So fellas, the ladies wondering why ya'll aren't settling down for them. -Essence Mag

[Elle Driver]

Yep. Modern society has everything twisted up and it has tried to reverse the gender roles. Most men are not looking for 'women providers' who make a ton of money, just like most women aren't looking for homemaking men who primarily spend the day cleaning, cooking and being nurturing. She'll call that dude feminine and be repulsed.

True. And also, some women feel the need to control through finances and some men aren't comfortable with the idea of their wives being home makers and not working. Tryna have they cake and eat it too I guess.

 

[Colicat]

All men aren't saying this, though. Seems like I only hear bitter men saying shyt like this. I try not to feed into stereotypes, and I've never met these stuck up

black women with ridiculous standards that so many dudes here bytch and complain about. If we're going to shyt on black women by feeding into stereotypes perpetuated by the media, then we can't

complain when racist white people do the same thing.

This

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Shocking!

Black women are the most shallow of all women! They'll get knocked up by a nikka just because he has pretty eyes and then complain when they find out down the road that he has poor character!

Misguided mate selection on the part of Black women has crippled the next generation of Black children.

I was skeptical but I respect this piece because it took some accountability. Like "hey! We black women are fukking up."

 

[Mr.Plan B]

This is what the person you're responding to looks like.

If her recent posts are any indication, she's three to six months away from killing herself.
Every response doesn't warrant a short story bruh, and there's nothing about said posters spiel, and they're damn sure not "playing" with you.
Recognize when someone is spitting in your face.
Why some of you waste time entertaining blatant trolls is baffling.

So this the chick that be talking down on us brothers so much.

 

[Gold]

With everything that has been said, how many people are really and truly out there having issues dating?

I just feel like the majority of the coli has probably had at least one good relationship.

I just don't buy that it's ever as bad as both sexes want to make it out to be

 

[richaveli83]

This entitlement generation is something else. Men and women (especially) got this mentality thinking because they have a college degree, a bunch of certs, some professional career, making $60,000+ that their entitled to a marriage. You never hear them when asked about the mate they're looking for about his character, morals, personality, etc. It's all about how much money he's making and other superficial stuff.

 

[The Mad Titan]

Sometimes I think some of the black people on this site aren't really around black people that much or haven't been in a long long time.

 

[YeLovesBoston]

So every Coli nikka making so much money and balling out too much to think about dating?

 

[YeLovesBoston]

I don't mind these kind of women. I had several sugar mommas in college and hardly had to pay for shyt.

 

[Paradise]

Come back

I would rub you down in the sunset in your avi

I really don't like to participate in threads like this anymore.

But I can say this. Everyone has standards and expectations. Some women's expectations are are simple and easily met and some women want way too damn much. Same thing goes for men.

Women these days are the "I'm independent and I don't need a man to take care of me." It's good that she can care for herself, but no man is gonna want a women that is too independent. Because everyone wants to know that they are need...

I have friends male and female that say I need this, this, and that for me to even consider talking to a potential mate. They wonder why they are still single. Sometimes you just have to step back and think are the things I'm looking for really worth being lonely because I'm being picky.

I see all of these stupid videos of women saying all you gotta do is "feed and fukk" the man. If that's all it takes to get a quality mate we all should have droves of men lined up.

It takes more than having a banging body, money, a degree, a good job and a nice house to get a quality mate. It may draw them in... but if they are not genuinely interested in you all that stuff won't keep them there.

 

[kevm3]

True. And also, some women feel the need to control through finances and some men aren't comfortable with the idea of their wives being home makers and not working. Tryna have they cake and eat it too I guess.

A lot of this has been carefully calculated and pushed by society to break up the family structure. Men and women should NOT be competing with each other, nor should any of them be 'career-oriented.' I believe the man should take the majority of the financial responsibilities,while the woman should nurture her man. That's not to say that she's not bringing in her own money, but things work better when there are clearly defined roles. It's clear as day that women are not satisfied with feminized men who are comfortable letting her pay all the bills, nor are men satisfied with masculine women who want to run everything and who focus their lives to being corporate drones. It really starts to show when everyone gets older and they don't have a family to pass all of that wealth they are generating to.

At the end of the day, both the man and the woman should be family oriented over career oriented. A man needs to do whatever it takes to make sure his family is fine and a woman should do the same. This notion that men and women need to compete over who makes the most money and have power struggles over 'who the boss is' of the house is insane. As I get older, it gets more and more difficult for me to understand people who dedicate their lives to making obscene profits for corporations while they throw you back a minute portion of the money you are generating for them and are willing to fire you at any time. Make your money, but family comes way before that and everybody has to play their role. Men need to be men and women need to be women. That's the only way things are going to go back to being sane.

 

[kevm3]

Also, this isn't only happening in the black community with black women. Look at Japan with herbivore men, and here in America, white boys have movements like mgtow. Men in those movements are literally avoiding women because society has been so effective at driving a wedge between men and women.

 

[Taadow]

Men don't care about a woman's financial prospects because traditionally the man is the (financial) provider.

That's part of it, here's the rest:

- fucc "prospects", men like to deal with financial "realities".

- a man with sense knows that financial chit can change on a dime (don't ask me how), so he is more
concerned with if a woman who is down for him when/if their financial reality changes.

 

[Taadow]

Also, this isn't only happening in the black community with black women. Look at Japan with herbivore men, and here in America, white boys have movements like mgtow. Men in those movements are literally avoiding women because society has been so effective at driving a wedge between men and women.

Cuzz, you're wasting your breath.

Most people in the world are experiencing the same issues we are, but I've learned that folks on here
willingly don't really notice global problems until they become chocolate coated.

 

[Larry Lambo]

The reality is that the women that this article is referring to, are women that high level professional brothers don't want.

If they were so desirable, somebody would have already scooped that up.

The matchmaking service is basically tempering these women's expectations, because they can't do it on their own. They want elite corporate dudes, but elite corporate dudes don't want them. I'd wager that the men they are setting these women up with either don't meet their physical or financial requirements. But they are the men that would be interested in them. Once you pay your money to be in a matchmaking service you tend to settle as to not waste your money.