Serious question for the married men on the coli...

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Choose well, do right, hope for the best.

I will say this.... I got luuuuuuuuuuccccccccccccckkkkkkkkkkkkkyyyyyyyyy. My wife and I started dating when I was 24 and she was 22. We got married when I was 28 or 29 I think. I'm 32 now. Things worked out but I think we got serious a little too young. I would tell the brehs to hold off on getting really serious until like 25-27 unless u think u found the one. Problem is when u are young u dont know what the fukk u want so it's often better not to choose.

I see a lot of couples who hate each other too. All that comes down to is people who choose the wrong person, and then are too scared/lazy/comfortable to call it off and start over. Especially once they are old and have kids. But people shouldn't even let it get that far. High key my parents have been married as long as I have been alive (they got married in March, I was born in September). I have been telling them to get divorced since I was 10 years old.... pretty much as soon as I learned divorce was even an option. But they say they stay together "for us kids" and all that horseshyt. Now my mom admits I was right but she was too scared to leave. So it is what it is. Point being people have to date, know what they want, know how to be in a relationship, choose properly and then go into it. Lot of people get married to the wrong people at the wrong time for the wrong reasons, and don't want to own up to their bad decisions. But that's what 99% of shytty marriages come down to.

The shyt's not always fun and games but that's life. I still think marriage is a good thing though and am glad to be married. Just like anything in life though you can't half ass it and expect it to go well.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Why do you suggest living together for 2-3 years before marriage? It's folks who say the opposite

What possible good reason could there be not to live with who you are going to marry, besides some religious bullshyt.

I would argue that moving in with someone you are dating is a bigger step than marriage. You can marry someone without knowing their financial situation or what they are like to live with. You can't move in with somebody and not find out how their money is or how much of a PITA they are to live with... not for 2-3 years.

 

[NoChillJones]

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Why do you suggest living together for 2-3 years before marriage? It's folks who say the opposite

Because you get to really know a person once you live with them. Which is what you want to know if your planning on marrying them. I mean you have the traditional folks that say don't live together until you get married. But that's bullshyt. You don't want to find out anything about your wife that didn't know prior to going into marriage. There may be some shyt she does that's a game changer.

I mean don't get me wrong, you get still get to know a person before you live with them, but as far as how responsible they are, how they pay bills, how they spend as opposed saving, how they go about cleaning up after themselves, hell they go about cleaning themselves. A lot of that type of stuff is kept behind closed doors, but when you live with a person there is really no secrets. Plus you get a chance to get all the arguing and the bullshyt out the way before you get married too. That's just my opinion though. Sure others have their say so on the matter as well. I say 2-3 years because by that time you pretty much should have the odds and ends of knowing the person your with. It takes time to really get to know people. Just saying give it time and get to know the person I got engaged in year 2, but we didn't get married until year 7. And we both agreed that it was for the best. We broke up so many times, but always came back together. And by the time we had gone 2 years without really have a bad fallen out and were pretty much connecting on cylinders we knew it was time.

 

[Elle Driver]

What possible good reason could there be not to live with who you are going to marry, besides some religious bullshyt.

I would argue that moving in with someone you are dating is a bigger step than marriage. You can marry someone without knowing their financial situation or what they are like to live with. You can't move in with somebody and not find out how their money is or how much of a PITA they are to live with... not for 2-3 years.

Maybe you just don't want to sign a lease and live with your s/o. I'm not against it, to me it was kind of necessary as a probationary period because I despise men who don't pick up after themselves.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Maybe you just don't want to sign a lease and live with your s/o.

I mean how serious can the relationship be if someone is reluctant to take that step

 

[malbaker86]

I recommend it if you find somebody that you really like and the key is, that you know you would still LOVE them through the ups and downs that's expected in a relationship.

When it comes to starting a family, I HIGHLY recommend waiting a few years after marriage before starting a family. We became official in 2007, moved in together the following year, got married in 2010, first child in 2013, twins last year. Give yourself time to be MARRIED.

Also, I do suggest living together before deciding if you want to propose to that person. That time is when you REALLLLY find out about somebody.

 

[AtomicUse]

You will always want some new p*ssy, it's inevitable. Ask yourself if it's worth the risk financially or emotionally to cheat on your wife?

You need to ask yourself that before you get married.

