That dead silence after the second date be the WORST! Edit: update in OP :francis:

[Ezekiel 25:17]

This is why you never put all you eggs in one basket simping and thinking of one woman Head over heels over some broad you don't know. And I ain't even all that experienced with women.

Every man should be talking to multiple women, most of us don't have the option of getting 500 matches in 2 days

 

[klutch2381]

So, she's trying to have you out here like

while she's romantically vested in other dudes?

I do respect that she had the decency to tell you that you're on the back burner and not just ghost you -- as most women do now. Trust, there's a few dudes on the front burners that she is NOT too busy for. Can't tell you what to do, breh. However, I'm simply responding, "take care," and blocking her. You sound like you're at least in your thirties. Life is too short to be forging platonic relationships with women who aren't into you when you're closer to 40 than 30 . What I've learned from experience is that you rarely
make someone like you. Either they fukk with the vision, the movement, you, etc. or they don't.

Also, take all advice about why a woman loses interest with a grain of salt. Another thing I've learned is that no one really understands women. Not even other women.

 

[Deuterion]

Her reply leaves the conversation very open and OP has to chance to spice up the situation if he’s clever enough. Her honesty is good but I do get the sense that she’s looking for a man that keeps her on her toes and that possibly could be you OP but you haven’t put her on anything or moved her in a way that gets that heart rate up.

If you got a talent or skill, it’s a good time to flex it but keep it casual and let her know she ain’t the only one. You don’t even have to verbally declare it but just by carrying yourself as man in demand will force her to look at y’all’s situation differently.

I don’t know how it was in previous generations but a lot of today’s women like to have to prove themselves to men. It that way, they are even more competitive than men. To get that out of a woman, she’s gotta see you in a light of a king in some form or fashion, whether that your athletic prowess ,your style, business sense, etc

Your son is gonna be all types of fukked up in the game if this is the advice you imparting on him. I’m not trying to be confrontational but it s terrible advice and should not go unchecked.

If a woman don’t like you, she don’t…you can bench press 200 pounds on a bed of nails while playing Living La Vida Loca with your toes and she ain’t gonna be attracted to you.

nikkas gotta learn how to be like sports fishermen…sometimes you gotta throw the fish back in the water and be ok with that decision. If the fish flops back on the boat that’s cool but you should already have your line back in the water on your way to catch the next one.

When I get those friend zone texts I don’t even respond…that’s how you show you’re in demand. If she hits you up at a later date don’t even chit chat…reiterate romantic interest and try to set up a date…she needs to know it’s one way.

The salsa dancing and the dikk are like the left and right twix…you either get both or none.

 

[Flywin Lannister]

Don’t go on dates until you smashed repeatedly

I repeat:

DON’T GO ON DATES UNTIL YOU SMASHED REPEATEDLY

Y’all little nikkas got the game fukked up.

YOU trying to qualify yourself to her. You ask for a date. You trying to prove that you’re worthy.

EVERYBODY DOES THAT

Be different.

Let you be the only mf’er she know so cold that she isn’t sure if you’d fukk her or if you’ve got 10 badder chicks readily available

for a date is like saying

“I want to smash. But can I first prove to you that I’m cool enough to smash.”

She should be wondering “when will he take me out? When will he show me off?”

Women don’t respect dudes who are qualifying themselves through words. If you do you, and you are confident with who you are - they’ll come.

Trust me.

I been in the part of the game you’re in now, and I learned my lessons. That “where do we go from here” killed all and any power you had.

No woman doesn’t fukk because of being busy. That’s bullshyt.

Text her

“I ain’t no sitting on the sidelines nikka. Good luck with your future endeavours.”

And block her ass

or just block her without a message

I would focus on other chicks but if you desperate to hit that:

She’ll find a way to reach out to you, and when she does, be busy. “We can hang but I’m busy rn I’ma hit you up, I gotta run now.”

And let her wait. Slow the game down. Focus on hanging out, forget dates. She can come over and you need to be confident and just make your move without reservations (obviously if she says no you stop immediately - but if you flirt and she comes over, 99% chance she’s there to get down). Once you start fukking her: show no relationship emotions, play off “what are we” and “when can I see you again”. Tell her you got a lot of projects right now to focus on.

Stop living at the mercy of these chicks.

Also: if you can get 1 bad chick, you can get 10 bad chicks.

 

[Flywin Lannister]

So, she's trying to have you out here like

while she's romantically vested in other dudes?

I do respect that she had the decency to tell you that you're on the back burner and not just ghost you -- as most women do now. Trust, there's a few dudes on the front burners that she is NOT too busy for. Can't tell you what to do, breh. However, I'm simply responding, "take care," and blocking her. You sound like you're at least in your thirties. Life is too short to be forging platonic relationships with women who aren't into you when you're closer to 40 than 30 . What I've learned from experience is that you rarely
make someone like you. Either they fukk with the vision, the movement, you, etc. or they don't.

Also, take all advice about why a woman loses interest with a grain of salt. Another thing I've learned is that no one really understands women. Not even other women.

I think we can all agree - as men who have been with multiple fine women, women who had many options because nikkas was hollering left, right and centre - that being too available, over emotional, too committed too soon etc will turn them off.

For me, 100% sure it’s been way better since I moved into: no you should be happy to be with me. I’m not one of these losers in your dm’s.

