Relationships seem to just be about doing a lot of shyt you don’t want to do..

[mag357]

So glad I don't have these issues with my girl. But it's completely relatable in regards to my past relationships. Honestly there's a perfect girl out there for you that's not gonna be annoying AF. You just gotta look for her and stop searching for the dimes all the time.

Here's a tip, look for the girls that aren't into makeup and looking glamourous all the time. It shows that they're not interested in attention and have more important things and goals to focus on. She maybe start off as a 6 or 7 to you, but turn out to be a 10 once you realize how easy going and peaceful things are with y'all.

Question for you... Are u just settling for her tho?
U might really like her and think she's attractive...
Or are u settle for her knowing she wouldn't be a hassle?
I don't know too many ppl who wanna actually be wit a 6...
I personally like 7's tho... Lol

 

[Neuromancer]

Only if you want it to be. My girl is more afraid of upsetting me than anything. I do shyt for her cause I like seeing her happy.

 

[Knowledge]

To be honest... U guys are the problem.
And I hate it lol... 4real tho.
If she's not wifeee, stop doing wifeee type things with her.. stop spending madd time with her. fukkin her all the time....
Then when she wants to get wife appreciation, u wanna act funny to her..
U can't have it both ways.

Ur fukking the game up doing this

Bruh, I don't do nothing but come through once in a while, smoke, drink, and smash. The only reason I met her family is cause she told me her sister nam was drinking and had bottles, so I slide through. I don't do shyt special with these chick and I damn sure ain't spend no holiday with none

 

[xCivicx]

Because he was a good person. Still is. Dude had a good job. Hella smart. Our personalities just meshed. If we meet up RIGHT now it will be nothing but inside jokes, us holding back laughter, hours of pure fun.

I just thought that was par for the course with men. (Most males I know are pretty junky and their places are nothing to write home to mom about. Hell I took one of my male friends shopping at the thrift store and he told me just a few changes to his crib got him gettin p*ssy.
My dad is my favorite person in the world but he is messy as hell. I always grew up assuming cleanliness just wasn't a priority like that for most men and my experiences reinforced that. It doesn't help that I'm a helpless neat freak...

Okay I'm rambling. But he was a solidly good guy but sometimes love isn't enough and he REALLY became a different person when I got accepted to the PhD program which compounded shyt for him.
But I couldn't love him out of his insecurities.

You seem to like passive aggressively disrespecting black men in your posts

I'm not sure why the brehs on here are cool with you doing that, but it makes reading your posts grating

If all you seem to know are junky/bummy negroes then that says just as much about you

Water seeks it's own level

 

[Sohh_lifted]

All in all, its everything but a relationship? Just say nah, I'm good. Why you shook?

 

[Carlton Banks]

Question for you... Are u just settling for her tho?
U might really like her and think she's attractive...
Or are u settle for her knowing she wouldn't be a hassle?
I don't know too many ppl who wanna actually be wit a 6...
I personally like 7's tho... Lol

She's not a 6. I just know the beauty standards are ridiculous these days, so to me she's a 8,9,10 depending on the look she goes with. But I know to the average nikka if she ain't a light skin redbone with a phat ass , double D titties, long hair down to her waist and a bunch of makeup then she's considered average or under 7.

It's not that she's not a hassle cuz she's ugly, cuz she's attractive. She's not a hassle because she doesn't care for the attention which was the point in my original post. Guys message her and try to talk to her all the time even without the makeup and her being all natural, but she doesn't entertain it. She got some big titties too, but she doesn't put emphasis on them in her wardrobe cuz again she's not looking for the attention that most of these other girls are. I'm "settling" cuz she's the right one for me and we compliment each other. Plus I know from being single for so long that there's nothing out here.

 

[xCivicx]

Well she is older than him for one and who cares when you grown? That's teenager shyt when your like don't look at my sister

Yeah a really good friend of mine has slick been tryna set me up with his sister for a minute now

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Yeah a really good friend of mine has slick been tryna set me up with his sister for a minute now

That’s a good friend

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

You seem to like passive aggressively disrespecting black men in your posts

I'm not sure why the brehs on here are cool with you doing that, but it makes reading your posts grating

If all you seem to know are junky/bummy negroes then that says just as much about you

Water seeks it's own level

You seem to take personal anecdotes and other people's life experiences very personally. I wonder if it's some type of hit dog hollering issue where you feel convicted b/c ur life parallels the dudes I describe or if you are merely hypersensitive about any negative experience someone may happen with a blk male.

Either way you need to grow up. I share real shyt and it resonates with people who have been in relationships b/c they understand that you will encounter some good and some bad in dating. There have also been posts where I've damn near approached synchophant levels in waxing poetic about the good men I've been with. But in a thread being real about men and women in relationships, you really need to stop throwing hissy fits every time you see something that doesn't reflect positively on your gender. You are a classic case of dishing it out but not being able to take it even as this entire thread has people sharing TONS of negative ancedotes about females, you don't see me in my feelings. It's called mature discourse and perspective.

