Social media has ruined parties.

[Prince Mongo]

No one tells their friends that, but that's exactly what is happening and has been happening, you're clearly completely oblivious to it but the evidence is overwhelming, it's literally the reason social media was created with "likes", it's the reason we use "daps/rep" here at the coli.

Wtf kinda people do you hang around? I go places to enjoy myself, not impress people, and my nikkas do the same shyt. I'm not fixated on impressing random people. You must live a very uncomfortable life if you base your social interactions on how other people will look at you. And you're really getting on my nerves talking to me like I'm stupid because I don't agree with you. You're a condescending, fakkit, bytch ass nikka spitting bullshyt passing it off as an intelligent observation. But keep living to boost up your social ranking instead of having fun lame ass sissy nikka

 

[Matt504]

This nikka goes to parties to validate his coolness on social media the next day I'll be damned if I'm paying cover charges and buying drinks for the respect of slobs on their keyboards, fukk that

If the social ranking people get from social media had no real world benefits, people wouldn't waste their time with it, it's literally that simple.

If people didn't need other people to know they were at a party having fun, they wouldn't need to pretend to have fun for the length of a snapchat or instagram video, it's just that simple.

If follower/following count didn't matter, there wouldn't be a need to maintain a ratio of having more followers than people you're following, it's just that simple.

 

[Matt504]

Wtf kinda people do you hang around? I go places to enjoy myself, not impress people, and my nikkas do the same shyt. I'm not fixated on impressing random people. You must live a very uncomfortable life if you base your social interactions on how other people will look at you. And you're really getting on my nerves talking to me like I'm stupid because I don't agree with you. You're a condescending, fakkit, bytch ass nikka spitting bullshyt passing it off as an intelligent observation. But keep living to boost up your social ranking instead of having fun lame ass sissy nikka

I'm not talking to you like you're stupid, I'm just being honest in my assessment of your inability to articulate your experiences on a level deeper than "I just do it for fun". It's nothing personal and there's no need for the childish name calling.

 

[Coli Bot]

This nikka goes to parties to validate his coolness on social media the next day I'll be damned if I'm paying cover charges and buying drinks for the respect of slobs on their keyboards, fukk that

Maybe not you but hes got a point though. Thats what this whole threads about right? People stuntin for the gram to make themselves appear cool among their followers and fukking up their ability to enjoy themselves and make genuine memories in the process.

It may sound lame but dude has a point.

 

[Captain]

This isn't social media's fault at all, snapchat has just revealed something that's been happening before the existence of social media.

Pre social media, the only way someone who wasn't at a party knew you were there is because of all the post party conversations and depending on the party, being there would increase your social standing among your peer group, e.g. "yeah I saw Matt in the cut getting danced on", this is no different than the getting likes on an IG video, only difference now is that IG is proof that "Matt got danced on by some chick last night".

People in here talking about fun are doing so dishonestly in my opinion, they may even be oblivious to it. "Fun" is a side affect of parties, when you cut through all the bullshyt, the purpose of these parties is to increase ones social ranking or use your present social ranking to receive benefits which may include access to women, sex, and attention, which is another reason why many of these parties are very exclusive, if your social ranking isn't at a certain level, you're literally not wanted at the party, and if you do manage to get in, you're practically shunned by the people with higher social rankings.

Parties are politics under the guise of having fun. Social media is simply a tool that people can use to increase and even artificially inflate their social ranking with the goal of receiving benefits based on that ranking.

The only thing "no-cellphone" parties would do is increase the number of people making pre-party videos. People would literally be snapping seconds before they had to give up their phones and once they did hand them over, they'd spend a lot of the time regretting it because they can't see how many likes, views or DM'S they may have gotten during that period.

Good insight +rep

 

[Prince Mongo]

I'm not talking to you like you're stupid, I'm just being honest in my assessment of your inability to articulate your experiences on a level deeper than "I just do it for fun". It's nothing personal and there's no need for the childish name calling.

On God bruh you getting on my fukking nerves fakkit ass nikka. I fully comprehend the dumbass shyt you're saying, its not fukking rocket science. Stop thinking nikkas don't get wtf you mean because I'm disputing it. Like I said, you sound like a hoe ass nikka with a terrible life if you live to get likes and shyt or gain social status by doing social activities. That's fukking LAME. I don't kick it with folks like that irl. I don't live my life to impress other people, I live to enjoy myself

 

[Matt504]

Maybe not you but hes got a point though. Thats what this whole threads about right? People stuntin for the gram to make themselves appear cool among their followers. It may sound lame but dude has a point.

It's tough for some people to separate themselves from the actual point being made. If there was no benefit in people filming themselves having fun, people wouldn't do it but it happens so their must be a reason for this behavior.

People want to modify how others perceive them based on the content they upload to social media, they want to increase their social ranking because that ranking nets them real world benefits, higher follower count equals higher social ranking, lots of likes on pictures equals higher social ranking, these things also work to inflate the confidence of the person receiving the likes and followers, coli males complain about it all the time suggesting that "simps have fukked the game up by giving these hoes likes and follows on social media", thus increasing their confidence and making it more difficult for them to have sex with those women.

 

[Matt504]

On God bruh you getting on my fukking nerves fakkit ass nikka. I fully comprehend the dumbass shyt you're saying, its not fukking rocket science. Stop thinking nikkas don't get wtf you mean because I'm disputing it. Like I said, you sound like a hoe ass nikka with a terrible life if you live to get likes and shyt or gain social status by doing social activities. That's fukking LAME. I don't kick it with folks like that irl. I don't live my life to impress other people, I live to enjoy myself

If you believe this doesn't apply to "you and your nikkas", that's fine, dismiss it and keep it moving, but you're taking offense and using emotionally charged language unnecessarily. Get out of your feelings and go have fun with your nikkas.

