Real talk. Why do some men try to befriend women?

[The Mad Titan]

I get along with women way better than men, I'm also laid back and kind of a flirt.

With that said I know how the game works, especially now.


There is no woman worth having that's going to be ok with me having a bunch of female friends that I chill, talk or flirt with casually lol. I wouldn't even want to deal with a woman that found that acceptable because when the tables are turned I'm not gonna be ok with them doing the same. It doesn't make sense overall when it comes to fostering a healthy relationship.


Now I have 1 or 2 real close female friends that a girlfriend would have to understand are close to me. But if things really get serious between me and a woman just like with all friends you naturally start to fall back a bit. I'm the last of a handful of friend to be single and when I tell you every single one of them boy's went from going out and hanging out regularly to like once every 4 or 5 months and not past 10 I mean everyone of them.

 

[#SOG_soldier]

I don't understand it either. The only female friends I got is dyke bytches. But dyke bytches got all the bad hoes

 

[Gold]

There is no woman worth having that's going to be ok with me having a bunch of female friends that I chill, talk or flirt with casually lol. I wouldn't even want to deal with a woman that found that acceptable because when the tables are turned I'm not gonna be ok with them doing the same. It doesn't make sense overall when it comes to fostering a healthy relationship.

All women know this and appreciate this.

Its only on the internet that you'll ever see a woman try to pretend that this is a bad thing

 

[Youseenmywork]

Women need to accept that NO matter what women will be objects of desire...even when men are not approaching. Women ONLY want to be a object of desire when they get the RIGHT man. It just dosent work that way . Even when your there "friend" they still try to force or get you to look at them better than they look at themselves.

 

[philmonroe]

Friends, friends ... no.

Associates...all the time.

Because if either has a serious relationship there is no way you two are hanging out. Especially if there was ever any type of attraction.

Honestly I think this is what happens most of the time regarding m/f relationships and dudes try to exaggerate whats really going on. Most people's closest friends are of the same sex but online you always meet more than a few cats that are best friends with women. Stuff don't add up.

 

[Music Fiend]

Can only speak for myself.

I can be friends with women (in the sense we can hang out and do things like study, bar hop, party... Just not chilling one on one for no reason) mostly ones I'm somewhat attracted to, but aren't my top notch choice of women...

It's cool to have a chick to flirt a lil bit with, get feminine perspective on things, and a lot of the times they will be asset to you smashing her friends if she's social.

Sometimes the desire to smash isn't greater than than the benefits of having a good friend. And if she feels the same way, she can be a pair of eyes, On some, your girl is wilding when you're not around shyt.

 

[Youseenmywork]

It's possible yeah.. hopefully they don't look too good or their body right cause ima be looking!

If I saw them just as a friend, and I really enjoyed spending time with them.. that thought gon cross my mind. If I can't force myself to find them attractive at all, then ima keep it just friends.

You brought up a good point. If half these women on the Coli have male friends nd these dudes is handsome to them...trust he has thought about getting in them guts. I've heard about two people that is friends that smash and try to keep it on the low but that shyt always gets out. Usually when you do smash it's supposed to be a secret anyway ...so I've heard.

I just never wanted to be like a women. Theirs ways and why they do what they do is very typical. I don't want bunch of fine female friends cause I would just use them to get to there friends. Which is typically why I don't have them it just typical..all around.

...and the reason some dudes keep bad chics around is cause it for validation and it helps to get other women as well which is coo but typical it about preception as well.

 

[morris]

All women know this and appreciate this.

Its only on the internet that you'll ever see a woman try to pretend that this is a bad thing

Had this in real life but I usually young 20-something, never had to deal with the real word types.

You know, the Internet generation where we all follow and like each other ... she long as you agree with MY points of view

Women need to accept that NO matter what women will be objects of desire...even when men are not approaching. Women ONLY want to be a object of desire when they get the RIGHT man. It just dosent work that way . Even when your there "friend" they still try to force or get you to look at them better than they look at themselves.

ALL, ALL women are desired objects and they like it. ALL.

Don't ALL women want to be physically beautiful? Isn't physical beauty an object of desire?

 

[Youseenmywork]

All you nikkas that got a bunch of female friends thats ugly JUST to have female friends is lame .

 

[The Coochie Assassin]

I think people just like to collect "friends". Unless you are bringing real value to my life, I'm not wasting time hanging out with you or texting nonsense back and forth everyday. I ain't collecting male friends, why would I collect female friends who I really don't have anything in common with.

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

I think people just like to collect "friends". Unless you are bringing real value to my life, I'm not wasting time hanging out with you or texting nonsense back and forth everyday. I ain't collecting male friends, why would I collect female friends who I really don't have anything in common with.

 

[Youseenmywork]

And yet even after the OP told her he just wanted to fukk, she still tried to guilt trip him into being her friend

I laught at some of these women tactics...I really do.

 

[Youseenmywork]

so? i'd be like that too if a girl was just trying to straight up fukk me and i wasn't interested. actually, i KNOW i've been like that to women i didn't want to fukk

Im not doing all of this I was just not talk to her anymore. I talk my ball and go home

 

[The Coochie Assassin]

What does a women bring to my life if me and her are "friends". Usually when the same women get a man they usually disappear any. When they get a man you see what time of friendship you have with said wome .

I don't have female friend cause they don't bring much to my life I don't wanna hear about they shyt they going threw with men. I like it conversate cause it challenges my mind and cause me to look at something from a diffrent perspective. Women do a lot of gossip and talk about nothing. At 32 I'm just anal with my time.

Most younger men don't understand the value of time yet man. They think you can get it back. They don't mind spending night after night talking to "female friends" about their lame job and what they had for brunch.

I learned early on to let women know I am not looking for another friend. They respect that cuz we either take it to the next level or mutually part ways. I don't waste people's time so I expect others to not waste mine.

 

[Youseenmywork]

why nikka why ...lol