Successful Women Are Unhappy That They Have To Date Down

[AAKing23]

I’ve never seen a man fukk with a broad cause of the kind of car she drives. These are the type of folks y’all are going back and forth with

Because we're not looking to be taken care of by a woman whereas damn near all women wanna be taken care of by a man so they don't have to work

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Ego is a big thing. If you can’t get past your ego you’ll never prosper in the things you really want out of life. It’s something you’re supposed to realize early on in adulthood but far too many people don’t.

Whew chile! You said a mouthful! Some people take lifetimes to move past that space!

 

[Neuromancer]

Liars and manipulators are rampant among men and women. There are coli threads to prove this. There are plenty of men who do not properly vet their potential lovers and get mad when they get f*cked over.

Why would I be making an excuse? An excuse for what?

Again what does people not paying attention to signs that were apparent have to do with women who are nurturing and peaceful. Everyman knows what his woman is dealing with we choose to ignore it.

An excuse to not be nurturing or peaceful.

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

Women want the optimal-level of a man, not be with him during his grind/building phase.....


Because women don't have a stigma for being in school for 6 years to do a grad program in liberal studies, staying at home with the folks until mid-twenties/early thirties, and being saddled with 100k worth of debt...


Conversely, men need to be Tupac in a business suit by 22 or be seen as a lame.....

You know what you said was a bunch of bullshyt, right?

 

[seabreeze80]

Again what does people not paying attention to signs that were apparent have to do with women who are nurturing and peaceful. Everyman knows what his woman is dealing with we choose to ignore it.

An excuse to not be nurturing or peaceful.

I'm sorry but your post makes no sense to me. I don't think you understand my posts and I'm not sure why you are quoting me because we are clearly talking about 2 very different things.

 

[Neuromancer]

I'm sorry but your post makes no sense to me. I don't think you understand my posts and I'm not sure why you are quoting me because we are clearly talking about 2 very different things.

Your post also makes no sense. I'm also not sure why you're quoting me if you've decided we're talking about two different things.

 

[threattonature]

Money is a big part of relationships. You can’t get around it. It’s also the number 1 factor in divorces.

If a woman makes more than the man she has to deal with his potential insecurities or him possibly taking advantage of her. That’s reality. There are very few dudes out there secure in themselves to be able to deal with a female making more than them b/c so many are starved for power. Women are proud of males accomplishing shyt. Men don’t even want to hear about female accomplishments b/c they automatically interpret her pride in her own work as arrogance. It’s hard to build with people like that.

Chicks think shyt sweet and that men want a partnership when a lot want a tyranny. And if they don’t have the financial means to get that set up, they will do flagrantly disrespectful shyt to humble her.

Half the chicks in my doctoral program are divorced. Not b/c they were bytches, b/c many were literally bending over backwards to appease their husbands—who threw hissy fits in the form of cheating, some became verbally abusive all kinds of fukkery. I need to make a thread about it one day.

But I digress, navigating male ego with ur own success can be a real pickle as a female and u don’t have to be an arrogant bytch to run into these types. Not saying you’d be aware of this dynamic b/c u don’t date men—but issa thing.The other side of this is the Mary J. Blidge factor which men will understand more which is the idea of people trying to use u for money which is also a thing.

Being equally yoked is good advice for a reason. That doesn’t always translate to needing everybody to make the same dollar amount and or anything that extreme but you do have to account for finances and personalities and hidden agendas b4 u take the plunge and it can be tricky.

This is passing the buck to me. It sounds like these women you are speaking of chose bad partners and are blaming the relationship's failings on the fact that they are making big money. How about they just chose a$$holes and ignored those symptoms. Don't get me wrong I know there are a lot of men out there that have sensitive egos and want to establish that power dynamic in the relationship. But keep it real, a lot of women are attracted to that alpha male type. Those qualities don't just appear after marriage or after they start making money. A lot of women love that alpha energy until they see the negatives.

There are plenty of men that have no problem letting a woman lead a relationship and are often looked upon as being weak or not being man enough. The majority of women I know making bank like that want an alpha, a strong-willed man that can be the leader of the relationship but then aren't willing to be lead. Plus so many are blinded by things like good dikk or their partner looking good that they'll ignore all the fukked up signs that dude has that fragile ego. I've seen it so many times with my female friends where I'm pointing out these signs from jump and they'll make excuses for the man over and over until it plays out exactly like I was telling them. And to be fair men do this to for some good p*ssy lol.

I have no doubt it's hard for women making money out here. shyt as a man with a good salary that's trying to find something real it's hard. I've had so many women that would see my place and that I had no roommate immediately want to get serious and have me questioning their intentions. I've had multiples try to use me as a come up. Two faked pregnancies on me. A couple more that flat out told me they want me to knock me up and all I can think is that if I was broke that would not be happening. I just use my head and vet my partner as deeply as possible to find out their values and their morals, but far too many people aren't willing to do that. They just focus on the good time now and figure all that later usually when it's too late.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

This is passing the buck to me. It sounds like these women you are speaking of chose bad partners and are blaming the relationship's failings on the fact that they are making big money. How about they just chose a$$holes and ignored those symptoms. Don't get me wrong I know there are a lot of men out there that have sensitive egos and want to establish that power dynamic in the relationship. But keep it real, a lot of women are attracted to that alpha male type. Those qualities don't just appear after marriage or after they start making money. A lot of women love that alpha energy until they see the negatives.

