Question for the Anti Single Mother Clique :unsure:

[spliz]

exactly. the kids aren't yours so you can't tell them to do anything unless she gives you permission. basically you're powerless in your own home if it goes that far and she has all the power. those kids likely aren't gonna receive you well or at the very least will receive you worse than they would if you were their biological father. its gonna be a constant stream of battles you'll have to fight.

if this becomes your ready made family and you try to give someone else's kids guidance chances are they will reject your authority or put their mother against you for their own advantage. you'll always have that hanging over your head. your authority over them will always be given to you through her and not of your own.

if i'm 10 and my dad beats my ass for being bad i gotta accept that but if some guy that isn't my father but wants to play that role does it i can turn my mother against him and there's nothing he can do. he doesn't define how i'm raised she does.

My g..imma have to give u a reality check...kids turn their mothers against their BIOLOGICAL fathers all the time..and vice versa..cause guess what?..they KIDS..they try to get over...and they will if either one allows it and doesn't put foot down..I can tell a lot of u nikkas dont deal much with kids in general.

 

[floe]

I don't see why they should...
Relationships are complicated enough without bringing kids into the equation. Hell I wouldn't date a man with kids. Props to anyone who can deal with that though.

 

[Kenny West]

Idk brehs but my experience is different from yalls. I mean I not doubting yall stories but i never experience that so


Honesty i think yall are blaming single mothers for some of the bad choices yall made in women.

you can't really pull the bitter card on a young nikka

Only fukked one single mom

the p*ssy was trash and based on the story of how she got knocked up she's a fukkin idiot. of course in her story the baby dad was the villian, but if he knocked her up he a fukkin idiot too

but do you womb recycler

 

[spliz]

part of the risk of going for what you want is coming up empty handed in the end. if you're not really willing to fail then success isn't an option for you.

what's the real value in lowering the bar over and over again until finally someone you wouldn't choose for yourself if all options were on the table chooses you? what did you really get?

And if u have kids with a woman. The same can happen ..only this time the kids are ur biological so thats a WHOLE nother issue u will have to deal with for the REST of ur life..I just chalk all this shyt up and cats not being ready for kids at all...cause theres alotta responsibility and pros and cons either way u look at it..in that instance u shouldnt put urself in that position being dating a mother with kids or having ur own...

 

[Just like bruddas]

you can't really pull the bitter card on a young nikka

Only fukked one single mom

the p*ssy was trash and based on the story of how she got knocked up she's a fukkin idiot. of course in her story the baby dad was the villian, but if he knocked her up he a fukkin idiot too

but do you womb recycler

sorry u pick a poor choice for a sex partner

 

[winb83]

My g..imma have to give u a reality check...kids turn their mothers against their BIOLOGICAL fathers all the time..and vice versa..cause guess what?..they KIDS..they try to get over...and they will if either one allows it and doesn't put foot down..I can tell a lot of u nikkas dont deal much with kids in general.

that's not a reality check. i tried the same shyt when i was a kid. my mother and father took a unified front and shot it down every time.

there's something about somebody else, an outsider, telling you how to raise your own child that's different though. the unity could be there but its a different dynamic and less likely.

lastly there's something about you being priority #2 in her life and having priority #1 trying their best to constantly undermine you and ruin your relationship with her that's a little unsettling.

as a child one is more willing to take shyt from their own parents out of respect and authority than they are some outsider. the moment you cross somebody else's kid the wrong way you're on their shyt list for life.

 

[marcuz]

My g..imma have to give u a reality check...kids turn their mothers against their BIOLOGICAL fathers all the time..and vice versa..cause guess what?..they KIDS..they try to get over...and they will if either one allows it and doesn't put foot down..I can tell a lot of u nikkas dont deal much with kids in general.

i think you mean mothers turn their kids against their biological fathers all the time

 

[AZBeauty]

part of the risk of going for what you want is coming up empty handed in the end. if you're not really willing to fail then success isn't an option for you.

what's the real value in lowering the bar over and over again until finally someone you wouldn't choose for yourself if all options were on the table chooses you? what did you really get?

Again, all I am saying is that the chances of you meeting a chick without kids decreases as you age. That was my original post. Everything else you are talking about is extra and based on your feelings regarding the subjects, which is fine. If you don't want to date a single mother then don't.

 

[intruder]

I dont think a chick being a single mother is a deal breaker for me. I'm more about what else is under the hood. If shes a single mother but hadliing her business then I'm down.

Like this chick that i kick it with sometimes. Shes a single mother of 2 but at the same time she's a cool ass chick and lawyer making twice my salary. The fact that she's a freak in the sack doesnt hurt either

Money talks fakkit

 

[Un-AmericanDreamer]

It's telling when the ladies room biggest defender is declining to put himself into that situation. Being a single mother really is the kiss of death. . AIDS or kids? I think AIDs may be preferrable. How come single moms with kids are always trying to get dudes who don't have children to be part of their all ready made families? I notice this a lot. It's like they don't want to date what they are. Why not just date dudes who all ready have kids and do the brady bunch thing?

 

[Just like bruddas]

i think you mean mothers turn their kids against their biological fathers all the time

i agree with that part, some chicks would use their kids as chess pieces. My mans just got custody of his son. His girl would straight tell her him lies that made him hate his father. Funny cuz she cheated on him but he was the bad guy. He fought long and hard but he got him needless to say she was not happy and hired a lawyer. Jewish women just dont give up

 

[Ooh Marty]

I'll bite. I'm selfish. I dont want to share my woman. I'm all for her, I want her to be all for me. With children in the picture, that's not gonna happen. They'll always be number #1 over you.....always. #shytIDontLike


You're not their father. You could be there for 20 years, raise them, clothe, feed & house them, put them through school......all that shyt.......just to hear them say "fukk you, neega. You not my daddy" and they'd be right #MoreshytIDontLike


Once again, I said I'm selfish. A woman having sex with other men before you is hard enough to swallow. We grown, so ehh...everybody has a past. But a woman giving birth to another man's child before you. That's That's a special, life lasting, eternal bond. A special memory between her & him that you'll never be able to erase. That's like that scene in Avatar where the alien dude found out Jake & the alien girl latched their bodies together & went through the bonding ritual I dont want no other fukkin nikka sharing those kinds of moments with my woman. fukk outta here I dont give a fukk if he is dead & gone.....she'll always think of that nikka. #MoreshytIDontLike


Lastly, if we kept it 200%.......I'm her second choice. We wouldn't be together if her husband hadn't died. That shyt would always be looming in my head. Give me the childless, single, never married woman so I can create my own family & my own special moments ....

so basically, no matter the circumstances u cant fathom being with a woman/marrying a woman that has kids....k.

 

[Bigen King]

these nikkahs should be blaming they're own short comings as the problem if your laying it down right then its no way she'll be thinking about her ex

 

[MikelArteta]

Nope

Still got a seed

 

[Ooh Marty]

Lawd...I'm NOT TAKING ABOUT JUST ANY SINGLE MOTHER PPL....I'm talking about a single mother whose husband died.