SPIN: What are some DealBreakers you have for Friends?

[Black Magisterialness]

This is all fine and dandy until you see ya homie you loaned the money to coming up with fly shyt, when he could have paid the loan back..

And why would you loan money to a friend you think wont be in a position to pay it back.....just give it to him.

SO you'll loan money to a friend and NOT expect it back?

ANY money I loan out I don't ever expect to see it back. I'm lucky enough to have a peer group to where is someone is short the others got it and we all been the nikka who's been short before.

A large problem with that is that people nowadays don't stay friends for long because they fall out over bullshyt. My boy lost his card in Indonesia when we were over there, he transferred money to our friend but it was gonna take 48 hours. We covered him for that 48, but we weren't sitting around counting pennies. And when he got his bread, he threw most of the bread back as well as covered for a few meals or drinks or whatever. Hell, I actually think he ended up coming out behind in the ordeal. But no one cared because we were all good, all safe and we were gonna make sure our homie was good.

Nobody will fall cuz everyone will be eachothers crutches. Bugging out over small amounts of money (less than $1,000) is fukking silly.

 

[4North1Side2]

I know we all have dealbreakers when it comes to relationships? But do you guys have dealbreakers when it comes to just friends?

I'll start if off. Not paying me back if I ever loaned you something. I'm the kind of person who wont remind you twice, i'm not a bill collector. I even tell my friends who ask for money "Just so you know, depending on how you go about paying me back, this could be the end of our friendship"

That usually stops them from asking

Lending money is the dumbest shyt ever, if you can't afford to let it go then just say sorry I can't help you.

 

[Address_Unknown]

You holding product past personal usage and you around me? Either let me know or you'd best not get caught 'cause I'm disavowing all knowledge of you, this night out, our friendship if you get scooped up and I'm next to you, Sweater GOD the amount of times I've found out that someone had something that could land us all in the clink and I was the driver.

Don't expect me to pick sides in whatever argument you have with a mutual friend. Both of y'all got my love and since y'all beefing, I'll make sure it's individual, but I ain't picking a side, especially if I can clearly point places where the both of y'all done fukked up and went wrong.

I ain't abiding no backbiting and name calling when I ain't there. That's bullshyt. You got something to say about me, say it to me. If I'm fukking up, let me know. Especialyl when it comes to dudes trying to holler at chicks and my name comes up and they slag me off......nah, you foul as shyt for that. Holler at a female, but keep my name the fukk out your mouth, breh, that's female shytI don't like breaking bread with folk that got my name stink out in the streets, so you ain't gonna smile and accept my help knowing full well you talking shyt about me around the corner if I got anythign to do about it. I'd never do the same to you short of discussing you amongst mutual friends if a scenario came up and we talked on it.

Lastly, never steal from me. I don't care what it is. Could be a videogame to $5 dollars on my dressing table, you take that shyt in slick, I cut you off. Ask for the motherfukker and you more than likely will get it and if you really my friend you should know this, so if you gonna just pocket the shyt on some "He ain't see it, I good." Elder Scrolls shyt, then I can't trust you and won't and I don't like folk around me that I got to side eye.

 

[Trapperman Dave]

Can't be a bum and cant be ugly.

Damn breh everyone can't have model looks

 

[FeloniousMonk]

ANY money I loan out I don't ever expect to see it back. I'm lucky enough to have a peer group to where is someone is short the others got it and we all been the nikka who's been short before.

A large problem with that is that people nowadays don't stay friends for long because they fall out over bullshyt. My boy lost his card in Indonesia when we were over there, he transferred money to our friend but it was gonna take 48 hours. We covered him for that 48, but we weren't sitting around counting pennies. And when he got his bread, he threw most of the bread back as well as covered for a few meals or drinks or whatever. Hell, I actually think he ended up coming out behind in the ordeal. But no one cared because we were all good, all safe and we were gonna make sure our homie was good.

Nobody will fall cuz everyone will be eachothers crutches. Bugging out over small amounts of money (less than $1,000) is fukking silly.

This is all cool.

Yet its a lil diff than ya homie not knowing to budget money or is spend happy or just low on ends.

Im speaking on principle.

I would feel uncomfortable hanging with friends who I owed money to who I never intend on paying back and Im DAAAM sho not about to kick it with someone who owes me money yet overlooks that fact like it never happened.

 

[315]

Never thought about it

 

[philmonroe]

I know we all have dealbreakers when it comes to relationships? But do you guys have dealbreakers when it comes to just friends?

I'll start if off. Not paying me back if I ever loaned you something. I'm the kind of person who wont remind you twice, i'm not a bill collector. I even tell my friends who ask for money "Just so you know, depending on how you go about paying me back, this could be the end of our friendship"

That usually stops them from asking

You sound hard pressed for the cash fam which in that case you should just say no. Money can't be the end of our friendships unless you talking big business type $$$ which I doubt you are not usual friend money issues. On that issue its they pay me back or the Bronx tale way of doing loaning money. If I don't have it to give where I'll miss it I don't give it.

