Essential Official Random Thoughts Thread (Ladies only)

[Gloxina]

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Ladies, does your family believe in basically staying with a man through anything?

I can tell my mom wants me to take my son’s father back even though she knows the most about what he’s done and said to me. Always going to”give him the benefit of the doubt”

Uh, his actions were a direct reflection of how he feels/didnt about me, why would you want to see your own child mistreated by their partner especially if they share a child

No but most of them sure the hell does.

They already know better than to talk that shyt to me though.

 

[Yinny]

He’s given me an ultimatum to take him back or he’s gonna find someone to “make him happy”

Uhhh

 

[Gloxina]

He’s given me an ultimatum to take him back or he’s gonna find someone to “make him happy”

Uhhh

Well fukk him too. Didn’t HE mess it up in the first place?




That aside, I’m all for families figuring it out; so if he’s actually remorseful, a team player in terms of finances, household and child rearing responsibilities, and you actually love him…

But if it’s actually more stressful with him then…


You gotta think about this rationally and determine what is best for you and your baby.

 

[Yinny]

Well fukk him too. Didn’t HE mess it up in the first place?




That aside, I’m all for families figuring it out; so if he’s actually remorseful, a team player in terms of finances, household and child rearing responsibilities, and you actually love him…

But if it’s actually more stressful with him then…


You gotta think about this rationally and determine what is best for you and your baby.

TLDR he’s not and I’m not interested nor willing to sign up for more of the many many things he wasn’t doing, or was doing that he shouldn’t. He literally is with someone else right now a whole half second after I split with him, and when I was with him and so on and so forth. Amongst other things- I accepted that I’m not the one for him and vice versa.

Him even framing it as “or imma find someone else” is more than enough for me to know nothing has changed. We tried about 2.5 years, it really wasn’t working, I’m at peace with accepting what happened but knowing not to go back, moving on and us prioritizing our son.

Edit: Dad says “Please keep it that way” on my No thanks
My mom the misogynist “Aww he wants his family back”

 

[Yinny]

I love these because spot on

 

[Gloxina]

She’s annoying, but she was being real here. Didn’t know she tackled topics like this

 

[Gloxina]

TLDR he’s not and I’m not interested nor willing to sign up for more of the many many things he wasn’t doing, or was doing that he shouldn’t. He literally is with someone else right now a whole half second after I split with him, and when I was with him and so on and so forth. Amongst other things- I accepted that I’m not the one for him and vice versa.

Him even framing it as “or imma find someone else” is more than enough for me to know nothing has changed. We tried about 2.5 years, it really wasn’t working, I’m at peace with accepting what happened but knowing not to go back, moving on and us prioritizing our son.

Edit: Dad says “Please keep it that way” on my No thanks
My mom the misogynist “Aww he wants his family back”

Glad your dad has your back

 

[Yinny]

My son grandma got me feeling like Thugnificent

She’s been asking for my son to stay with her and I agreed to this long weekend, then later got asked to take a work trip to NY so she okay with him staying til Wednesday

I took him down last night came back and she dubbing my calls, he was whining when he saw me on ft cuz duh im his fav person -girl don’t start with me fr I’ll see your ass Monday before my flight

Gonna enjoy this break though, finally deep deep cleaning my place purging and sleeping at my own pace
(I’m not angry but between her and her child wanting to be the main characters so bad)

 

[Yinny]

She’s annoying, but she was being real here. Didn’t know she tackled topics like this

It be so wild how comfortably men say shyt like this and don’t get how crazy they sound

I encountered two men who did the “I usually don’t date dark skin girls but there’s something about you” bit, immediate bush I have no time for such an honor

In general announcing their type/see it, I move all the way around

 

[Yinny]

It's perfect he's away til Wednesday

I'm able to deep clean and moreso this weather has been horrible, flash storms and floods - power went out last night

and my phone conked out, just got a new one it's coming tonight

he having a time with gma and gpa he'd be mad having to stay in the house for all these days

 

[Gloxina]

It be so wild how comfortably men say shyt like this and don’t get how crazy they sound

I encountered two men who did the “I usually don’t date dark skin girls but there’s something about you” bit, immediate bush I have no time for such an honor

In general announcing their type/see it, I move all the way around

They literally think it’s a compliment.


You gotta hit em with “I usually date guys who are taller” or “I usually date guys who are in _____ or _____ careers/fields” (meaning guys with money) for them to feel the way it stings.



And of course you never talk to them again!! Lol
You just do it so they know how it feels.