So fellas, the ladies wondering why ya'll aren't settling down for them. -Essence Mag

[Stuntone]

You lack ambition and you don't know how to manage.

No lack of ambition? I'm already paid, don't need a woman's money. I need a cool, comforting, pillow like woman that knows how to keep a peaceful home. Not a woman that following male queues that thinks that makes them desirable to men.

Strong = Combative. I'll pass.

 

[Stuntone]

I think we need to get the feedback of esteemed black women expert Tommy Sotomayor

 

[Stuntone]

Truth is, Black Women have been raised to be independent = alone. To be the Mother/Father and Leader of the family. It's hard for them to trust a man to lead them.

These attributes aren't not attractive to men that were raised to be leaders of a family.

 

[freetroit]

I think one solution is to encourage young women to be open to dating older men

I say that because i think older men would be more open to the idea of marriage if they could marry a women in her early to mid twenties because they will be prettier and have less baggage

I think older men would be willing to trade in their womanizing ways if they had a marriage minded hot piece of ass at home

But women tend to want to do other things in their twenties other than settle down with an older black man

But both parties get what they want in this arrangement

But i already know women are going to hate on this concept because older women will not concede the older more established men to younger women

It just will not happen but i believe the black community can increase the marriage rate if this concept was generally encouraged

 

[Ashley Banks]

Nah. Not on this topic. I am gonna get my money up and do the thang, but the stuff I want to do has more to do with me and less with, excuse my french, p*ssy.

I've been single all my life so I can imagine being single is much more fun when you have moneyThat don't mean I don't understand the plight of these women.

My mom is about 50 and she living that shytShe has met quality men a few times, but yea, they typically JUST came into their own and aren't in a space to settle down.

The opposite end is a lot of the men that step up to talk to her are really of the aint shyt variety. I know she likes her freedom, but a few years ago she thought she was gonna be married

I just see how she would much rather be living out her days with a dude than being in this limbo of dwindling prospects of men of means, but a never ending stream of dusty dudes who would consider

a single mother of quite a few children a comeup. Honestly, some of her missteps were the same that these women made, and I can already tell its gets MUCH harder for a woman as she gets older.

I'd say it's the same. but what do i know

 

[At30wecashout]

Yes

You are too young to fret. Trust me. You are (no simp) beautiful and virginal. When I was that young, I was looking for "My lady" when I clearly should have focused elsewhere.
People were fukking and fighting and doing way too much...you basically will be thrust into that mess unless you date someone slightly older, or get lucky and find you an even cat who ain't
on that mess.

You also have to have an idea of what a "good" man is, but don't subconsciously put a list of requirements that only Jesus can fulfill. My #1 suggestion would be to always search for something new.
Take a pottery class one day. The next month, hit a salsa class. Then maybe a salsa club. Then take a free tech workshop at a community college. Do a cancer walk (I've done 6).

Basically, get to know who you are, and a lot of that comes with knowing what you don't like and filling that with things you do like. You may be interested in a book smart brotha
with quick wit, but you might also find a more street wise, hush toned guy who will check most of the boxes at a craft fair. Just do new, fun things, and you meet people like mad, fam.
This is experience talking. Also, don't take people with you to most things. When you take your friends, you typically get pulled in directions you didn't want to, completely negating
your ability to be "seen" by guys walking around. Finding comfort in yourself and trying new things inevitably gives you way more options. Just don't get jaded and bent outta shape like
folks like me. You'll be aiight.

 

[At30wecashout]

I'd say it's the same. but what do i know

It might be, but the reality is if an older man want's kids (40 something male, for instance) , if he has the means, he can definitely scoop a 30 something woman
and drop seed on the regular. It depends on what folks want, and what your habits typically are. By the time you are 50, your patience for nonsense is probably at
zero, so even potential partners can get tossed to the bushes when they act up. Its not easy for anybody, but relationships have weird dynamic flips for the genders
as the years go by. Thats all I am saying.

 

[Aceofspades404]

Get with a white dude

Seems like a viable option
@At30wecashout you didn't go along with my trolling

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

To be honest the women they described who felt like the everyday hardworking men are inferior to them and then they feel inferior to some men need to sit down and reevaluate their lives. They should not be in a relationship with any man, because it will be pure hell to be with someone who feels as if you are inferior to them. They need to ask themselves if they are a great catch themselves.

I was skeptical but they addressed that on the 4th or 5th question.

 

[At30wecashout]

Seems like a viable option
@At30wecashout you didn't go along with my trolling

I broke character cause of Ladysimone. My bad. I thought you were genuinely asking.

 

[Ain't That Something]

Seems like a viable option
@At30wecashout you didn't go along with my trolling

As long as you happy ma

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

I'll tell you this much, these clients are still getting fukked. You can bet that.

 

[iBrowse]

most blk women with these "build an ultimate nikka, i have standards" demands, always mostly end up with a 5'5 goofy cracka with a beer gut, small dikk, and a reversible hairline, talking about she found true love..

Sorry but

 

[Mr.Plan B]

It's crazy but my cousin was a playa who looked like a Trey Songz type. The only dude who would get the chicks I usually get when I am with a group of brehs from me. He was getting his car keyed and all types of shyt. He decided it was time to find someone. Met this girl. He was working as a Pharmacy Tech. Wasn't in college and they had a child. I used to come to his apartment and give him money to pay his bills since I had some decent change at the time. He was 23 and she was 22 at the time. They got married. Had another kid.

He did sales. Did great in sales. They sent him to Mexico and she came with him. Trained them up. Then came back to Atlanta and now is a Director at the age of 29 years old. A made nikka. But when he didn't have any money and was asking me for cash, times was hard. Sometimes women don't want to go through the struggle especially when they feel they made it. It's a real issue and something that they don't want to acknowledge but as men, we know if you coming to us when we hot, we aren't as responsive as when we are down. They want a hot nikka but don't realize how us men think. My cousin realize this and got her a breh who is in school to be lawyer. Smart respectful brotha. Makes me proud brotha. He doesn't make any money but she holds him down as she's a doctor and he's holds her down. I helped her navigate with him in the beginning and he's the best man to her. He's going to be a lawyer soon and well paid as well. She helps him as she can. That's real love.

Sometimes women gotta look at the overall package and not just what is in the resume.

Truth shyt.

 

[iBrowse]

I'm mad as hell it took 115 posts for Simone to find this thread