That dead silence after the second date be the WORST! Edit: update in OP :francis:

[swerve]

Yes I kind of ignored it though. She said something like "my life is not perfect." At the very beginning. Usually girls who say that have a lot of mental problems.

The biggest issue that happened in between the first and second date was that 2 nights before the second I had to put her in her place for saying something suspect. She asked me what my degrees were in and I told her my BS was in psyche and my Masters in Health Admin. And then I said I'm sure my personality shows how I was a psyche major. She then said "ok, I'm out. Byeeee". Then I said what? What's wrong? And she proceeded to say she didn't want to be psychoanalyzed. And I asked if she was serious and she said she was joking but slightly serious. Then I said "no one is psycho analyzing you. Why would you even say that?? I hope you're joking. That just really weirded me out." And then proceeded to apologize and said text doesn't translate well. I told her it was really weird and she apologized again. This was literally the night before the second date.

Breh I know this girl and I’ve met plenty of her.

I bet the only reason you’re feeling down about this chick is just because of the missed opportunity to smash. You were close but never got to do it so know you wanna find ways to smash. I bet you a $100 that if you got to smash you’d immediately have the realest post p*ssy feelings ever and see things clearer.

the cure is to find a new girl quickly and just have a fun and easy vibe

 

[QuintessentialMan]

Whatever the case may be its on to the next one pleighboi

Thats the cat and mouse game we play, hopefully you didnt break off too much bread.
Sometimes I get a goodnight kiss and i thought we were vibin but yet still the energy fizzled out and I think to myself:

well damn if shorty was gonna do me like that why she let me kiss her.....

then i think some more:

wait....i didnt exactly ask did I, I mean who does, you just kind of read the situation, lean in and take it, come to think of it, she didnt even lean and meet me halfway, my neck still sore af....damn that girl prolly didnt want it, just too shy to stop me. I unintentionally rape kissed the broad. Thats wild.

No seriosly though who knows the reasons why things happen, there are so many variables you gotta just take stuff at face value and forget reasons man. For all.we know she like you but she shy or her girlfriend says your voice is saw style creepy. I seen it happen.

 

[Amare's Right Hook]

Need a boat

Pull up the anchor 'cause we're leaving dry land
Get below deck with a d**k in your hand
Anchors away and shiver me timbers like to f**k ladies with 8-inch members​

 

[TheOptimisticCynikal]

Been on Hinge for about a month or 2. I've had 11 dates so far. I videochat with them first. Then We'll meet at either a coffee shop or grab a bite to eat. Most of them on there usually travel a lot and they want kids. I dont travel much and I dont want kids. I tried matching with ones that don't want kids either. We would go out once then the mood changes and I may not hear from them again. Im the laid back type. And im not thirsty at all. They said they're attracted to me but then they lose interest. And some of them I've turned down too. But ima keep trying.

This sounds like myself dating currently. I get looks, but I'm mid-transgressing into a different financial state, so I kinda holding off putting my full effort into dating until the new money is secured

 

[Abstract83]

This sounds like myself dating currently. I get looks, but I'm mid-transgressing into a different financial state, so I kinda holding off putting my full effort into dating until the new money is secured

Same here. Its really confusing but im not too stressed about it. Its only been a few months. Now if a yr go by ima have to fall back. I have co workers/ female friends telling me im a catch etc. On some women must be chasing me but that isn't the case.

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

Update in OP: @Booksnrain @SheWantTheD @Commish

 

[MoveForward]

Text her back and tell her that you understand and agree to bring friends or whatever… Don’t send anything else unless she responds. If she does, keep it short and tell her that you will be in touch. She will likely hit you this weekend or next, you will have to slow grind this one out. Just don’t invest too much money and text her back when you don’t have much else going on.

 

[bigde09]

Don’t respond if she reached out she want that Validation

 

[Cᵣₐₛₕ&ₜₕₑCₒᵤₚ]

2nd date? If you ain't smash at the end of 1st the 2nd date should be straight to the crib status.​

 

[Speaking Womanese]

Been on Hinge for about a month or 2. I've had 11 dates so far. I videochat with them first. Then We'll meet at either a coffee shop or grab a bite to eat. Most of them on there usually travel a lot and they want kids. I dont travel much and I dont want kids. I tried matching with ones that don't want kids either. We would go out once then the mood changes and I may not hear from them again. Im the laid back type. And im not thirsty at all. They said they're attracted to me but then they lose interest. And some of them I've turned down too. But ima keep trying.

