So Men Are Supposed To Support A Lifestyle A Woman Created For Herself?

[ajnapoleon]

This is the exact reason I cut my 46 year old Philly bird off yesterday morning.


All she talked about is going out, trips, etc etc…

But when it came to little shyt I asked her for, she didn’t do it and I had to remind her. AND THE BIITCH STILL didn’t do it.

It really came down to her being extremely selfish and self centered. I’m noticing these older hoes be mad delusional about their value in the game as well.

This is why



This is all they look at


How dare you not give her this life style

 

[O.T.I.S.]

I mean, she's kinda right at the end of the day. I just think she said it wrong.

The way i see it, some women expect you to trick on them. And then some dudes try to date these women but don't want to trick. And then the dudes complain. What she's saying is, find a woman that aligns with your values and lifestyle. That's hardly controversial.

Sometimes its not what you say but how you say it


If she had brought this kind of logic and energy to social media, youre right, it wouldn’t be as controversial.

But she didn’t. Whether done purposely or not, she did it to try to chastise and belittle nikkas.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

The only reason black women are constantly talking about this is because men with resources by and large are not choosing black women for relationships.

If they were, they wouldn’t feel the need to lecture about it all day, every day.

Obviously, the men looking to date them make the same as them, less than them, or nothing at all.

Now if you’re a serious person you’d ask WHY THAT IS THE CASE instead of shaming the only men who are even considering taking you seriously.

You’d also ask why black women feel the need to brag about their lifestyles and advertise THAT instead of advertising the qualities that would make them more attractive like being nice, caring, loving, nurturing, a good listener, physically fit, patient, etc.

It’s always HERE IS WHAT I GOT nikka CAN YOU MAKE IT EVEN BETTER FOR ME!

Honestly, black women don’t realize how they look to everyone that isn’t a black woman. Most people know why black women struggle with dating but black women think it’s everyone else’s fault. It’s sad really.

I wonder why though

Spoiler

Warning: I do not believe this to be true

 

[Scaaar]

You’d wish but all she gotta do is post a thirst trap pic/video and nikkas will be leaving comments that would make their fathers come back from getting cigarettes when they were kids just to beat some sense into them

It's the same brehs that swear they're HOH also the same ones that be in those comments gassing them up and sending them money just because hoping they get acknowledged

 

[Uachet]

I wonder why though

Spoiler

Warning: I do not believe this to be true

It is not true. I have shown on this very website that as Black men make more, we marry Black more. It is actually Black women who marry out more, as they make more. So that narrative she pushed is not what is happening. Instead, what is happening is that men overall are not marrying women at a rate they use to. That is all resources levels.

 

[DonRe]

The hoes she mentioned are below my standard then. Talking bout expensive gifts and vacation packages. Is that suppose to be classy? A flex?

Talk to me about owning your home. Owning your business. Investment portfolios.

A bird thinking she fly because she paid 6k for a handbag but rents a one bedroom. fukk outta here

 

[Uachet]

The hoes she mentioned are below my standard then. Talking bout expensive gifts and vacation packages. Is that suppose to be classy? A flex?

Talk to me about owning your home. Owning your business. Investment portfolios.

A bird thinking she fly because she paid 6k for a handbag but rents a one bedroom. fukk outta here

 

[Turbulent]

Sometimes its not what you say but how you say it


If she had brought this kind of logic and energy to social media, youre right, it wouldn’t be as controversial.

But she didn’t. Whether done purposely or not, she did it to try to chastise and belittle nikkas.

I agree that her intention was to belittle. But lately what I've been trying to do in my life (not always successfully) is to seperate information from intention and emotion. Not saying intention and emotion aren't important but i try to process messages with the 3 aspects together and also separated. The way I see it, you can get useful information from your worst enemy if you distil the message to raw information. The intention and emotion is still useful to give context.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

It is not true. I have shown on this very website that as Black men make more, we marry Black more. It is actually Black women who marry out more, as they make more. So that narrative she pushed is not what is happening. Instead, what is happening is that men overall are not marrying women at a rate they use to. That is all resources levels.

Exactly

We read the same studies, which is why I stopped there.

That is just not true.. everybody just sitting here believing the misinformation they want to believe.


I have made over 6 figures for half a decade now (even if it didn’t feel like it). Most of these nikkas are just like me. You could lose anything at the drop of a dime and have to start over. I have had that happen even during that period. We look for people who are willing to be by our side if/when that happens.

Thats it… Someone you are physically and (just as important) MENTALLY attracted to and is willing to stick around good or bad. I’m like a dog.. once I’m loyal to you then thats it.

There is no plan B, C, or D. A lot of the women in this culture make it about financials, height, what can you do for me, etc… and then there are other cultures of women who don’t.

 

[Oatmeal]

The hoes she mentioned are below my standard then. Talking bout expensive gifts and vacation packages. Is that suppose to be classy? A flex?

Talk to me about owning your home. Owning your business. Investment portfolios.

A bird thinking she fly because she paid 6k for a handbag but rents a one bedroom. fukk outta here

I might be getting in this situation now, i feel like i might finally be able to pull the trigger on home ownership this year after grinding for like 8 years, i cut off everything to focus on my finances and now I'm slowly starting to get back to having a life again and im encountering these types. It's kinda messed up too because I've spoken to a few women about my time as an entrepreneur and really focused on how many sacrifices were involved and they weren't trying to hear it.

 

[Hater Eraser]

I agree that her intention was to belittle. But lately what I've been trying to do in my life (not always successfully) is to seperate information from intention and emotion. Not saying intention and emotion aren't important but i try to process messages with the 3 aspects together and also separated. The way I see it, you can get useful information from your worst enemy if you distil the message to raw information. The intention and emotion is still useful to give context.

 

[Captain Crunch]

i only fill my tank up once a month lol

How many miles is your commute

 

[Ohene]

I would agree with her

But i would change the word support, I would use the word match or keep up with

All she saying is if a woman high maintenance and you don’t have the bread or values to keep up with that don’t bother. She said it in a condescending way though. If a woman high maintenance I always stay away regardless of how much money i have because im more frugal. So it’s only going to cause friction between me and the woman long term

 

[Ohene]

She got heat for women too

 

[GoFlipAPack]

And then you have simps like this nikka spreading dumb ass shyt like this