This is why you first make enough money to fully support yourself and then, marry someone who earns more than you so that youre insulated in case things go sour. For example, if I cheat on my wife and she files for divorce, she's going to be hoping to come out even, and furthermore if I wanted to be vindictive, I could shoot for compensation from her. I wouldn't go do that, but it's good insurance. Women learn this shyt early and act accortingly, but dudes still complain even though they get railroaded in court.

Marrying somebody because you "love them" is not a goodreason to get married to me. Love is an emotion, just like anger. People sitting injail 10 years cause they did something while they were angry. Ask them if they're still mad today and they'll likely tell you no. Ask people married 10 years if they still in love, they'll likely tell you no, but theyre hooked by the balls because they married out of love and not logic. You'll get fukked running off emotions out here if you don't cover your ass, because the courts dont deal with emotion, they deal with law.

Why don't men get this and apply it, I will never understand.

 

[benjamin]

I only recommend marriage if your woman


COOKS
CLEANS
AND OBEYS 90 PERCENT OF YOUR COMMANDS

I wouldn't have it any other way...people wonder how my marriage works, I tell em.....







































Because she do what I tell her to ....the most stress free women in this world are the women that have embraced submission to a man of means...I'm not talking about submitting to nae nae...but the young man with his act together that can support her..now all that's left is their emotions

 

[Mowgli]

I wouldn't have it any other way...people wonder how my marriage works, I tell em.....







































Because she do what I tell her to ....the most stress free women in this world are the women that have embraced submission to a man of means...I'm not talking about submitting to nae nae...but the young man with his act together that can support her..now all that's left is their emotions

I have no grey hair in my mid 30s. People ask me how

I say, don't ask me how

 

[benjamin]

I have no grey hair in my mid 30s. People ask me how

I say, don't ask me how

For me it's the continual nuts i bust on my wifes back that keeps the grey away.

 

[Lo-Co]

interesting. I honestly don't know how to feel about getting married. I feel like Im not great in relationships. I just don't get it.

 

[ultraflexed]

Married life is great but can be trying.
I never cheated.
The key is to never settle, marry the women that full fills your needs and wants in everyway, this way you don't have to go looking for it in someone else.

 

[Techniec]

Men, pick your battles with your woman, let her have her way 90% of the time, but draw a line on 10% that you will absolute not budge

You may be thinking, wait that's some simp shyt..but hold up

Of that 90% that she wants her way...half of that, you probably on the same tip...only half of that you feel like it should be your way

But be strategic, let her have her small victories, keep the major victories for yourself

Do not hassle or nitpick on her victories, she wont dare question you when you put your foot down

Example

"Babe, can ____ and _____ come over Friday, we wanna watch the Mindy show"
"Sure babe"
( I was kinda looking forward to coming home and running some of dat NBA2K15...but I can do that Sunday, Ill just stay behind at school )

"Babe Im too tired to make dinner tonite"
"No worries babe"
(I aint looking forward to a damn tuna sandwich for dinner but baby girl is tired, stall her out cuz )

"Babe my sister wants to borrow your car for...."

 

[NvrCMyNut]

Maybe I'm immature but I honestly think the #1 reason ppl get married is to secure regular, relatively safe unprotected sex.

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

Now I know there's this whole notion of GMB and HOH on this site, but that tends to come up when we read about a woman cheating on her man or one who takes all the money from him. My question is intended to "normal" married couples.

Do you recommend marriage? If you could back, would you still get married?

Not that I have a woman in my life. but the problem I have is almost every married couple I see seem "fed up". They argue over the dumbest things, constantly. They don't seem happy. Life is basically the same routine. They gotta wake up early to make lunches for the kid and drop them off at daycare, school, grandma, work etc. It seems there's nothing fun going on in the lives of the spouses. They don't got time for the movies, restaurant, vacation, get together with friends, etc. They're tired of life and just lay back at home. Just order the other one around to get milk and the diapers.

Not that I'm a super savage, but how do you wake up every morning for the rest of your life to the same woman? Both physically and emotionally? After a while she might fall off in looks, but importantly, 10, 15, 20 years from now... what are the chances she'll be the same person you chose to get married with?

Do you cheat on your wife or ever have?

Things that cross my mind.

look breh. marriage is for mature people. and this is coming from someone headed toward his 2nd divorce
you have to find someone compatible with you...vertically and horizontally...

tbh i'll probably get married again...what im looking for has to be out there....has to be