Spin: How old is too old to be living at home?

[beenz]

I'm 29 and live at home although my parents are only here 6 months out of the year. I contribute to the mortgage, hydro, property taxes etc.


It's all "perception" that if you live at home your somehow rotting in your parents basement not paying bills or handling responsibility just playing videogames all day long.

It's amazing you can live at home and pay 1,000 a month for bills building equity and be viewed in a negative limelight but you can rent some little studio for 1000 a month and be considered responsible.

Hell if I never get married the hell I'm going to move out for ?

I can't co-sign this. as a man, I don't care how good you got it at your parents house, it comes to a point where you wanna get your own shyt. maybe they are gone 1/2 the year, but what about when they are there?

you gotta ask ur mom to have company and abide by a curfew all of a sudden

and do you think your parents wanna have a grown ass man living in they spot? I know mine wouldn't. my brother lives in DC, my sister is married and lives in the chi, and I live in the chi. we each got our own spot, and my parents appear to be happier than ever cuz none of us have EVER come back home to live like

matter of fact, your parents will appreciate you more when you move out they spot.

btw, you ain't building equity in some shyt if it's not your property. you're building their equity.

 

[mamba]

I smell bullshyt here with this comment.

A lot of these women are lying out their asses, breh. They know damn well they'd look down on a nikka who still lives at home, unless he's living large like @Emperor_ReinScarf .

A 35 year old man, regardless of financial situation, would not be taken seriously by a woman if he's still living at home.

 

[beenz]

moved back in with my parents just this year after i graduated from college I'm going nuts, they're cool and all but this is not the bizness. Looking for an accounting job, had a couple interviews, no go. I think I might just get a job at a bank or something in the meantime just so I can move out

get ur CPA. my sister did that right outta college, and once she passed, she moved out and never moved back.

 

[mamba]

You just answered your question. In this economy you really can't speak ill about someone moving home, I can understand. Could I date a chick at home with her parents and siblings? I could, depends in the circumstances. Like I said above, the economy is not all that healthy. Now I got uncles who were worthless who stayed home until they couldn't anymore. They exceeded their stay by about 30 years. Them niccas wasn't shyt.

Living home, briefly (emphasis on briefly), because of financial issues is understandable.

I'm talking about people who are financially stable, but are still living at home past 25. Get out their and get it. Can't be having moms washing your dirty underwear for the rest of your life, brehs and brehettes.

 

[mamba]

I am American and I have dated a guy who lived at home with his parents at 31.... He had a career, no kids, his own car..... He was the breadwinner in his household and was supporting his fam..... I have my own place so we did our business at my place .... it was NBD.....

But to your thread question, too old is whenever the child is ready for the world.... each person is different...I knew that there is "1 queen to a throne" I respected that my mother built her queendom with my dad in their house..... At 17 I moved to a different state and built my own throne..... I haven't looked back since....

But my younger sister (who just got married)...moved out at 26.... I don't knock folks for staying at home.... everyone is different...

Sounds like that relationship didn't last. Did he ever get his own spot?

 

[beenz]

I once dated a chick who was above 25. She still lived at home, as did several of her siblings who were also around the same age.

The shyt was awkward, breh. All those grown as folks still living under the same roof. It wasn't a big house, either.

man more than 2 adults really cannot co-exist in one house. it never fails.

even my sister in law, who's in her 3rd year medical school, whenever she comes back up here to visit, within days, she's into a big argument with my inlaws. EVERY time it seems to happen.

 

[mamba]

man more than 2 adults really cannot co-exist in one house. it never fails.

even my sister in law, who's in her 3rd year medical school, whenever she comes back up here to visit, within days, she's into a big argument with my inlaws. EVERY time it seems to happen.

Only way two adults can co-exist in one house is if a natural hierarchy takes root: Parent-adult child. Dominant husband-wife. Strong wife-weak husband. Dominant roommate-weaker roommate.

 

[beenz]

Only way two adults can co-exist in one house is if a natural hierarchy takes root: Parent-adult child. Dominant husband-wife. Strong wife-weak husband. Dominant roommate-weaker roommate.

two adults is the absolute limit. once there are more than that, it's like

a husband and wife is fine. an adult mom and adult daughter might work. but once that third adult is introduced into the mix, someone gotta or it's gonna be drama.

 

[mamba]

man more than 2 adults really cannot co-exist in one house. it never fails.

even my sister in law, who's in her 3rd year medical school, whenever she comes back up here to visit, within days, she's into a big argument with my inlaws. EVERY time it seems to happen.

I dated a grown woman who still lived at home. It was a hassle, breh. Felt like I was dating a damn teenager. "Unwritten" curfews and other shyt. All of her grown ass siblings still living in the same house and rooms they grew up in. Just felt strange.

nikkas peekin' out the window whenever I pulled up.

As a grown man out on his own, it just didn't mesh with my lifestyle.

 

[Colicat]

Sounds like that relationship didn't last. Did he ever get his own spot?

No, the relationship didn't last.... he didn't want anything serious... and I wanted more.... meh.... I just moved on...

he is in the same spot...

 

[mamba]

No, the relationship didn't last.... he didn't want anything serious... and I wanted more.... meh.... I just moved on...

he is in the same spot...

Sounds like you gave him everything he wanted up front.

It's hard to demand more when you've already given him everything he wants. Women are always ass backwards when it comes to relationships!

 

[Ohene]

get ur CPA. my sister did that right outta college, and once she passed, she moved out and never moved back.

You say that like there's no job experience requirement

 

[beenz]

You say that like there's no job experience requirement

that CPA test is supposedly hard as hell. my pops tried to take it all thru my childhood and never was able to pass til my sister got hers when we was all grown.

that being said, once u get that, it's kinda a ticket to having a job for life.

 

[Ohene]

I moved out at 18 but had to move back in at 21 due to financial issues. I'm 23 now. Shyt is so hard to readjust brehs


My parents are very supportive and give me a reasonable degree of freedom, but there isn't a feeling comparable to having your own spot. I stay with my pops and stepmother. My stepmom is cool but she's a housewife with two kids so she is ALWAYS at the crib It made me realize how much I took my personal space for granted. Sometimes after a long day of school I just want to come home and not be in the presence of anyone, but those moments are few and far between now.


Still though, I don't see a problem staying with your parents for as long as you need to get your financial situation together. Free meals and no/low bills makes it easy to get on your feet. Now if you're just sitting around the crib not making any progress........

That shyt about not wanting to be in other's presence is real man. I just graduated in April and moved back in. shyt is rough

 

[Ohene]

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that CPA test is supposedly hard as hell. my pops tried to take it all thru my childhood and never was able to pass til my sister got hers when we was all grown.

that being said, once u get that, it's kinda a ticket to having a job for life.

In Canada you have to have three years of work experience in many different areas (auditing, financial reporting, taxation typically). There are designated companies that provide accredited experience or you can go to other companies as long as you can prove a what you did and get purple to sign off etc.

Not to mention there are like three exams here to complete. It isn't easy

All these employers want experience for entry level. The economy is going to be fckd. My generation isn't being given a chance to learn these companies ... So how will we run the companies when we are older : ?