Moreover, the last time we had a discussion you expressed a desire for us not to speak and yet you KEEP quoting me. For once, take ur own advice and stop eliciting conversation with me if my words trigger you THAT much.

This is getting tiresome.

 

[Phitz]

I remember a few years ago, I got home early from work due to an impending blizzard...there was probably about an inch or so sticking.

Hit up ol girl I was seeing to come through before the storm. She lived down the street so we could bear through it together

Bih comes talking about, "It looks so nice outside...we should go out to eat at X spot "

Me: ".. You joking, right? They are literally predicting over foot of snow outside."

Her: "But there's not that much out right now. I wanna walk out in the snow with you "

Me: "... I'm good "


Her: "And this is why ..."

Still smashed tho


But case in point, I agree OP...fukk all of that bullshyt planning. I'd have to really love her to compromise on that.

Snow is for snowballs, making snowmen and sledding, not going out to restaurants. Stuff you rarely get to do anymore. I get your point...totally.

 

[xCivicx]

You seem to take personal anecdotes and other people's life experiences very personally. I wonder if it's some type of hit dog hollering issue where you feel convicted b/c ur life parallels the dudes I describe or if you are merely hypersensitive about any negative experience someone may happen with a blk male.

Either way you need to grow up. I share real shyt and it resonates with people who have been in relationships b/c they understand that you will encounter some good and some bad in dating. There have also been posts where I've damn near approached synchophant levels in waxing poetic about the good men I've been with. But in a thread being real about men and women in relationships, you really need to stop throwing hissy fits every time you see something that doesn't reflect positively on your gender. You are a classic case of dishing it out but not being able to take it even as this entire thread has people sharing TONS of negative ancedotes about females, you don't see me in my feelings. It's called mature discourse and perspective.

Moreover, the last time we had a discussion you expressed a desire for us not to speak and yet you KEEP quoting me. For once, take ur own advice and stop eliciting conversation with me if my words trigger you THAT much.

This is getting tiresome.

Dont get mad because you exposed yourself

I told you to stop quoting me in that other thread because you werent saying anything

You just kept posting titangraphs trying to shame people that won't follow behind the fickle whims of females

The Male in here are at least taking responsibility for what they're doing with these females

Your long patronizing posts arent the same

You're constantly making overly wordy posts about how so and so dude didnt have his shyt together(even your dad, wtf) until you benevolently fixed them up

Yet you never speak on why you're constantly around dudes who dont have their shyt together in your patronizing posts

You must be pretty irritating to be around irl

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Dont get mad because you exposed yourself

I told you to stop quoting me in that other thread because you werent saying anything

You just kept posting titangraphs trying to shame people that won't follow behind the fickle whims of females

The Male in here are at least taking responsibility for what they're doing with these females

Your long patronizing posts arent the same

You're constantly making overly wordy posts about how so and so dude didnt have his shyt together(even your dad, wtf) until you benevolently fixed them up

Yet you never speak on why you're constantly around dudes who dont have their shyt together in your patronizing posts

You must be pretty irritating to be around irl

Who is angry? You always post emotionally and then passively aggressively can't handle the discussion and end up looking silly begging people not to respond to you when YOU are the one who initiated the conversation. There is a pattern with you.

This is a discussion about relationships and why sometimes they don't work. Either you have something to add of value or you don't. But getting mad and making this personally about me is so immature just b/c you in your feelings about a chick sharing real shyt about the way some dudes are. You are flailing and it's a bit pathetic. Gain some perspective, get over yourself, stop being so sensitive and unless you are EXACTLY like the dude I was describing, it shouldn't bother you. You low-key telling on yourself.

 

[Da_Eggman]

Even somthing you once enjoyed like going to the movies becomes a misery

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Sis... that can was my initial point....
nikkaz be getting in relationships only to regret be that shyt like a year or 2 later...
But again, like I said in my other post, men are scared of not having constant access to a neccessity like p*ssy...
Some nikkaz can't pull a new female every month.
So their droughts can be crazy

Hey I get it.

Men tend to get on my nerves too, if I’m around them too often, I feel like they invade my space.

The problem was that I’ve always been a relationship-only-sex type of girl, so for sex, I felt the need to be in a relationship.

That has changed in the last few months—and will continue on in 2019. Ive found satisfaction without being in a relationship and right now I’m content with it, and I feel for dudes that need to be in relationships to not go through those droughts. Lowkey, it’s funny how sex motivates a lot of relationships.

I do enjoy being in relationships when they’ve been with the right guys,
but even then, I found myself annoyed a lot too. I have hobbies and a life, and value my time immensely so I can understand where your coming from. Matter of fact, I’ve always said i’ll never live with a man again because of how annoying I found it(like ugh, I’m not trying to see you this much lmao)

But I’ll probably get into another one sometime soon.

It is what it is.

 

[Phitz]

I'm not a bytch ass who wants / needs a submissive female. I need an equal. I want a woman who knows what she wants to do, but has the situational awareness to know damn well that I don't wanna do that shyt and the wherewithal to do it on her own.

she can still be submissive as well as what you said. It's part of self awareness and situational awareness