So fellas, the ladies wondering why ya'll aren't settling down for them. -Essence Mag

[ORDER_66]

ESSENCE.COM: Do Black women have realistic dating pool expectations?
GILMORE: We have clients that have a long laundry list of requirements—6 foot 4, with a Ph.D., never been married, no children, in his late 30s or early 40s—and a lot of times we then ask them, well, what are you bringing to the table? And, the answer is nowhere near all that. Why would you expect someone to have more than what you’re offering?

 

[#1 pick]

I think serious relationships are for your later years those last couple of decades you got left when the women are done chasing after money and men done chasing after looks and you can like someone for who they really are and die old together

I disagree. Serious relationships can be had at any age. For both of the sexes.

 

[Poitier]

Its a mental disorder, I swear

 

[Medicate]

That ain't them. I just searched beautiful sistas on Google to find the avg educated Black women with extremely high standards. On average, they look like the girls I posted. Very pretty dark one. A educated looking light skin woman. The MAC and hair layed sista who dated a college hooper from her college days talking that she want a 6'5 big dikk nikka who's loyal, attractive, educated and paid.

This mindset here will continue to be a downfall one way or the other.....

 

[Stuntone]

I wish the interviewer would actually ask tough questions and tell the truth to these women.




Interviewer: "So what benefit does a man have marry you over another race of woman?"
Sistas: "Well I'm a strong Black woman, I have a degree and a career.


Interview: " You just aren't that fly to be so demanding and entitled. The men your desire can get a woman 10 years younger, less demanding, looks better with less mileage and baggage than you. Why would he choose you?

 

[#1 pick]

Its a mental disorder, I swear

The whole fukking thing is a mental disorder. Blacks are sick and it's like no one cares because it was meant to be this way. Cacs gotta go. They have to go.

 

[EffYou]

"We keep hearing it more and more so there has to be some validity to the statement"


Dumb motherfcker that just means more and more hoes are under the sickness

 

[J-Nice]

ESSENCE.COM: Do you feel Black women and men are too particular when it comes to potential dating candidates?
FISHER: We found that as opposed to the White clients that we’ve had, Black women are usually looking for physical attributes first. We look for someone who is attractive to us and then we pick up on his hobbies, interests and values. Whereas, White clients are looking for the reverse first. What kind of job does he have? Is he going to be able to provide?Then they circle back.

GILMORE: We’re the first ones to look at men's bodies and how attractive they are whereas our White clients have a long list of requirements of things like character and integrity...

FISHER: ...and, then down the line, it backfires for us because you were never a compatible mix to start with.

They kinda ether'd themselves with this bit

 

[At30wecashout]

Dammit, thread is already going left. Come on, yall.

 

[#1 pick]

I wonder if this thread will turn into a bunch of pathetic lames shytting on black women?

Your free to leave your opinion on the article. You do not have to attack anyone in the process to do so.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

The main reason is they're not worth getting in a relationship with. Most these broads think a fat ass and a communications degree make them the pick of the litter

 

[Stuntone]

In my opinion I hear a lot f African American women who say, "they don't want to settle" which is perfectly fine but at some point you have to realize that the same elite 10% of men you're looking for have a vast amount of women to choose from.

On the contrary a lot of African Americans men are willing to sleep with a lot of low quality women and have multiple children with multiple partners. Some would rather get the easy lay up rather than finding a quality woman.

I also think that a lot of the stats are skewed, I don't think it's that difficult to find a good person you just have to adjust and adapt and many people aren't willing to do that. They make it hard upon themselves.

I hope more African American couples can find happiness though that would be smooth.

You and most people don't understand what settling is. If you desire a 6'6 engineer, but the best you've date was a fat cab driver, a fat bus driver isn't settling. That's the best you can do. These women have never had the type of men they desire.

 

[Poitier]

Because at the end of the day, it in no way, shape or form benefits a man to settle down with the majority of these chicks.

It would for blue collar BM but these women are using material measures to call those men inferior.

 

[#1 pick]

The main reason is they're not worth getting in a relationship with. Most these broads think a fat ass and a communications degree make them the pick of the litter

I can be truthful, a lot of these women have A LOT more than a communications degree. Maybe a lot is too much of a strong word but there are quite a few truly successful career women but as we men know. Career success don't equal freedom.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

Yes, and those men have so many choices thatthey’re not paying much attention to trying to settle down. And, then if they want to go and meet a regular, everyday, hardworking man, for some reason, these women feel those men are inferior to them. So no matter what they feel like they’re in a really tough place.

There's the problem. They want men out there league.