So fellas, the ladies wondering why ya'll aren't settling down for them. -Essence Mag

[Art Barr]

These females are perfect examples of non-committal types.


Art Barr

 

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ESSENCE.COM: Do you feel Black women and men are too particular when it comes to potential dating candidates?
FISHER: We found that as opposed to the White clients that we’ve had, Black women are usually looking for physical attributes first. We look for someone who is attractive to us and then we pick up on his hobbies, interests and values. Whereas, White clients are looking for the reverse first. What kind of job does he have? Is he going to be able to provide?Then they circle back.

GILMORE: We’re the first ones to look at men's bodies and how attractive they are whereas our White clients have a long list of requirements of things like character and integrity...

FISHER: ...and, then down the line, it backfires for us because you were never a compatible mix to start with.

ESSENCE.COM: Do Black women have realistic dating pool expectations?
GILMORE: We have clients that have a long laundry list of requirements—6 foot 4, with a Ph.D., never been married, no children, in his late 30s or early 40s—and a lot of times we then ask them, well, what are you bringing to the table? And, the answer is nowhere near all that. Why would you expect someone to have more than what you’re offering?


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This article is jokes. The entitlement

 

[VFib]

Boyfriends.


Vfib, you out here trying to make a straight man out of a .

Girl you ain't have to go against the grain like that.

No, sir. I'm just saying. Men A will diss a woman to hug up and take man selfies with their friends B and C at the club, when, given the chance, Friends B and C would diss that same friend A to hang out with a woman.

 

[Knuckles Red]

you gonna have to do better than that, alot of us start off late due to poor parenting and no male influences. you gotta do more than the rush Limbaugh approach to black males. and negged BTW

Yeah, this thread reeks of fatherlessness. I have to remind myself that from time to time--that there are so many dudes here trying to get down the basics of being a mature adult male because they didn't

have fathers to show them the way.

 

[At30wecashout]

No, sir. I'm just saying. Men A will diss a woman to hug up and take man selfies with their friends B and C at the club, when, given the chance, Friends B and C would diss that same friend A to hang out with a woman.

1. I was kidding. Banter with me, fam.
2. I'm confused by what you said.

Edit: Now I got it. But I that isn't that whats the wave now? "Curving" folks for sport? I'm not gonna say that women do that too. That isn't relevant.

Maybe man A just wasn't that interested, though.

 

[Scott Larock]

Yeah, this thread reeks of fatherlessness. I have to remind myself that from time to time--that there are so many dudes here trying to get down the basics of being a mature adult male because they didn't

have fathers to show them the way.

and instead of bashing it, do something positive, your style reeks of citydata political cacs talking shyt.

 

[Canon]

Because at the end of the day, it in no way, shape or form benefits a man to settle down with the majority of these chicks.

Pretty fukking much there are zero benefits in it for me at his point

im all about me

 

[Max Power]

Never met a good black woman with any problems finding a man. Those struggling are either:

• Ugly as fukk
• Thots in denial
• in denial
• Have unresolved father issues.

Tell me I'm lying. Just look at this place.

 

[BigMan]

I think its both women and men have too high standards

 

[Knuckles Red]

and instead of bashing it, do something positive, your style reeks of citydata political cacs talking shyt.

Interesting that you overlooked all these other comments with dudes calling black women: ugly, fat, entitled, and having too high of standards to reply to my comments bytching about how I'm bashing

fatherlessness. Fatherlessness is a cancer that should be shamed.

 

[VFib]

1. I was kidding. Banter with me, fam.
2. I'm confused by what you said.

Edit: Now I got it. But I that isn't that whats the wave now? "Curving" folks for sport? I'm not gonna say that women do that too. That isn't relevant.

Maybe man A just wasn't that interested, though.

Maybe, or maybe he's too busy trying to front for his boys. Seem cool. All that dumb shyt that people do for other people rather then themselves.

Bottom line: In my opinion, people make dating too difficult and stressful for themselves. Men and woman. They follow games and rules to make someone more interested instead of being themselves and bushing anyone who won't accept them. They stay in relationships longer than necessary. They sleep with people they shouldn't. I know someone who is paying child support to someone he didn't even like as a person. No pity for him. They seek out and make threads about people who aren't interested in them instead of looking at the people who are. Or hell, looking at themselves for improvement, so that they CAN attract more of what they want.

Many people don't want to date someone who looks like them, but expect people from the opposite sex to date them. You feel like you would be setting when dating someone who looks like you, but want someone else to settle for you? How Sway? Both MEN and WOMEN do this.

I have no comment on the article itself, as most of my circle are in relationships, engaged or married.

 

[JBoy]

I would hope a magazine like Essence would do better than to run tired tropes on Black relationships but the media ain't shyt most of the time so

 

[At30wecashout]

Maybe, or maybe he's too busy trying to front for his boys. Seem cool. All that dumb shyt that people do for other people rather then themselves.

Bottom line: In my opinion, people make dating too difficult and stressful for themselves. Men and woman. They follow games and rules to make someone more interested instead of being themselves and bushing anyone who won't accept them. They stay in relationships longer than necessary. They sleep with people they shouldn't. I know someone who is paying child support to someone he didn't even like as a person. No pity for him. They seek out and make threads about people who aren't interested in them instead of looking at the people who are. Or hell, looking at themselves for improvement, so that they CAN attract more of what they want.

Many people don't want to date someone who looks like them, but expect people from the opposite sex to date them. You feel like you would be setting when dating someone who looks like you, but want someone else to settle for you? How Sway? Both MEN and WOMEN do this.

I have no comment on the article itself, as most of my circle are in relationships, engaged or married.

Girl you preaching to the choir. Thats partially why my ass been outta the game for 6 years. Dating is a fukking job, and it sucks cause it doesn't even pay.

 

[hatechall]

Some men think the same. shyt, read this site. "I have a degree, make money, my own place and car but all these HOES and THOTS do is date thugs. No one wants a NICE GUY".

It's not just women who think their material possessions entitle them to someone "attractive".

That's what men are supposed to think, no?

Men are evaluated based on their social status, so things like degrees, money and cars should give them a leg up in the dating market. The problem with AA women is that they think like men.

 

[MarloStanTrill]

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RULE 101: fukk what WOMEN SAY THEY WANT