to ensure he can start the day and start taking care of her before she wakes up. It’s so sweet. And it’s expected because that’s her hubby.
Same with one of my BFFs. She was diagnosed with a disease while she and her hubby were dating and he moved her into his place because he wanted to prove to her parents that he could take care of her while she was sick. They got married after.
I don’t know women who make having a man their personality, so I can definitely understand your frustration.
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I appreciate the support and I really don't want you to feel like I am atracking you but this whole response is a cope.
Why are you trying to compare yourself to me? Serious question, why is your first instinct to try to tell me how you much better your family and friends are?
My post isn't asking your advice. My post is about MY experience with one person. Why would you then go and compare her with everyone you know and ever met?Why compare at all when there is nothing about this situation that requires comparison?
Your post was intended to reinforce your own beliefs and wants because I said something that went against your desire to be married.
I think it's funny how the world is filled with horrible things, situations, and people, but when someone wants to have a real conversation, all of a sudden, no one knows anyone in the same situation.
Every woman in my family is married except me; every single one. Some have been married 2 and 3 times. I know more married couples than non-married. I am no stranger to marriage.
All my sisters are married, all my aunts are married, my mother is married, all my cousins are married, and even most of my nieces are married. If we want to go even further, all my friends from high school and college are married too. My best friend, who is a guy, is married too. I have married coworkers also (the most miserable, btw).
Idk how many marriages that is ...50, maybe. I have decades of marriage observations and experiences; simps, abusive, "great", with child, without child, long marriages, short marriages, etc.
And I can tell you there is not one of those marriages I would want; not one.
You do whatever works for you. My personal decision to not devote my existence or share my life with a man has nothing to do with you. I support you.
If it weren't for women still willing to lay down with these men, I would not be able to freely move about the world as I do. I want women who want men to have them.
I support your decision. Please don't try to invalidate mine. I'm not a child who doesn't know better and needs to be shown the light.
My decision comes from experience, observation, and logic; not potential or my desires.
I respect you, but your instant need to compare and position yourself above is something you should examine.
Naaaaw babe.
I wasn’t trying to say my family is better than yours. We have our share of drama like everyone else.
I was just writing to say, hey, I understand how you feel and it may be because of the programming most women receive. It may be frustrating but, same way I’ve seen a relative who was abused by her husband and how traumatizing that was for her and her daughter, I remember that the other men in the family don’t harm their wives and dealt with that nikka and took his wife in when the family found out.
It wasn’t me trying to cope or shyt on your family’s experience— I APOLOGIZE.
It was more about when we ladies recognize how a lot of dudes aren’t really the kind who value us, we gotta move away, because they won’t do right by us.
But again, no offense intended.