Spanking doesn’t improve a child’s behavior or social competence -- it can make behavior worse.

[Deuterion]

This is exactly what I envision doing with my children.

But what to do in situations where you can't reason with them like this? For example, if they throw a tantrum in the supermarket or a restaurant? What would you do?

I give a couple pats on the butt right then and there. I haven’t had to do it in like 3 years…last time we were at a park and he was having a good time…after like 2 hours it was time to go and he threw a tantrum. I gave him a couple smacks on his butt and he hit me back…I took him to the car and let’s say we ain’t had a tantrum since.

If talking ain’t working…


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[Luke Cage]

I don't really care what ya'll do with your kids. And i don't care if you approve of my parenting methods. TYou also try to tell how to dress our kids, how to feed our kids, how to talk to our kids, pretty much have an opinion on every aspect of raising our kids. first help me pay for birthday and christmas presents, tuition and school books. then i might consider your advice

 

[CW_1991]

I've always had conflicting feelings on whoopings. As far as long lasting constructive benefit.

I got beat all throughout my childhood.

Once you're a teen it seems useless.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

lets keep it real, there are spankings, whuppings and abuse.

My mother spanked for some stuff we did.....ate them things like scooby snacks

My father whupped me once in my life for stealing and broke it down that he was raising no criminal in his house.

If I found a wallet with $1k in it, I'm not even taking out $1

those lectures after getting your ass beat


Pops would drop gems



Beat me damn near senseless and then drop priceless knowledge afterwards


Pops laced me up heavy.

The thing is, not every parent explains things to their children. A lot of parents simply beat the kid, and that’s the punishment for acting up. They are not explaining why the behavior is wrong, or what the consequences will be when they are old enough to move out.

The “because I say so” answer doesn’t work. And let’s be real, a lot of black children are being raised by single women who had them as teens or their early 20s, and haven’t evolved as people because they didn’t have enough time to grow before having children.

Without the talks, they don’t develop character, or good values. They just learn they will be physically harmed for acting up, and go on to hurt others who disappoint them.

Oh, this person disrespected me? Okay, I’m going to physically assault them, or shoot them, because when I disrespected my parent, they hurt me.

 

[Carolina Slim]

those lectures after getting your ass beat


Pops would drop gems



Beat me damn near senseless and then drop priceless knowledge afterwards


Pops laced me up heavy.

Got me like up in here reminiscing about my own pops....

 

[KidJSoul]

I feel like parents need to just be adaptive to their kids...

there's some kids out here that don't need to be spanked at all... they just need to be yelled at a littel bit

and there's other kids that aren't getting spanked... that are little shyts and probably should be getting spanked.

Some kids mean well, and can learn well by simply being told why what they're doing is wrong... other kids need positive reinforcement, others need negative reincforcement...

basically, people in general need to take things case by case.

 

[South Paw]

I dont think it comes down to spanking or physical punishment but just laying out actual consequences for your kids and making sure they are punished when they do wrong. My mom used to whoop on me on the regular but I wasnt worried about her at all. My pops never laid a hand on me but I was always scared shytless for him to come home and find out what I had done.

 

[South Paw]

double.

 

[Afro]

‘If spanking isn’t effective why is that their method of behavior correction as a society. What do the cops do when you don’t follow the society’s rules?

Damn bro, let the topic breathe a bit before you come in ending shyt early with decent logic

 

[KidJSoul]

I feel like parents need to just be adaptive to their kids...

there's some kids out here that don't need to be spanked at all... they just need to be yelled at a littel bit

and there's other kids that aren't getting spanked... that are little shyts and probably should be getting spanked.

Some kids mean well, and can learn well by simply being told why what they're doing is wrong... other kids need positive reinforcement, others need negative reincforcement...

basically, people in general need to take things case by case.

 

[GPBear]

shocking, who wouldve thought beating your kid would have a detrimental impact

 

[Ducktales]

If you beat your kids for having a C or F in school you are a piece of shyt parent. Beat them because they went in the fridge when they were not supposed to or didn’t do the chores when you asked, you are a piece of shyt parent if it takes you to have to put your adult hands on them to get the point. A lot of people are horrible fukking parents and beat they kids ass to cover up for that to make themselves believe it’s the child that’s the issue. You can talk to your child and explain things to them like they are a person and they will listen to you if you do it right. Better to show children how the real world works early. You don’t act right, I take things away from you. You won’t get a damn thing back until you act right.

A good parent doesn’t have to worry about a child calling them out they name or some bullshyt . What type of parent are you to where your child would even think they could get away with disrespecting you?Maybe they got it from how you talk to your spouse, or how you don’t give them attention and neglect them. My kids get checked if they act up and they don’t require physical abuse for them to be corrected by way of consequence. They know right from wrong because it was instilled in them and getting yelled at if necessary is usually enough to scare them to know you are serious. My kids are polite and when they get caught doing something they not supposed to they either cry get nervous because they know they disappointed me. I didn’t have to hurt them to make them feel those same emotions of guilt and shame. In the real world, if you act up on the job you are getting fired and will be homeless. Don’t nobody gotta hurt you physically for you to understand that and not do it

 

[BaggerofTea]

I don't really care what ya'll do with your kids. And i don't care if you approve of my parenting methods. TYou also try to tell how to dress our kids, how to feed our kids, how to talk to our kids, pretty much have an opinion on every aspect of raising our kids. first help me pay for birthday and christmas presents, tuition and school books. then i might consider your advice

Thats where you are wrong.

When a kid violates other people because of how the parents discipline, yes the discipline is societies problem now

 

[Sad Bunny]

Why the fukk is say cheese tweeting this?

Because they post news stories sometimes? Is that a crime?

So black people and hip hop fans can't be interested in anything else?

 

[Alvin]

No it doesn’t. Idk why people keep spewing this when it’s far from fact.

children were getting spanked centuries before we were born and it had nothing to do with slavery

I would say with modern black history it does have to do with slavery. How would a kid act up exactly that his parents needed to discipline him? The overseer or the master of the plantation would just whip them. That being said all fabrics of society had spankings as well.

 

[MischievousMonkey]

I give a couple pats on the butt right then and there. I haven’t had to do it in like 3 years…last time we were at a park and he was having a good time…after like 2 hours it was time to go and he threw a tantrum. I gave him a couple smacks on his butt and he hit me back…I took him to the car and let’s say we ain’t had a tantrum since.

If talking ain’t working…


Me:





Him:








Me:

I see, I was of the opinion that I'd never hit my kids when I'd have some because I was at the wrong end of the stick growing up, but I'm starting to contemplate. Maybe some violence is necessary in some specific instances, like the one you described.