 

[Max.]

2nd date goes "well". Everything seems to be going in your favor. You don't smash but you get a good night kiss . You ask if you will see her again and see says "I think you will! "

And then the next day you barely hear anything

Suddenly the texts aren't coming in as fast and you feel the energy changing

The tone is much different, more sanitized

You ask how she is feeling about things and where do we go from here, and she ignores the question and talks about something else

Now you're left wondering what you said to fukk it up Even though you swore it went great . And she was feeling you hard as fukk after the first date but before the second

All this happened to me over the weekend, brehs. Her last reply was at 10am and I haven't heard back Date was Friday night.

It's over

Edit: She reached out . Here is the text.

Hi[Thatrogueassdiaz]!
I hope you're day is off to a good start! I just wanted to reach out and let you know that I've had a good time getting to know you. But if I'm honest, I have been very overwhelmed lately with work and projects around my home. That said, I'm having a hard time figuring out if I really like you or just your attention. it's very hard for me to come out to say that, but I did say I would be honest with you. I don't want to mislead you or waste your time if you are in search of a relationship. My hope would be that we could remain friends and maybe even dancing buddies and then let things take their natural course. However I will respect your decision either way and for my part there are no hurt feelings either way.
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Now I have not talked to this girl since last Sunday. And really it has been like 4 texts since the night of the date, so really since Friday. Today is Thursday. I probably should not even respond. I ignored her and now she comes back crawling from under a rock for attention. Btw with dancing she is referring to salsa, which I used to do.

aka u can still buy me meals and maybe taie me dancing until i meet some mandigo off tinder and bush u for him!

 

[Hollywood Co]

Your son is gonna be all types of fukked up in the game if this is the advice you imparting on him. I’m not trying to be confrontational but it s terrible advice and should not go unchecked.

If a woman don’t like you, she don’t…you can bench press 200 pounds on a bed of nails while playing Living La Vida Loca with your toes and she ain’t gonna be attracted to you.

nikkas gotta learn how to be like sports fishermen…sometimes you gotta throw the fish back in the water and be ok with that decision. If the fish flops back on the boat that’s cool but you should already have your line back in the water on your way to catch the next one.

When I get those friend zone texts I don’t even respond…that’s how you show you’re in demand. If she hits you up at a later date don’t even chit chat…reiterate romantic interest and try to set up a date…she needs to know it’s one way.

The salsa dancing and the dikk are like the left and right twix…you either get both or none.

I already said earlier in the thread that a man shouldn’t take a woman seriously till she proves herself in a way that lets that man know she’s really into him.


That being said, her reply was very thoughtful and honest. I personally wouldn’t cut her all the way off, she just wouldn’t be a main focus. I’d kick with her if I still like her and that’s how I would personally come at the situation. Causal but letting shorty know I’m that dude. One way or another.

 

[Max.]

Ive gotten womens # texted them for 2 days and they never gave me a compliment aka ur handsome etc

so sometimes i make date reservations at some fancy place n flake on em

 

[MajesticLion]

"I hope you're day is off to a good start"

 

[Flywin Lannister]

Ive gotten womens # texted them for 2 days and they gave me a compliment aka ur handsome etc

so sometimes i make date reservations at some fancy place n flake on em

 

[Killer Instinct]

Negro if you text her back..

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

"I hope you're day is off to a good start"

... that's such a fukked up thing to even start with.

 

[MajesticLion]

... that's such a fukked up thing to even start with.

A wise woman once taught me to never make someone a priority if you only amount to one of their options.




Let her play her games by herself.

 

[Abstract83]

Best thing to do is make sure that you're the best you. Sometimes we have so many holes in our game that we look like Swiss cheese but we can't see it because we are us all day everyday. But when we get out into the dating game, the ladies can see it, they can smell the holes in your game and they lose interest. I used to have that issue a lot but once I got myself where I needed to be, I started to reel them in easily.

Last year I had a really good hoe phase on Hinge...was having multiple dates a week, was taking a good amount down...had a couple ladies in a situationship...would dump the roster and pick some more back up. This may not even apply to you but I think it's important to have that introspective conversation because they are losing interest for some reason and it ain't because of traveling..women try to change broke nikkas into a winner...if a woman likes you, she won't let the fact that you aint been on a cruise stand in her way.

She gon' book the cruise for yall...

I really appreciate the advice. You might be right about that. It must be something im not picking up on. And it's true if they feeling you they don't care about the whole traveling thing. I haven't had rosters at all. Im the serial relationship type. So I might be off my game. I might be a little gassed because I get a lot of props from females im not dating. Telling me in so many ways if they were single they would be with me or give me some. But I dont get too hyped from that. Its been a yr since I've been in a relationship. A 13yr one at that. I'm interested in trying. I gotta get back on my footing. But props to you though breh.

 

[Abstract83]

Breh, same story. 15 yrs in mine . Break up was the reason I found thecoli tbh.

You’ll learn the ropes soon enough. I understand the learning curb. But it can be done.

In my previous relationship I was too giving. Was so caught up I lost myself in it. I've learned to set boundries and push for my needs and wants. She was a really good woman. I wronged her in the past. So I spent a lot of time feeling guilty and making up for it. Felt like a marriage. But I have so much peace of mind now that I'm out of it. I can think clearly.