PANIC Time: If you're around 30 (flabby and sick) and still single.
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Ronnie Lott
#49erGang
U don't even have a "point of view." U are all over the place. And who agrees with u?
the bossman
Superstar
excellent discussion. lots of different points of views to learn from. I've done some soul-searching after reading this thread 
brehs i mostly read and dap in these forums, and post when i find something worth relating to. this thread popped out to me bc for one obvious reason, i hit the big 3-0 this coming sunday the 14th.....and trust me, this is not some ego trip, cocky makin myself look better than i really am type shyt, but i dont look a day over 23/24. ppl from either my job, or strangers i meet everyday when i tell them im turning 30 hit me wit that
i have always said that shyt is gonna bless me when i hit these older years of 30-40 even 50s bc i stay in shape, and probably helps i live in a warm climate year around (miami). now i do drink (ALOT actually), and have no care or even the mere THOUGHT of settling down. and never intend to. ppl that meet me or friends that know me always wanna know how i could never wanna "carry on my name" or all that traditionalized shyt. i tell em first of all, im SELFISH and i admit it
secondly, i NEVER want a kid, and in this day and age, especially a town like miami, i feel almost privelaged that im hitting 30 and am kidless without any baby mama drama. its sad to say that but in this world we live in, its kinda true. ive seen so many "perfect relationships/engagements/marriages" last for years and turn UGLY over one minor foul slip and both parties ruin the others lives with either court battles over money, kids, to ruining the others credit bc they have their SSNs bank accounts, credit card, things u would trust wit your significant other of many years.
im not saying dont go for it, bc i clearly realize im in the minority and most ppl wanna grow old wit someone.....but i never got that. maybe its a strain of DNA that got cut outta me, i been called cold by many women. having an icecube for a heart. whatever the case may be, this is who i am. i live in paradise city that most ppl save bread to visit for a few days out the year. beauitful women, any night out the week i can head out to go somewhere entertaining. perfect weather, beaches.....im never getting married. and 30 hits me this sunday, i am the happiest person i know. just a shared thought
(ps sorry for the novel, lemme guess you guys.....
I think this post depicts what dachamp is trying to say. Here is a single man who is successful and doesn't want to commit. But he admits that he is selfish and has had problems building relationships because of his lifestyle choice. Which is dachamps point. Successful heterosexual males who don't want to commit posses certain character traits.
It is what it is. Not everybody is cut out for marriage, but there are certain things in life you can achieve only by building a family.
DaChampIsHere
Survive the drought
Said the same thing about you plenty of posts ago.
Exactly. I'm not saying that anything is wrong with ole boy for feeling such. But that's just what it is. I wish people on here wouldn't take offense to every damn thing. Look past how the words make you feel and look at the words.
I got some older frat bros who don't want to be married that I hang out with, but they will readily admit that they are not that comfortable with a lot of things socially, commitment being one of them. They are a little more guarded people in general.
Like I said earlier, when I say something, I'm "belittling" people and being stuck up or whatever, but when people say it for themselves, oh, everything is cool.
Field Marshall Bradley
Veteran
I think the institution of marriage within itself is sound. The people who practice it and the punitive laws punishing the male if the marriage is dissolved are the problem to me.
Your mind is incapable of perceiving the perspective of a man that doesn't want the things you find desirable. there are people out there that don't want those things. There are man that downright hate women outside of sexual purposes. Heterosexual but don't want a wife. There are men that hate children. Everybody doesn't have to be the same way but you try to mentally push people to the same ideals because it shatters your reality to face the truth that some will never want the things you do.I say that because no one can seem to point out this 100% heterosexual male who has grown up with success and who has had great relationships/interactions with women who says "Hey, I wanna die alone and I don't want a woman".
Like, do these things even sound right together?
"I have achieved all these things, but fukk having a kid, when I die, I'm passing this on to someone else's family
"I've had so much success with women and I've learned a lot of things from them, but fukk having a wife. I don't want to make a commitment to a woman."
"I have a great social life and I really get along with people and I love hanging out with them, but fukk having a life long partner/friend"
DaChampIsHere
Survive the drought
And these guy are 100% socially normal, in your opinion?
