Spanking doesn’t improve a child’s behavior or social competence -- it can make behavior worse.

[Wild self]

My dad used to whup me and my brothers asses when we acted up.

But then he learned something even more effective just deny us our games console or being able to play outside for 2 weeks.

He would leave the games console in clear view but he'd hide the controllers, the TV connector and power plug.

Knowing that instead of a quick ass beating that would be over in a minute or two it would be two weeks of no gaming. It was hell on earth.

This was pre internet as well.

With the amount of distractions kids have these days I would make sure they feel that instead of a whuppin.

This.

This!

Also, you got to make your kids go into work missions for Habitat for Humanity building houses for the less fortunate. Not just grunt work, but teach them to serve and to build something positive for the less fortunate is the thing to do, to make them better behaved and generally well-rounded people.

Also, taking videogame controllers and the games themselves is a great lesson, as well as their favorite clothes for weeks on end. That emotional pain would Make them shape up and behave much better than any beating can.

 

[Lakerman0834]

naw fear of ass beating is why im successful today and wasnt making trouble

 

[Brehcepticon]

An adult physically striking a child isn't good for the child? You still got people bragging about being physically abused as a kid. "Back in my day my Mom/Dad would've beat my ass "

 

[MischievousMonkey]

Getting beat on made me a good liar

 

[MischievousMonkey]

I never advocated beating children.



Yup. I made my son cut off the tv the other night cuz he was being too loud after telling him to keep it down over 7 times and he cried and I said:

“Come here, why are you crying”

him: cuz you never give me a chance

me: what? Didn’t I tell you multiple times to keep it down?

‘him: yes

me: didn’t I praise you once you kept your voice down?

him: yes

me: but you started getting loud again right?

him: yes

me: so how does you saying I didn’t give you a chance make any sense? I gave you multiple chances right?

him: yes

me: so stop crying…you disobeyed the rules so accept your consequence. YOU are why YOU are not watching TV right now, not me.

This is exactly what I envision doing with my children.

But what to do in situations where you can't reason with them like this? For example, if they throw a tantrum in the supermarket or a restaurant? What would you do?

 

[CBSwagga]

Waiting on pops to get home was brutal


Looking at the clock and wishing I was dead

talked back to a teacher one time. she called my pops and bruh told her to hold me until he pulled up. This nikka showed up at 6:15 pm. I know deep down the teacher regretted calling after seeing bruh in action.

 

[Johnny Kilroy]

bro there’s no way you’re really equating a child getting a spanking to fukking slavery

and if you think we didn’t keep some practices from Africa I’m done with the convo

This is t a theory. Who do you think taught babies how to be slaves? Their mothers did.

The mothers knew if they didn’t teach them to be slaves then the master would KILL the child or sell them off.

So before the mothers let that happen they would teach them the ways of their world. The mother’s spanking would be far more merciful than the master’s so they used the type of discipline they knew to get the kid to act the way they wanted I order to protect them from the master.

This isn’t a theory, this is history.

 

[Johnny Kilroy]

People spank there kids all over the world not just America. We are still in a system of white supremacy.

Im not talking about around the world. I’m talking about the black community in AmeriKKKa. Where did black people learn spankings?

When we came here we were stripped down to NOTHING mentally. Our names, language, religion, culture, everything was taken away until we were a blank slate. Then we were taught what the slave masters wanted us to know.

So you’re telling me we lost every aspect of our culture EXCEPT spankings?

We knew nothing about our homeland EXCEPT spankings?

Please stop breh.

 

[LurkMoar]

I'd bet the vast majority of prison inmates were beaten as children.

That don’t mean anything, bet you most CEOs got whoopings too. Children need discipline one way or another, that does not mean it’s one size fits all tho.

 

[Henri Christophe]

talked back to a teacher one time. she called my pops and bruh told her to hold me until he pulled up. This nikka showed up at 6:15 pm. I know deep down the teacher regretted calling after seeing bruh in action.

I was such a bad kid, I remember in the 4th grade the teacher called my house 4 times in a single week..... Pops lit me the fukk up.

I've had white female teachers my entire life and it was always some bullshyt..... constant calls to the house until around 6th grade where I finally toned it down.... I stopped misbehaving and causing trouble in class when I started focusing on girls and playing sports.

I only had one black teacher my entire life..... a Haitian lady in first grade and it was so cool cause we would speak Creole to each other during class.... she liked me alot and had a good relationship with my mom... loved that lady..... black teachers are so necessary.... its just a different energy......and I was smarter than everybody in 1st grade.... dumbass nikkas couldnt even read and write and I was already writing essays.

I always hated school cause it was nothing but white men in charge of discipline and nothing but white women in charge of teaching.... I'm so glad I'm done with school..... fukk school.

 

[I'm Blackman]

My dad whooped my ass.

Go pick a switch ass whooping.

I turned into a law abiding productive member of society.

I love my pops for what he did.

 

[Gold]

I'm better than all of you

 

[Music Fiend]

The fear of my parents beating my ass kept me in check. But in an unhealthy way.

I cut off part of myself to appear behaved.

I think ill spank my kids up to like 5 years old then get creative. Maybe physical punishment like running laps.

hard to say tho, kids are crafty. i know I was still finding ways around losing my phone or going outside

 

[O.Red]

Everytime this topic comes up you'll get the slavery excuse or the "you wouldn't spank an adult so why would you hit a child"

"you're a bad parent who doesn't know how to express themselves using any other way than violence and fear"

It's often true tho

More than a few people have trash communication skills and it happens to show in their parenting, amongst other things

Also the slavery aspect often stems from resentment and a desire to embarrass the child, which was definitely inherited from slavery

You see it in parents that whoop their kids asses on social media. That's some plantation shyt

 

[Fillerguy]

There was alot of things I didnt do or smoke out of fear of an asswhooping.