So Yall Really not gon get Married?

[MaxPain]

Yall sound worst than females


How u a man and u dreaming about marriage?

Disney princess ass lames

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Reading the posts from that chick with the “queen” in her screen name is actually troubling. She acknowledged she knows countless people who have gotten divorced yet says any man who isn’t trying to get married is not enlightened lol. The mentality of these women. Y’all be careful out there.

Nothing surprises me

 

[sosayeth]

Moreover you assumed men think it's too hard to run a family, when there's a distinct difference in something being too difficult, vs. not being worth it,

You sound bitter.

For some reason in the black community we refuse to acknowledge that black women's lofty standards, and poor mating choices heavily sway household outcomes.

You must hate women.

You're a decent poster from what I've seen but posts like this is where discontently single/mildy scorn/mildly hurt black women tell on themselves.

Black women only submit to JAY-Z and Barack Obama... maybe you should get on their level.

It's quickly getting to the point where bm don't have sympathy to for bw, and men across demographics sans simps don't have sympathy for women at all, because women, can get good loving relationships, but since it's not with the guy with the guap or looks they want, they shyt on all men for their inability to get the men they want (punching out of their weight class)

No one cares when women/people feel like they shouldn't settle, more power to them, but if you can't get the two birds in the bush, no one gives a fukk or wants to hear it when they know you had or have a bird in the hand.

In short there was a ton of assumptions, and mild projection that added up to yet another black male bashing post.

And that's the bottom line. Repped.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

So you want to get married for business reasons and not because you can’t imagine living without the person?

Good luck with that one

I'm an adult sir. I don't live in Disneyland. Marriage is a financial vehicle. Your post speaks to the point I have been making the whole thread.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

That's what the premise of marriage has always been to my knowledge. That soulmate love shiit is new founded bullshiit,

Thank you. And that's why marriages are failing. People are getting married to feel good. Not to grow as people, build families or grow wealth. And then they wonder why the lose.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Reading the posts from that chick with the “queen” in her screen name is actually troubling. She acknowledged she knows countless people who have gotten divorced yet says any man who isn’t trying to get married is not enlightened lol. The mentality of these women. Y’all be careful out there.

It's empress...not queen. And I didn’t say I know countless men who have been divorced. I said I know some men who have been divorced and they almost all have remarried ie they didn't get killed in the divorce, ie they liked being married ie they aren’t jaded like ya'll who have never even been married before.

And it's not about being enlightening it's about being educated. But I also said women should married men who want to be married. What is wrong with that? Find a woman who wants to play house and do you. There are plenty out here. Our culture loves broken homes, BM & BD and financial irresponsibility. You'll find that before anything else.

BP love to encourage each other to be dysfunctional but then wonder about why we can't progress. Smh

 

[Max Power]

b1tching about the pandemic not allowing them to socialize.

I don't give a shyt about marriage, but I still want to be out and about keeping active, fukking bytches, hanging out with friends etc.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Y'all didn't get to see this 'cause she edited her post, but after I kicked her in the nuts she thinks she has a few pages back, her initial emotional response was "K."

She - like nearly all other women - is an insincere gaslighter. She's not concerned with making marriage work for men, 'cause if she were, she'd acknowledge the playing field is built to ensure we get screwed and also would admit it's the Sistahood's primitive inability to be satisfied and always find fault that's the reason why men are avoidant of marriage.

Ya'll are so childish. I wasn’t going to respond because you're not interested in having an intelligent conversation. You just wanna be right. But I decided to not be like you and I decided to be an adult about it.

I have said in this thread men should protect themselves via education, prenuptial agreements and by being with a partner that makes similar income as them. The divorce rates are also public knowledge if you cared to look. But you wanna jump past that so you can "kick me in the nutz."

But I feel like I am repeating myself at this point. If you think your scenario is winning by all means do you because lord know our community is better for it. *sarcasm* I think I made my case. I really have nothing more to add.

 

[Vashti]

i think american men are becoming too fragile for marriage.
there are news stories DAILY of american males of all races doing the kamikaze with wife and children in tow.
brehs going out sad.
and sistrens are going out even sadder by hitching their wagons to them.

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

No im not gonna get married
Thats just me though, do what yall want

 

[sosayeth]

Ya'll are so childish. I wasn’t going to respond because you're not interested in having an intelligent conversation. You just wanna be right. But I decided to not be like you and I decided to be an adult about it.

I have said in this thread men should protect themselves via education, prenuptial agreements and by being with a partner that makes similar income as them. The divorce rates are also public knowledge if you cared to look. But you wanna jump past that so you can "kick me in the nutz."

But I feel like I am repeating myself at this point. If you think your scenario is winning by all means do you because lord know our community is better for it. *sarcasm* I think I made my case. I really have nothing more to add.

"Hey single man making an above-average income and living a lifestyle he thinks is fulfilling, you know what you ought to do? Get married. Now I know there are a lot of risks involved, because we grown women basically stop maturing at sixteen and thus don't really know what we want day-to-day, but I've come up with a right proper solution - spend your time you could be doing the things you find already fulfilling learning how to protect yourself!"

It must hurt to "think" how you "think."

Let's revisit a comment a few posts above yours.

Moreover you assumed men think it's too hard to run a family, when there's a distinct difference in something being too difficult, vs. not being worth it, or something you simply don't have the desire to do. I could start a family at any time and do my damndest to make it work, but if the partners available don't have a like mind, or think they can do better, or I should be substantially better than I am, the "family" will be doomed from inception.

What's hard about this, ma'am?

Women take on zero risk in marriage. Men take on all the risk.
And no. It's not "risk" when make up in your head that Michael B. Jordan might have come knocking at your door if hadn't gotten married.

When you ask someone else to form a legal bond with you, where they will be taking on the entire risk burden, YOU need to be the one to convince said someone of outcome is substantially beneficial and YOU need to be the one who ensure you're not the reason the bond is broken. As it stands, the reason (black) men are avoidant of marriage is because (black) women don't want to be married and the black community, which has been matrifocal for three generations now, has suffered immensely for it. In this thread, even most of the guys who are against marriage are only against it due to the legal power women have to bring nothing, yet take away everything. (Black) women, especially in Western societies, have an established track record of not being fit for marriage AND the attitude that (black) men better just put up it. What is it that makes you all believe anyone is pining to deal with that?

I realize you think (black) men are big, dumb wallet-penises who are going to fall for your shyt, but there's a reason why you're middle-aged, used up and have no ring on your own finger, ma'am.

 

[RTF]

"
Women take on zero risk in marriage. Men take on all the risk.

This isn't true breh.

There is an important financial risk for men. Women risk everything else.

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Because she is right. when you break down the numbers, the divorce rate is highest amongst the middle and lower class while not so much for the upper class.

Question is why it's like this

The number one reason there’s friction in a marriage is over money. So it makes sense that couples with less money would get divorced at a higher rate

 

[sosayeth]

This isn't true breh.

There is an important financial risk for men. Women risk everything else.

Nonsense.

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Yea a lot of folks in here shouldn’t get married based off this thread. If you get into a marriage already worried about divorce you getting married for all the wrong reasons