She Showed Up 10 Minutes Late to The Date

[Remote]

She would have ghosted him.. His choice.

Who cares what she would have done?

Why are there men here who want to base their actions on what women do?

People on this board talk about men being men and integrity and leading.

Same folks in here crying "she would have ghosted me too"
That's how yall roll? Engaging in female behavior before the female has a chance to do it to you?

Quite manly.

 

[Umoja]

Who cares what she would have done?

Why are there men here who want to base their actions on what women do?

People on this board talk about men being men and integrity and leading.

Same folks in here crying "she would have ghosted me too"
That's how yall roll? Engaging in female behavior before the female has a chance to do it to you?

Quite manly.

Reciprocation. Look it up.

Respect is a two way street. If people don't show you any respect, you should not have to show them any respect in return.

Doing so due to some misguided view on what makes a man is a sign of insecurity which kind of defeats your point.

 

[Secure Da Bag]

OP did you watch the video? She wasn’t 10 minutes late. She texted him at 6:10 stating she was on her way and pulled up at 6:50. Breh did the right thing and bounced, clear lack of respect on her part.

Thread should have ended right there.

 

[Remote]

Reciprocation. Look it up.

Respect is a two way street. If people don't show you any respect, you should not have to show them any respect in return.

Doing so due to some misguided view on what makes a man is a sign of insecurity which kind of defeats your point.

I think ghosting someone and not having the guts to explain why is insecure and cowardly.

So we are just going to disagree.

 

[GoFlipAPack]

I woulda had the meal if I'm sitting in a restaurant regardless of if they show up or not might as well make use of time spent
If they show up mid meal, I'm probably vibing off the good eats, possibly a good drink and will talk to them still

I find my contentness in myself, can't always base it on the actions of others

How tall are you?

 

[richaveli83]

He did the right thing. She clearly doesn't think much of him to disrespect his time like that.

 

[xiceman191]

I think ghosting someone and not having the guts to explain why is insecure and cowardly.

So we are just going to disagree.

If you agree to show up to a date at 6 pm and don't show until 6:50. Do you really need to question why you got ghosted? You know why don't try and play dumb. Like I ain't got to explain to you why you should show up on time and not 50 minutes late.

 

[Child_Of_God]

OP did you watch the video? She wasn’t 10 minutes late. She texted him at 6:10 stating she was on her way and pulled up at 6:50. Breh did the right thing and bounced, clear lack of respect on her part.

Wow, that’s even worse. totally inconsiderate and disrespectful on her part. Dude dodged a bullet for sure.

 

[Umoja]

I think ghosting someone and not having the guts to explain why is insecure and cowardly.

So we are just going to disagree.

Why is an explanation required? If you let someone know you're running late after missing the scheduled time, what explanation do you need when they cut contact?

Guts has nothing to do with it. The easy thing to do in that situation would be to vent. Maturity is recognising that it serves no purpose other than to stroke their ego and provide them with material to spin.

 

[TheNig]

I'm not saying the reason matters. What I'm pointing out is that when you communicate with people, you're giving them more material to spin a narrative that works in their favour.

You leave and call someone inconsiderate, that is going to get spun into a story of you showing hostility for a perfectly sympathetic reason. Messages can get shown to people outside of context. You can get roped into an argument if you're not prepared to just dead things.

Walking away circumvent all of that. The person knows exactly why they were cut off and, as evidenced by the video posted, there's no wiggle room for them to create a story where you're the aggressor.

I get it but you can also just leave a short message like "You were late, so I left ".

Can't really spin that. It is what it is.

 

[Remote]

If you agree to show up to a date at 6 pm and don't show until 6:50. Do you really need to question why you got ghosted? You know why don't try and play dumb. Like I ain't got to explain to you why you should show up on time and not 50 minutes late.

Ok

 

[Scaaar]

I'm a big stickler for time since it's one of the few things we can't get back. I typically show up 10-15 mins early to a date. But if it's the first date I'll give a 10 min grace period if you text before the scheduled time anything after I feel like they're playing and I'll leave. One chic literally hit me up at the scheduled time and told me she was gonna be 30 mins late and tried to argue me down when I told her don't worry about it and I was going to do something else. If you let a person slide with minor infractions from the jump they'll continually line step throughout your time with them.

 

[Remote]

Why is an explanation required? If you let someone know you're running late after missing the scheduled time, what explanation do you need when they cut contact?

Guts has nothing to do with it. The easy thing to do in that situation would be to vent. Maturity is recognising that it serves no purpose other than to stroke their ego and provide them with material to spin.

If you don't want to tell someone why they are disrespectful and why you're moving on, that's you.
My position in this thread is very clear across many posts now.

We just disagree.

 

[Scaaar]

Exactly I take wasting my time as disrespect because I could been doing something else.

True is, if something is important like a job interview or something you really want to do, you're not going be late.

If you're the type of person to be late, that's not the type of person that I vibe wit either.

I never understood people who deliberately are late to everything. That literally has to take effort or you're just that poor with time management. People brag about it too like it's a badge of honor. Chics love doing it and I tell all brehs that it's a $hit test... Don't fall for it.. they're testing you to see how much they can get away with. Don't be a sucka out here....

 

[Smokin Rider]

She said on her way at 6:10 I would have dipped too