Maybe you just haven’t come across the right one yet.

The easiest way to eliminate the time-wasters is to be honest about what your type is from personality, looks, aspirations, values etc.

Once you’ve made up your mind (and uncompromisingly stick to it) you’ll attract it.

 

[swerve]

Don’t respond if she reached out she want that Validation

Exactly

Don’t give her any attention, you will be friend zoned as a mf’er

don’t even text her back, she will go crazy if you don’t and she’ll be starting to ask all these question in her head. Don’t give her what she want

 

[jdubnyce]

Hi[Thatrogueassdiaz]!
I hope you're day is off to a good start! I just wanted to reach out and let you know that I've had a good time getting to know you. But if I'm honest, I have been very overwhelmed lately with work and projects around my home. That said, I'm having a hard time figuring out if I really like you or just your attention. it's very hard for me to come out to say that, but I did say I would be honest with you. I don't want to mislead you or waste your time if you are in search of a relationship. My hope would be that we could remain friends and maybe even dancing buddies and then let things take their natural course. However I will respect your decision either way and for my part there are no hurt feelings either way.

breh

dont spend any more calories on this girl breh; if she comes back great, but dont go seeking

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

@YaThreadFloppedB!

breh

dont spend any more calories on this girl breh; if she comes back great, but dont go seeking

Yeah that was some cold shyt she just texted

 

[ExodusNirvana]

OP I feel your pain...I been there

But unfortunately, you need to remember that when it comes to The Game? All men have unlimited credit lines, loan forgiveness, and interest free loans with no down payment required and no questions asked.

Charge it to The Game breh...charge it to The Game and move on

 

[Commish]

Update in OP: @Booksnrain @SheWantTheD @Commish

OP..

IMO..

No disrespect to you nor any other poster who offered an opinion or advice to you, but don't allow other people to influence how you choose to deal with this woman. That also include myself.

If you want to respond to her, then do it. Sometimes, we may respond to bring closure to the situation (which may be self serving), but could be cathartic in certain situations.

However, I can respect the fact that ol girl put on her big girl draws and kept it a buck about how she felt about you. Yeah, it was a soft apology, but one nevertheless...

Many women wouldn't do it or some would try to flip the script and make it seem like you are the bad guy some how...

Based on what I read on her text, she basically said what I originally stated in my original response. She didn't get that spark when she went out with you which is whatever..

She want to put you in the friend zone or send you to her practice squad with the option to call you up to her active roster later on when she get lonely, older, with kids, divorced and shyt like that down the line..

I can't tell you what to do, but I have a policy of permanently charging women to the game when they curve me or try to friend zone me. I put their asses in my version of the benign neglect program. Basically, getting on that program is like being on civil/social death row! Lol

They ain't NEVER getting out of it! They basically a step above a transgendered person as far as I am concerned meaning I don't see them the same as a regular woman.

I say all of this to say that I believe that the only woman worthy of my time & attention are those who want to get with me. Even if things don't work out, that at least she looked at me as a man who got manly needs and was willing to do her part in satisfying said needs among other things.

I don't have the patience to be dealing with women who are mentally in high school talking about being friends and dance buddies. So, if I accepted that position and we hang out, who is gonna pay to get into a dance club?

Are we going dutch? Is she gonna be cool if I decided to dance with other women? What if I want to holla @ other women? Will she be my wing woman? Who gonna pay for the food bill @ Denny's? Me? Or will she say some we could take turns paying bullshyt?

Nah..

Too old for that!

She said that she is cool with whatever you decide to do which was her way of making herself feel good about reaching out to soft apologize. It would help her clear her conscious so she can move on with her life and do her thing with other people.

Sorry for the long response, but I wrote this to let you know that I been there & done that many times over. I know the drill....


If you decide to ignore her, then do it. Me? I may ignore her or I would write a brief text(if you can believe that? Lol) thanking her for her honesty and bidding her a friendly farewell. After that, delete her number and go on about my business....

Thanks for sharing the update!

Salute & respect to ya!