As far as rules not many except for no sucker shyt which is basic shyt like talking behind my back, if you have beef with me let me know, stuff like that. Pretty much the same basic shyt as a dating relationship without dating of course.

 

[Black Magisterialness]

This is all cool.

Yet its a lil diff than ya homie not knowing to budget money or is spend happy or just low on ends.

Im speaking on principle.

I would feel uncomfortable hanging with friends who I owed money to who I never intend on paying back and Im DAAAM sho not about to kick it with someone who owes me money yet overlooks that fact like it never happened.

That's not how it is.

1. Don't give it if you EVER intend on getting it back. Its like charity.

2. You pay it back in other ways, if I loaned you $50 two weeks ago but you done gave me $60 worth of kush, a few beers watching the game and threw me some bread on gas...I done made that $50 back in spades. You have to realize the actual value of ALL the transactions of a friendship. It's nothing for me to spend $40 on pizza or some shyt if I know homies are falling through to watch a game or play some FIFA. I'd never ask them to "pay" for that.

3. I have loaned money to someone who pissed it away..and you know what...they never got another dime from me again. Doesn't mean their a totally shyt person, but I just can't do shyt like that for you.

 

[Kyle C. Barker]

I'm with all of this, but this is something that is sometimes harder than it seems.

Especially if you grew up with those friends and had no idea they were going to turn out to be bums.

Funny you say that.

I actually "loaned" $500 to a friend even though I knew I wouldn't get it back. I didn't even care though because it was the cleanest way to end our long friendship. I totally put it on him.

Still got love for him but we're both 35 now and not 15. The type of breh that's always into some shyt. His life is way too messy for mine.

 

[FeloniousMonk]

That's not how it is.

1. Don't give it if you EVER intend on getting it back. Its like charity.

2. You pay it back in other ways, if I loaned you $50 two weeks ago but you done gave me $60 worth of kush, a few beers watching the game and threw me some bread on gas...I done made that $50 back in spades. You have to realize the actual value of ALL the transactions of a friendship. It's nothing for me to spend $40 on pizza or some shyt if I know homies are falling through to watch a game or play some FIFA. I'd never ask them to "pay" for that.

3. I have loaned money to someone who pissed it away..and you know what...they never got another dime from me again. Doesn't mean their a totally shyt person, but I just can't do shyt like that for you.

Okay lets break this down.

1.You either tell the person dont worry about it, or make contingency plans to pay it back. A loan is not charity.

2.There is a big DIFF in mutual exchange on a loan compared to excepting gifts in lieu thereof..If you owe me money, let it be known you are giving A to compensate for B. Lets not assume its a UNSPOKEN payout for the loan.

3.Had you known this person pisses of money, would you still loan it and NOT expect it back?

And again..its principle.

Keep being cool with people who borrow money, tell you they are going to pay it back, dont pay it back, yet flaunt money when they got it...is my point..those arent true friends in my book..

You wanna know who ya real friends are...loan them some money.

 

[Dre Space Age]

these motherfukkers better have some fukking food in the fukking fridge when i fukking visit

 

[Hades]

Not apologizing.

 

[Kyle C. Barker]

Not apologizing.

That's actually kind of a big one especially if the unapologetic person in question is constantly doing snake shyt. At that point they're probably a sociopath that probably thinks they're smarter than you

 

[Black Magisterialness]

Okay lets break this down.

1.You either tell the person dont worry about it, or make contingency plans to pay it back. A loan is not charity.

2.There is a big DIFF in mutual exchange on a loan compared to excepting gifts in lieu thereof..If you owe me money, let it be known you are giving A to compensate for B. Lets not assume its a UNSPOKEN payout for the loan.

3.Had you known this person pisses of money, would you still loan it and NOT expect it back?

And again..its principle.

Keep being cool with people who borrow money, tell you they are going to pay it back, dont pay it back, yet flaunt money when they got it...is my point..those arent true friends in my book..

You wanna know who ya real friends are...loan them some money.

That's not what I'm talking about at all. I almost always say "ay breh, don't worry about it." Even then If you ask me for 100 and I see you with some new J's then i'm never letting you have money again.

We aren't talking about those people and neither was the OP. All im saying is people get tight about money when they shouldn't have been loaning it out to begin with. And then get angry because they didn't follow up with people. Unless you specifically say "ima need that back by thursday" then you can't really get mad.

And if you need it back by thursday, then you had NO business giving it out. You just ruined a friendship because of YOUR poor decision making not because people ain't shyt. So many people would still be cool if they didn't put themselves in fukked up situations trying to look like they "got it".

 

[philmonroe]

Never thought about it

Same here that's why I gave basic stuff. If you chill with people you usually know who you can and can't vibe with and it just goes from there.