Relationship 101: When does a relationship become "official"?

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What you're talking about sounds more like a hook-up/fukkbuddy type of relationship. Hit up late night ONLY when you wanna fukk and leave.

FWB implies some kind of friendship and emotional connection, so that inevitably over time leads to deeper feelings. Especially if you hang out with them/cuddle after :whoa:
Fwb don't cuddle :birdman:
They talk, smoke/drink watch movies. Of course you gonna catch feelings if you are out here cuddling, and giving out forehead kisses and I miss you texts.

fukk buddies, is just sex, get dressed and bounce.
 

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You need a more time consuming hobby. Take up origami
You need to stop worrying about me.

I know what I want and I know what I need. I'm not ready for a relationship but I'm horny as fukk. I wish I had a fwb situation, doesn't mean I'm looking for one. Every thing I post isn't personal or serious.

Sometimes, I just post how I feel. Doesn't mean I'm going through with it. :yeshrug:
 

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Fwb don't cuddle :birdman:
They talk, smoke/drink watch movies. Of course you gonna catch feelings if you are out here cuddling, and giving out forehead kisses and I miss you texts.

fukk buddies, is just sex, get dressed and bounce.
Y'all still have that post-coital brain chemistry going on hanging out with each other :francis:

That's why immediately after you cum you jump up and leave :birdman:
 

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You need to stop worrying about me.

I know what I want and I know what I need. I'm not ready for a relationship but I'm horny as fukk. I wish I had a fwb situation, doesn't mean I'm looking for one. Every thing I post isn't personal or serious.

Sometimes, I just post how I feel. Doesn't mean I'm going through with it. :yeshrug:
Welp
 

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Y'all sleeping in the same bed? :mjpls:

Maybe you're cold but if it's exclusive he's gonna catch the worst STD known to man
The feels :sadcam:
Well, if it's mutual, we can take it there nah mean? :steviej:

Idk, I don't like the idea of "looking" for a relationship. Honestly, I'm scared :hamster: I like things to progress organically. I don't like to feel like cornered prey, a caged bird, pressured into anything. I gotta feel comfortable and vibe with a dude before settling down.
 

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When does a relationship become "official"?

Do you guys have the "what are we?" talk?

The first kiss? First fukk? First time you call each other "bae"?
A young nikka made this thread last week and I was ethered by random nikkas. Smh.

For me after high school, I've never asked.

It's been a known thing. We're hanging around a lot. If the what are we convo from her end doesn't come up, it's usually me introducing her to people as my gf. They usually look at me like "girlfriend?" And I just say it's too late your mine. *ye shrug*

But I was saying my homeboy and his girl were at my crib studying for an exam last week and they were all whispering in each other's ear flirting. Had me uncomfortable a bit cuz it's just us three. Apparently he had asked her in a "romantic" way I suppose, to be his girlfriend.
 

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A young nikka made this thread last week and I was ethered by random nikkas. Smh.

For me after high school, I've never asked.

It's been a known thing. We're hanging around a lot. If the what are we convo from her end doesn't come up, it's usually me introducing her to people as my gf. They usually look at me like "girlfriend?" And I just say it's too late your mine. *ye shrug*

But I was saying my homeboy and his girl were at my crib studying for an exam last week and they were all whispering in each other's ear flirting. Had me uncomfortable a bit cuz it's just us three. Apparently he had asked her in a "romantic" way I suppose, to be his girlfriend.
This thread was inspired by the have sex before/after becoming "official" thread. I was thinking if you never say it, then how do you wait til after your official to have sex.

I don't like all the dating rules and games. People getting mad because others don't do things the "right" way. I'm a go with the flow type girl. I do what feels comfortable.
 
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