There are plenty of men that have no problem letting a woman lead a relationship and are often looked upon as being weak or not being man enough. The majority of women I know making bank like that want an alpha, a strong-willed man that can be the leader of the relationship but then aren't willing to be lead. Plus so many are blinded by things like good dikk or their partner looking good that they'll ignore all the fukked up signs that dude has that fragile ego. I've seen it so many times with my female friends where I'm pointing out these signs from jump and they'll make excuses for the man over and over until it plays out exactly like I was telling them. And to be fair men do this to for some good p*ssy lol.

I have no doubt it's hard for women making money out here. shyt as a man with a good salary that's trying to find something real it's hard. I've had so many women that would see my place and that I had no roommate immediately want to get serious and have me questioning their intentions. I've had multiples try to use me as a come up. Two faked pregnancies on me. A couple more that flat out told me they want me to knock me up and all I can think is that if I was broke that would not be happening. I just use my head and vet my partner as deeply as possible to find out their values and their morals, but far too many people aren't willing to do that. They just focus on the good time now and figure all that later usually when it's too late.

I don’t disagree with anything u said which is why in my initial post I mentioned how women have to be careful in the men they choose to be with.
It’s all about avoiding pitfalls.

 

[Astroslik]

This is passing the buck to me. It sounds like these women you are speaking of chose bad partners and are blaming the relationship's failings on the fact that they are making big money. How about they just chose a$$holes and ignored those symptoms. Don't get me wrong I know there are a lot of men out there that have sensitive egos and want to establish that power dynamic in the relationship. But keep it real, a lot of women are attracted to that alpha male type. Those qualities don't just appear after marriage or after they start making money. A lot of women love that alpha energy until they see the negatives.

There are plenty of men that have no problem letting a woman lead a relationship and are often looked upon as being weak or not being man enough. The majority of women I know making bank like that want an alpha, a strong-willed man that can be the leader of the relationship but then aren't willing to be lead. Plus so many are blinded by things like good dikk or their partner looking good that they'll ignore all the fukked up signs that dude has that fragile ego. I've seen it so many times with my female friends where I'm pointing out these signs from jump and they'll make excuses for the man over and over until it plays out exactly like I was telling them. And to be fair men do this to for some good p*ssy lol.

I have no doubt it's hard for women making money out here. shyt as a man with a good salary that's trying to find something real it's hard. I've had so many women that would see my place and that I had no roommate immediately want to get serious and have me questioning their intentions. I've had multiples try to use me as a come up. Two faked pregnancies on me. A couple more that flat out told me they want me to knock me up and all I can think is that if I was broke that would not be happening. I just use my head and vet my partner as deeply as possible to find out their values and their morals, but far too many people aren't willing to do that. They just focus on the good time now and figure all that later usually when it's too late.

shytted on her with logic and reasoning.

One thing I’ve found common among a lot of women on this site is, there friends and themselves date bum ass nikkas and try to project that on everyone else. I guarantee you the person you quoted is childless, unmarried and doesn’t even make 6figs

Haven’t met many women my age range (26-30) that make more than me. Just broke up with a big law lawyer whose at a V10 firm. Currently talking to a chick that makes only 1/3 of her salary. She’s way more feminine, cooperative and just overall a better person. That money shyt don’t phase me because I can take care of myself and my relatives BY MYSELF.

 

[JT-Money]

I'm sure they have a lot more on their list than a man making more money than them. A broke man that is in debt is not successful. I don't think they would be checking for someone like that.

But what if he's a hard worker with good character? He can probably turn his situation around but you won't give him a chance. And when dude levels up becomes successful and starts pawging y'all get mad. But what was he supposed to do when all the black women only want the finished product?

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

idk why lawyers always come up in this. i know a ton of them and most of them are married, very quickly out of law school at that

may be a racial difference there tho

 

[Astroslik]

idk why lawyers always come up in this. i know a ton of them and most of them are married, very quickly out of law school at that

may be a racial difference there tho

Your anecdotal experiences don’t speak for everyone. I know a ton of biglaw females who are single as shyt. See how that works? These aren’t average lawyers making 60k a year. These are women at the pinnacle of the profession.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Your anecdotal experiences don’t speak for everyone. I know a ton of biglaw females who are single as shyt. See how that works? These aren’t average lawyers making 60k a year. These are women at the pinnacle of the profession.

then we cancel each other out lol

also notice i mentioned there may be a racial difference as its common knowledge that blacks arent really on that marriage wave compared to other races.

 

[Astroslik]

then we cancel each other out lol

I will say this though. The white females I know are mostly cuffed/married before or during law school.

This cac I know is making 80k a year at Deloitte as a consultant(jd preferred position) his fiancé is at Kirkland and Ellis making 210k a year. The wage gap doesn’t even phase her.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

I will say this though. The white females I know are cuffed/married before or during law school.

This cac I know is making 80k a year at Deloitte as a consultant(jd preferred position) his fiancé is at Kirkland and Ellis making 210k a year. The wage gap doesn’t even phase her.

yeah, exactly why i mentioned that in my post. so at this point i think we gotta consider it may be more of a cultural thing instead of acting like black business women aren't worthy... simply because there are in big business. im sure you can go to any retail establishment and find just as many single black wome