Y'all only prove my points.Again I'm not trying to get any one to think like me, just explaining the way people think. I haven't told anyone in this thread they should be like me. Don't project the way you feel.
Pillowysoft83
Pro
If anyone hates a whole group of people outside of what they can do for them, they are considered sociopaths.
It's just not normal for a man to hate women.
DaChampIsHere
Survive the drought
Somethin' ain't right. 
CoolazzFemale
All Star
HoustonHeat
In and out
I agree with Champ for the most part.
I think this discussion is also really centered around norms that are about 15-20 years old. With the current state of the economy, job market, college expenses, etc., many of our college grads aren't doing what 30 year olds used to. We are getting married later, having fewer kids (if at all) later, and retiring later.
-A huge number of college grads are job-less, or working low pay jobs and living with their parents. Lots have been laid off and are moving back in with parents. 20 years ago, people in their mid to late 20s werent just starting off in the workforce like they are now, they were looking to settle down.
- College completion for young women is higher than men in many communities, and higher than it used to be overall. Young women in their late 20s have a lot more disposable income than they used to, and spend it on a lifestyle that doesn't center around having kids or getting married, therefore living a more youthful/social/Sex and the City lifestyle than prior generations.
- Young and middle aged workers (engineers, sales, IT, etc) are moving around due to job market (i.e. mass exodus from San Francisco to Texas) because the companies are moving. For many, purchasing a house feels more like a ball and chain, cause you may be stuck trying to sell it.
-More people are opting to rent because it allows freedom and they aren't sure where they will settle, or even when. More people are also traveling for pleasure than ever, and opt for smaller homes.
Even a lot of the parents of these posters are practicing "younger" social behavior than their parents did. In other words, 30s in the new 20s, and it really is the time that most of these people will have the income to party and socialize the way they really want to. In a youth obsessed society, I also see a lot more 30 year olds looking and dressing younger than they used to.
I think this discussion is also really centered around norms that are about 15-20 years old. With the current state of the economy, job market, college expenses, etc., many of our college grads aren't doing what 30 year olds used to. We are getting married later, having fewer kids (if at all) later, and retiring later.
-A huge number of college grads are job-less, or working low pay jobs and living with their parents. Lots have been laid off and are moving back in with parents. 20 years ago, people in their mid to late 20s werent just starting off in the workforce like they are now, they were looking to settle down.
- College completion for young women is higher than men in many communities, and higher than it used to be overall. Young women in their late 20s have a lot more disposable income than they used to, and spend it on a lifestyle that doesn't center around having kids or getting married, therefore living a more youthful/social/Sex and the City lifestyle than prior generations.
- Young and middle aged workers (engineers, sales, IT, etc) are moving around due to job market (i.e. mass exodus from San Francisco to Texas) because the companies are moving. For many, purchasing a house feels more like a ball and chain, cause you may be stuck trying to sell it.
-More people are opting to rent because it allows freedom and they aren't sure where they will settle, or even when. More people are also traveling for pleasure than ever, and opt for smaller homes.
Even a lot of the parents of these posters are practicing "younger" social behavior than their parents did. In other words, 30s in the new 20s, and it really is the time that most of these people will have the income to party and socialize the way they really want to. In a youth obsessed society, I also see a lot more 30 year olds looking and dressing younger than they used to.
OG_StankBrefs
Da Spice...
You agree wit Champ but yet you just listed da reasons why alot of brehs are choosin not to rush into gettin married and/or aren't considering dat shyt all at. Maybe i'm misreadin what you wrote but dat shyt seems a bit confusing considering which side of da argument you are seemingly on.
Help me out fam.
Normal? What is normal? Are people not individuals? You're using the word normal to push people into ideals you consider acceptable. I'm black and like rap music some black people don't. If I say its not normal for a black person not to like rap that's some bullshyt just like you basically suggesting all men have a life objective of a wife and kids is some bullshyt. Why use words like normal to make it seem like they're wrong for feeling how they feel just cause you don't see eye to eye with it.And these guy are 100% socially normal, in your opinion?
Again I'm not trying to get any one to think like me, just explaining the way people think. I haven't told anyone in this thread they should be like me. Don't project the way you feel.