1st date should based on getting to know each other first without using a lot of resources. Your goal is to see if the other person is worth the time and effort. Which is why conversations are essential and places should picked to help enhance the efforts. Walks in the park, Coffee shops, local diners or ice cream etc.
1.5 Casual meet ups in between just to show interest.
2nd date is about the fun, this where the actives come into play. From the movies to bowling or whatever yall wanna do that night. You both know that this is now an investment and you wanna see how she or he handle in a more fast pace social settings.
2.5 Home dates, its been almost a month now and theyre comfortable with you to come over and yall make it a netflix night. This is when they check out the living space, to see if your clean or if theyre special enough for you to clean up for them. This is a important factor, some many thing can go wrong here but also it can also go

but thats not the goal. The cuddle game is needed, not the stroke game.
3 final date is some where along a month and a half..maybe two and this is where the big guns come out, money shouldnt be an issues that person is worth it and you pretty much got them but you need to steal the deal and let the person know you care about them. Now that the sexual tension is at its peak, its bout time to make that happen.
This is how it should be down fellas, yall don't take enough baby steps. So concern about getting the girl or the puss yall become reckless and set your own selves up for failure.