 

[Coli Bot]

It's tough for some people to separate themselves from the actual point being made. If there was no benefit in people filming themselves having fun, people wouldn't do it but it happens so their must be a reason for this behavior.

People want to modify how others perceive them based on the content they upload to social media, they want to increase their social ranking because that ranking nets them real world benefits, higher follower count equals higher social ranking, lots of likes on pictures equals higher social ranking, these things also work to inflate the confidence of the person receiving the likes and followers, coli males complain about it all the time suggesting that "simps have fukked the game up by giving these hoes likes and follows on social media", thus increasing their confidence and making it more difficult for them to have sex with those women.

Agreed.

Everyone wants to be popular. Social media almost gives you a measurable scale of that.

It is what it is, im getting older now so I care less about these things anyway.

 

[Prince Mongo]

Agreed.

Everyone wants to be popular. Social media almost gives you a measurable scale of that.

It is what it is, im getting older now so I care less about these things anyway.

Naw, there are actually plenty of people who don't care about being "popular" and live their lives to be happy with themselves. People who need to try hard to be liked and accepted are what I refer to as lame

 

[AtomicUse]

Yall at the wrong spots with the wrong folks.

They sound like dudes complaining about technology and changes in culture.

"I remember when we used to do things like this "
Well shyt is different for young people now.

I go to parties with other adults and they're fun, and theirs still cool people awkward people lame people all that, no cell phones don't make a difference. I was at the 676 on Michigan at a party and it was fun, and people were taking pictures with their phones. Internet folk stay complaining.

 

[Kenny West]

If the social ranking people get from social media had no real world benefits, people wouldn't waste their time with it, it's literally that simple.

If people didn't need other people to know they were at a party having fun, they wouldn't need to pretend to have fun for the length of a snapchat or instagram video, it's just that simple.

If follower/following count didn't matter, there wouldn't be a need to maintain a ratio of having more followers than people you're following, it's just that simple.

If incriminating yourself on social media for likes had no real benefits people wouldn't do it, it's that simple.

If people didn't need other people to know they have money, they wouldn't need to flash it on social media it's that simple.

If owning jordans didn't come with real world benefits, people wouldn't kill for them it's that simple

A person having a reason for doing something speaks nothing to the return of investment of their effort and unforeseen consequences. And it doesn't validate their actions. Social media only produces real world benefit if you've dedicated a ton of unncessacry effort into it, and even then there are plenty of people who are buying followers and receiving no dividends. shyt is a cheap facade, and best believe people can see through it.

Nobody thinks you're cool for your videos at a party, pictures of your food or whatever. The act of seeking validation for living your life is textbook lame shyt before anything else. If you're thorough, if you have a life, if you have "social ranking" you won't need to demonstrate it on some "HEY LOOK AT ME I'M HAVING FUN" shyt, it's part of who you are. When FB was poppin I never asked people to take pics of me at a party. I'd wake up the next day to find myself tagged in uncompromising photos.

If you're fronting you're fronting, rationalize it all you want but nobody is getting the props you think for that. Now if you're snapchatting yourself in some p*ssy, then it's a different story. But anybody can make a video of themselves jigging with a drink in their hand. you aint fooling nobody

 

[Coli Bot]

Naw, there are actually plenty of people who don't care about being "popular" and live their lives to be happy with themselves. People who need to try hard to be liked and accepted are what I refer to as lame

And no one has accused you of being a perpetrator so fall back, and stop being so defensive. We saying in general people take all these snaps and pics so they can show everyone how much fun they had on some ''Look how great my life is'' type shyt when really we all broke af and struggling ..... Ultimately they do this so everyone will think their cool and yeah it is lame nikka.. but a lot of people are guilty of this shyt even me. Everybody being so self obsessed on their image means people dont let lose and have as much fun any more like back in the day and thats what this thread is all about sheesh. Them early 2000's partys were

 

[Sire366]

I'm not talking to you like you're stupid, I'm just being honest in my assessment of your inability to articulate your experiences on a level deeper than "I just do it for fun". It's nothing personal and there's no need for the childish name calling.

Just curious to understand your prospective, but are you in high school? I havent cared about popularity since then is all, not even when i was in college... I had my friends that I either crew up with or just made talking in halls/class, most times not in club or parties setting... We would have fun with a group of girls and guys (mutual friends) that everyone invited to a pre party, go out then dancing and drinking, and then we would meet females and would be just trying to smash. Was a basic formula, what do things got to be much more complicated then that?

 

[Matt504]

Just curious to understand your prospective, but are you in high school? I havent cared about popularity since then is all, not even when i was in college... I had my friends that I either crew up with or just made talking in halls/class, most times not in club or parties setting... We would have fun with a group of girls and guys (mutual friends) that everyone invited to a pre party, go out then dancing and drinking, and then we would meet females and would be just trying to smash. Was a basic formula, what do things got to be much more complicated then that?

My perspective is based on the behaviors of people doing these things and my analysis of it. People do things to increase the probability of reaching their goals, if your goal is to smash a girl at a party, you'll be careful not to do something that will decrease your chances of smashing, for example, I always ask men why they can't be upfront with women and let them know that all they're interested in is sex and the response I usually get is "how many women are gonna let me fukk after saying that", so those same men would rather play games and manipulate their way into sex using a formula that isn't basic, a formula that includes deception, lying and misdirection to reach their goal of smashing.

There's no such thing as "basic formulas" when it comes to human interaction, there's so much nuance and because many people don't put any effort into noticing it or articulating it when they do notice, they completely discount it.