Should Men Always -- Or Even Usually -- Pay For Dates?

[philmonroe]

Women will take you out and spend money on you if they are feeling you. Yall just gotta learn to read women better so not to waste your time and money on a chick that's not really into you. As a man you should always be in control of the relationship. She should be the one pursuing you. If not step your game up. If there is one lesson to know about women is that when they really want a guy they go after him. Save yourself a lot a headache and money brehs.

What I think the problem is some dudes don't bring enough to the table to have women competing for them and or they are punching way above their weight class so they have to overcompensate to compete.

 

[Zero]

nikkaz wont even spend 50 bucks on a birthday gift for mommy or grandma, but will hand over that cash for a chick who doesn't even care about em and has 3 other dates lined up that week

What exactly are you basing this on? :jbhmmm:

 

[At30wecashout]

What I think the problem is some dudes don't bring enough to the table to have women competing for them and or they are punching way above their weight class so they have to overcompensate to compete.

Bingo.

If a man gets his shyt together and becomes worth something, he gets to choose, and girls will switch their style up
to get his attention.

 

[kevm3]

Women always talk about that, "Whoever asks should pay," but they never do the asking.

What I believe is, if she carries herself in a classy manner and BELIEVES IN and PRACTICES traditionalism, then sure, pay away. If she doesn't want to even associate you without you spending some kind of money on her, then no, don't pay. Don't even associate with her. If she's one of these modern feminists who talk all that equality rah rah, but then wants you to pay, nah we cool on that.

I have zero problems paying for a woman who doesn't mind me cooking and in a woman who isn't known for 'chilling' with whatever swagboy and getting that thang knocked out and then coming out looking for a free meal.

 

[philmonroe]

Bingo.

If a man gets his shyt together and becomes worth something, he gets to choose, and girls will switch their style up
to get his attention.

Exactly that's why you see chicks going wild for athletes, famous, rich, powerful dudes. That's why dudes need to focus on getting their life right before worrying about girls cause once you get your life right (not even 1% top male status) girls will be choosing/trying to get attention like crazy. The above was extreme examples but regular dudes can mimic certain parts of their success wherever they are at by working to be and becoming the best person they can be

 

[At30wecashout]

Women always talk about that, "Whoever asks should pay," but they never do the asking.

Thats the slick part. Position yourself to be asked, but never ask. Im 100% positive that as much as us brothas miss out
on good women by psyching ourselves out and not speaking up, women pass up way more potentially positive relationships
by keeping quiet.

Lord knows I have looked at and spoken to chicks that were really dope and thought "She probably has a man. Time to fall back."

 

[kevm3]

I'm into traditionalism, so I have no problems paying for a date, but only for a woman that is into traditionalism as well and is WORTHY of being paid for.

If a woman has no interest in holding a conversation with me and getting to know me in whatever setting just to know me, then no, I'm not paying.

If a woman thinks I'm some kind of free meal, no I'm not paying.

If she doesn't believe in cooking for her man or starts coming with that independent woman this and that rhetoric, no I'm not paying.

If she's constantly in the club and known for getting one-nighted, then no I'm not paying.

If she is known for dealing with guys with no qualms and no demands for dinners and gets the notion that I'm a guy that she can charge for a meal because she thinks I'm a sucker, no, I'm not paying. I'm not dealing with that PERIOD.

A classy woman that does things the fair way and has actually shown that she is interested in me for me prior to us going out? Sure. No problem paying.

The reason why dating sucks so much now is everybody is some two-bit hustler trying to 'come up' or 'get over' on someone else. People are too focused on coming out ahead to be able to thump their chest on some ego purposes as opposed to genuinely wanting to get to know and deal with someone you're interested in. I'm not here to hustle or finesse a woman and try to get away as cheap as possible, but I certainly won't allow a woman to attempt to finesse me and come away with some freebies and toss me to the curb. It's all about two genuine people coming together, and for a woman that is genuine and classy, I will pay.

 

[MikelArteta]

If your about substance and loyalty this means nothing.

Status, money, a nice car will never get you a good for woman of character

Dudes still thinking a surplus of quality woman will be there at the end because of your life being "right"

You can be in the top 1% and still get screwed over whole the dude working at Walmart 40hours will get loyalty till death

There is never a perfect timing for a good woman to enter your life

Anything you do in life should be to invest in yourself

Exactly that's why you see chicks going wild for athletes, famous, rich, powerful dudes. That's why dudes need to focus on getting their life right before worrying about girls cause once you get your life right (not even 1% top male status) girls will be choosing/trying to get attention like crazy. The above was extreme examples but regular dudes can mimic certain parts of their success wherever they are at by working to be and becoming the best person they can be

 

[beanz]

im a throwback so i cant even imagine not paying for a first date.

 

[MikelArteta]

No wonder black women make horrible decisions in choosing a man, even a pos nukka trying to get in your pants will take on a chameleon role but you'll fall for it.



That's our teethot

I see it like this. If paying for dates is too much for him then is paying bills to much for him? Is he ever going to do special things for me? is he selfish? Should a man be paying for dates has only came into question in this generation because men are cheap and want everything from a woman for nothing. Your parents, grandparents, and great grandparents all knew that men should be paying for the dates but you 2010s men seem so overwhelmed with it. The bottom line is that there are gender roles. Men are expected to dish out more financial just like a woman is expected to do the most raising the kids and cooking and cleaning.

and yes what I said was opinionated.

 

[MikelArteta]

The hell at this step up

Women only want to be traditional when it suits them.

Christ...men step up. In no way shape or form a woman should pay for any part of a date.

Let's be adults here!!!!!

 

[Colicat]

He pays....

If he is tight on money, I give suggestions on inexpensive or free stuff we can do (Outside of the damn house )... The goal is to get to know him... And spending time is more important than spending money

 

[MikelArteta]

Men continue to lose, rolling out the red carpet and going all out like there taking a dignitary out for dinner. Like the woman is the prize and they are so honored to get this chance and opportunity to impress her. Pathetic.

While in essence more than likely she has a few other dinner dates lined up for the week, has ten dudes orbiting in her circle, If I wanted to pay for someone's time I might as well get a hooker.

 

[MikelArteta]

So he has to pay to get to know you and you don't have to psy to get to know him

He pays....

If he is tight on money, I give suggestions on inexpensive or free stuff we can do (Outside of the damn house )... The goal is to get to know him... And spending time is more important than spending money

 

[Colicat]

Men continue to lose, rolling out the red carpet and going all out like there taking a dignitary out for dinner. Like the woman is the prize and they are so honored to get this chance and opportunity to impress her. Pathetic.

While in essence more than likely she has a few other dinner dates lined up for the week, has ten dudes orbiting in her circle, If I wanted to pay for someone's time I might as well get a hooker.

Long story short, you are bitter and full of shyt