That dead silence after the second date be the WORST! Edit: update in OP :francis:

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

yeah she definitely finessed u out some dates thats text book girl game

make you feel like u in there, get some attention from you cuz they are bored or getting over an ex, go on a few dates because they have nothing else going on at the moment or the dude they want is acting up and then poof gone

leave u at home like "what did i do wrong"

we all been there thats why this thread is poppin:

Anyone else kinda meh about dating these days?

seriously you sound like an early 20s version of me imma tell u this aint the first time this is gonna happen... you will become immune and can spot it a mile away ... then you will become like me and ask them to come back to the crib after every date cuz you know she probably will vanish or be on some bullshyt anyways

you gonna learn the game one day just keep at it

edit: also once you become jaded like most of us u will just fukk with girls who already have high interest and the only thing u gotta do is not talk too much

Nah. I don't typically have problems getting laid. As I mentioned several places in this thread there were factors that fukked me up. It goes come off like I don't know the game but really I have been trying to get past that silly ass stage.

To address your other concerns, we only have drinks both times. Just happened to be close. And last week when this happened I was literally on vacation. I literally started a new position yesterday lol. fukked up but yeah I see what you are saying. I appreciate your honesty. And I agree with most of what you said. This one I fukked up but as others have said in the end it was never shyt to begin with, so i never lost.

 

[buzzkill]

Nah. I don't typically have problems getting laid. As I mentioned several places in this thread there were factors that fukked me up. It goes come off like I don't know the game but really I have been trying to get past that silly ass stage.

To address your other concerns, we only have drinks both times. Just happened to be close. And last week when this happened I was literally on vacation. I literally started a new position yesterday lol. fukked up but yeah I see what you are saying. I appreciate your honesty. And I agree with most of what you said. This one I fukked up but as others have said in the end it was never shyt to begin with, so i never lost.

Got you... you might have just liked her too much. Happens to me from time to time and i always fukk it up abundance is definitely key

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

Got you... you might have just liked her too much. Happens to me from time to time and i always fukk it up abundance is definitely key

Yes that's exactly what it was.

 

[DapMeUp!]

I'm going to read the thread but this is pretty strange for this to happen on the 2nd date.

Usually this is something that a woman would do after the first date when she isn't trying to see you again.
Definitely said or did something to put her off.

If you get a second date all you need to do is not talk your way out of the puzzy
She obviously likes you at that stage just don't put your foot in your mouth and do too much.

 

[Abstract83]

You shouldn’t have asked if you’re gonna see her again - you came off incapable of leading.

Her replying, “you sure will!” wasn’t a, “YES,” so she showed you there she had doubts about seeing you again.

She may or may not have picked up that you thought she was out of your league and subconsciously started looking for someone who doesn’t put her on a pedestal before she’s earned it.

Don’t take chicks out on dates unless you’ve thoroughly checked their temperature prior.

Wasted time is worse than wasted money.

Time is currency.

Any advice for us dating app dudes? I've been on dates but not much has happened after. I'm not being thirsty at all. I've rejected and I've been rejected and im cool with it. I've been cool but I must be doing something wrong.

 

[BaggerofTea]

How are you all adult males and can’t tell when a woman likes you wtf?

Maybe is just me but unless she shows higher level of interest …

I dont deal with women who dont like me more than I like them anymore. Flatout.

Clingy? Only women I deal with are clingy women.

 

[Speaking Womanese]

Any advice for us dating app dudes? I've been on dates but not much has happened after. I'm not being thirsty at all. I've rejected and I've been rejected and im cool with it. I've been cool but I must be doing something wrong.

What’s your usual approach?

 

[The_Truth]

2nd date goes "well". Everything seems to be going in your favor. You don't smash but you get a good night kiss . You ask if you will see her again and see says "I think you will! "

And then the next day you barely hear anything

Suddenly the texts aren't coming in as fast and you feel the energy changing

The tone is much different, more sanitized

You ask how she is feeling about things and where do we go from here, and she ignores the question and talks about something else

Now you're left wondering what you said to fukk it up Even though you swore it went great . And she was feeling you hard as fukk after the first date but before the second

All this happened to me over the weekend, brehs. Her last reply was at 10am and I haven't heard back Date was Friday night.

It's over

OP, this is probably the worse place to get dating advice from. Everyone on the coli is a super playa who doesnt take women out on dates because it's simping.

 

[TheOptimisticCynikal]

I dont deal with women who dont like me more than I like them anymore. Flatout.

Clingy? Only women I deal with are clingy women.

This saves so much trouble and wasted effort/time. Attract. Try not to chase. At best give out feelers

 

[Heavy_Handz]

Women ain’t shyt. The same chick on FB talking about how her man is locked up but he’s the love of her life and they are forever is the same bytch that will invite you into her crib after a date and suck your dikk

 

[Abstract83]

What’s your usual approach?

Been on Hinge for about a month or 2. I've had 11 dates so far. I videochat with them first. Then We'll meet at either a coffee shop or grab a bite to eat. Most of them on there usually travel a lot and they want kids. I dont travel much and I dont want kids. I tried matching with ones that don't want kids either. We would go out once then the mood changes and I may not hear from them again. Im the laid back type. And im not thirsty at all. They said they're attracted to me but then they lose interest. And some of them I've turned down too. But ima keep trying.

 

[Silver Surfer]

It happens it's part of the dating game.....sux when you are really feeling the chic

Last year had a big booth young chic in the finance dept at work. Went out a couple times....was going in the right direction....but the dude she was already seeing felt the pressure and basically cuffed.

I got cut off......moved on

 

[The ADD]

Honestly two dates is way too early to get overly hopeful about anyone. Sex aside, until she starts pressing on y’all becoming serious (if that’s what you are looking for) then it’s reasonable to think it could not progress for a ton of valid reasons

 

[mykey]

Charge it to the game and keep it moving. Always have these hoes on rotation so you never fall short.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

You are right. I did know under the surface and was hoping I was just wrong. That's why I brought up that incident because I knew that was a sign she had mental problems. Actually early on there were little details in the way she worded things that let me know. I was hoping i was wrong, mainly because I was roped in by her looks and lifestyle. I am not trying to sweat it, because like you said it will fukk up my chances for something more real with someone else.

I'm honestly stuck in a weird place, a place where I want to get laid and I want a real relationship. There's the futility of waiting around and not doing the same things I've done for years and fukk crazy women that lead me down fukked up paths, but also having a dry sex life while trying to mess with wholesome women. It's a hard balance. As many say though, if you want something you have to put all your energy into it. How is that possible if you want 2 things?

It’s cool tho. Everybody has that one person that they might’ve been a fool for in life. Sometimes it’s a combination of where you are in life, your level of vulnerability, how much they appeal to you and your personal level of kindness.

We’ve all been there. But trust me, you’ll find somebody better looking that reciprocates and it’ll make you wonder why you wasted so much energy on her in the first place. This happened to me recently and it’s like day and night. Nobody should be chasing anybody these days. Because when somebody likes you, you ain’t gotta struggle for them. And if they don’t like you, ain’t nothing you could do to change that. So don’t pour your cup into the ocean thinking it’s gonna make a difference. You just as valuable as she is.