Another thing:
- Stay the fukk away from people who always bring up negativity from your past. If you got an athletic build, they gotta mention how you were overweight 5 years ago. You making good money, they gotta remind you that you used to be broke. You're confident and making friends, getting women etc they just have to remind you of when you were taking social Ls back in the day. Drop that person TODAY.
- Somebody who always feels the need to be a contrarian. Of course you don't want a 'yes man' in your life, but if you got a 'friend' who always feels the need to contradict what you say, sideye that person at the very least. They ain't down for you.
- Always has to bring things around to a negative even when you try to see the positive side eg you lose your job and you mention that even though you know things are hard, you're confident you will get another job real soon and rather than encourage you to keep pushing they gotta say some shyt like "yeah, but the job market isn't easy right now and you're gonna struggle you probably not gonna get anything for a long time". No shyt!You trying to see the bright side and they still gotta kick you down somehow.
I have a co worker who checks off many of the above. He's an older black dude, so the fact that he is like that really pisses me off. Dude lies so much that everyone looks at him likeWe all know red flags in relationships...but let’s talk about people u deal with longer than most relationships...
This one to me is very important....I’d say a little more than relationships bc who u associate with or befriend can mean life or death sometimes...or dray u down in life.
We all think just cuz we drink & have fun with someone they’re ur friend...when they just tolerate u. Then u wonder why ur so called best friend set u up/smashed ya gf or ex/stole from u etc....
Here’s my list over the years....
Lies all the time...even trivial stuff
Always downing ur accomplishments (that girl u bagged wasnt even cute)
Always taking subtle shots/comments (there go big money man buying something else again)
Always humored at ur expense/ L’s...(haha, u got finessed out that deal)
Doesnt have a car
Raised by a single mother/has too many female tendencies/emotionally reactive
Hot head
Has no passion in life, wants to bum around
Doesnt strive me to do better
Scared to tell me the truth even if it pisses me off
Soft/pushover
Two faced
Gossips alot
Always asking for money
Anytime he gets a gf he dissappears/doesnt have time anymore
Tries to put u down/show off infront of females
Is a simp
With the above I can MAYBE make u an associate....but I’ll never make u an honest friend. I keep squares out my circle.
Females drop ur comments...cuz y’all are worse than dudes it seems. If I was a female I’d have like 1 female friend
@HarlemHottie @Nicole0416 @Booksnrain @Hungerpain @Luck @Serious @Barnett114
whenever he starts telling a story. He never wants to do what's right and always takes advantage. He tried to play me in front of this Asian doctor he is obsessed with. Pretty sure he comes to work drunk. I'm always having to cover for this nikka. On top of all that he's jealous and loves to talk sideways about what I've got going on. He stays trying to be on that playa shyt but swears he's married. An old co worker told me he's been divorced for years. Don't get why this nikka feels the need to lie to me about some trivial shyt like that.
Another thing:
- Stay the fukk away from people who always bring up negativity from your past. If you got an athletic build, they gotta mention how you were overweight 5 years ago. You making good money, they gotta remind you that you used to be broke. You're confident and making friends, getting women etc they just have to remind you of when you were taking social Ls back in the day. Drop that person TODAY.
- Somebody who always feels the need to be a contrarian. Of course you don't want a 'yes man' in your life, but if you got a 'friend' who always feels the need to contradict what you say, sideye that person at the very least. They ain't down for you.
- Always has to bring things around to a negative even when you try to see the positive side eg you lose your job and you mention that even though you know things are hard, you're confident you will get another job real soon and rather than encourage you to keep pushing they gotta say some shyt like "yeah, but the job market isn't easy right now and you're gonna struggle you probably not gonna get anything for a long time". No shyt!
