That dead silence after the second date be the WORST! Edit: update in OP :francis:

[SheWantTheD]

This chick doesn’t mind salsa dancing (a sensual dance) with a nikka she friendzoned.

The gall

Man if you don’t kick this chick to the curb!

If she can salsa dance and grind all up on a nikka she ain’t sexually attracted to, that’s a huge red flag in itself.

like another poster said ask her if she can set you up with one of her friends and see if she will lmao.

I’d tell her to hook me up with a shorty at salsa dancing and that the feeling is completely mutual and you weren’t sure how to tell her lol.

 

[LordDeathwatch]

Bih said we can be "dancing buddies"?

That's below her bench & barely above her gay friends. Hell nawl.

 

[Turbulent]

The salsa dance comment is bold, lol

I would just reply "no hard feelings, was a pleasure to get to know you". No feminine pettiness, no games, short, to the point.

 

[Ironman]

 

[J Money]

Text her back and tell her that you understand and agree to bring friends or whatever… Don’t send anything else unless she responds. If she does, keep it short and tell her that you will be in touch. She will likely hit you this weekend or next, you will have to slow grind this one out. Just don’t invest too much money and text her back when you don’t have much else going on.

the fact she was honest and kept it open...she is giving you more opportunities to turn her on which a lot of guys dont get.

id still talk to her but move on with other women. i had to learn the hard way to not take these things personal

Yeah she friend zoned you but she left it open with the language she used if you paying attention. Best thing to do is to stay in contact but not too much. If she asks you what u been up to let her know you been going out and having fun. Women hate that. She might let you tap if u make her seem like your something she can't have or if you dating other women.

Either way, good luck.

Yall the friend zoned dudes who still think you can eventually get the p*ssy by being nice friends huh

Man fukk outta here dead that shyt and move on. Please don't be that guy OP

 

[Deuterion]

It doesn’t take a week to reply no matter how busy you are.

shorty ain’t go to space nor was she without her phone for a week

I got nikkas in prison that reply same day.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

It doesn’t take a week to reply no matter how busy you are.

shorty ain’t go to space nor was she without her phone for a week

shiiiiiiit.

dudes put up with shyt like this.

couldn’t be me

 

[Hollywood Co]

Her reply leaves the conversation very open and OP has to chance to spice up the situation if he’s clever enough. Her honesty is good but I do get the sense that she’s looking for a man that keeps her on her toes and that possibly could be you OP but you haven’t put her on anything or moved her in a way that gets that heart rate up.

If you got a talent or skill, it’s a good time to flex it but keep it casual and let her know she ain’t the only one. You don’t even have to verbally declare it but just by carrying yourself as man in demand will force her to look at y’all’s situation differently.

I don’t know how it was in previous generations but a lot of today’s women like to have to prove themselves to men. It that way, they are even more competitive than men. To get that out of a woman, she’s gotta see you in a light of a king in some form or fashion, whether that your athletic prowess ,your style, business sense, etc

 

[BigTyme Records]

Her reply leaves the conversation very open and OP has to chance to spice up the situation if he’s clever enough. Her honesty is good but I do get the sense that she’s looking for a man that keeps her on her toes and that possibly could be you OP but you haven’t put her on anything or moved her in a way that gets that heart rate up.

If you got a talent or skill, it’s a good time to flex it but keep it casual and let her know she ain’t the only one. You don’t even have to verbally declare it but just by carrying yourself as man in demand will force her to look at y’all’s situation differently.

I don’t know how it was in previous generations but a lot of today’s women like to have to prove themselves to men. It that way, they are even more competitive than men. To get that out of a woman, she’s gotta see you in a light of a king in some form or fashion, whether that your athletic prowess ,your style, business sense, etc

Why OP gotta do all that if he already chilled with her twice and she sent that reply. ?? These bytches are not special. There literally dime a dozen my man.

Much better ways to use your time than convincing a woman to like you

 

[Hollywood Co]

Why OP gotta do all that if he already chilled with her twice and she sent that reply. ?? These bytches are not special. There literally dime a dozen my man.

Much better ways to use your time than convincing a woman to like you

Yea I was gonna type more but I know I got long winded. He can show what I mentioned within casual conversation and texting imo and my advice is only if he feels like continuing to engage with shorty. He can always just put her on ice but the door ain’t totally closed with that thoughtful reply

 

[pickles]

Hit her with the peace sign and keep it moving.

ETA: Y'all have not heard gospels of Patrice.

Let me bless you.

 

[Monsanto]

On one hand, the president was tweeting every second possible.

On the other hand, she is not stringing you along and is acting like an adult.

Can't be mad at that. We say we want women to communicate and when they do, we get responses like the above.

 

[O.G.B]

Nah!

bytch is on that bullshyt attempting to place you in the friendzone while using you as her younger "Salsa buddy" she can tote around and garner attention while your head is in the clouds wondering if/when/never you're going to hit it the p*ssy. In so many words, she told you in the text that basically she isn't trying to fukk & just enjoys your company (i.e, seeking your attention when it suits her needs).
If it were me, I'd text: "I truly appreciate the sentiment boo, but I've just recently met someone new that I'm vibing with now & things are going great. Good luck to you in the future"

Never, Ever Let Them See You Sweat!

 

[BigBrown21]

I know the feeling breh.

 

[AceMan]

Edit: She reached out . Here is the text.

Hi[Thatrogueassdiaz]!
I hope you're day is off to a good start! I just wanted to reach out and let you know that I've had a good time getting to know you. But if I'm honest, I have been very overwhelmed lately with work and projects around my home. That said, I'm having a hard time figuring out if I really like you or just your attention. it's very hard for me to come out to say that, but I did say I would be honest with you. I don't want to mislead you or waste your time if you are in search of a relationship. My hope would be that we could remain friends and maybe even dancing buddies and then let things take their natural course. However I will respect your decision either way and for my part there are no hurt feelings either way.
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Now I have not talked to this girl since last Sunday. And really it has been like 4 texts since the night of the date, so really since Friday. Today is Thursday. I probably should not even respond. I ignored her and now she comes back crawling from under a rock for attention. Btw with dancing she is referring to salsa, which I used to do.

Damn....Here is my advice:

She's too comfortable with you and not attracted enough. You should not respond to that text and delete her number. (Mind you, I said delete her number and not block her number.)
In your mind, you should be moving on to another chick. If she hits you up, keep the convo short and brief. No more salsa-ing with her.
See if she tries to win you over and misses your "attention"...