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@Kant @Jayne @baqardi I respect it honestly. Being blunt I'm not afraid to admit that my mindset is toxic right now. I'm nervous when it comes to dating and it just feels like speaking French in Russia.
I have somewhat of a good personality but my looks get it shut down before I take a step. That's what made me obsessed with my looks to the point I strayed away from personality.



@AlternativeFacts

Idk how to really work on fixing the vibe I give off.
Keep your presentation together. Your weight/actual looks aren't as important. Keep your hair cut, stay groomed, dress presentable. If you have poor skin, start drinking more water. Try getting a facial. Go to a spa.

If it's your weight, there's women who specifically only like big guys. The downfall is this can be a fetish and if you lose weight, they wont attracted to you anymore.

Everyone has issues with relationships. What's the gain of attracting hella people if you can't keep them? That's a problem that attractive people (physically) deal with ALL the time, sometimes their entire lives. They bounce around and try to fill out voids from actual people they loved.

Even if you looked like Idris Elba or Pac, there will still be issues with your relationships.

This is so much deeper than looks.

Your looks that you feel you lack may be intervening and preventing you from meeting/interacting with ain't shyt people. It's a filter.

Look at my situation....

I look good and always have. I can attract men and women. But not everyone will immediately gravitate to me when I tell them my situation. They would usually have to deal with my personality and love it to be more attracted after the confusion or disgust, if it's not their acquired preference. It filters out people who ain't right for me.

We're dealing with souls communicating here.

We can all deteriorate from an illness and lose our looks. Then what do we have? A soul.
 

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@LordLoco funny thing is i actually used to follow these nikkas advice on here when i first signed up. none of it worked. absolutely none of it. there's a reason why despite how many threads and all this shyt that's posted about dating and women exist but nikkas are still perpetually single and bitter at the opposite sex. because having success on the dating level changes you as a person.

the most success i've ever had in dating and approaching was just coming from being comfortable with myself. no lines, gimmicks, nothing. all that advice that was on here that i used didn't work because i wasn't comfortable with it and it showed because that's not how i am at the heart.
Being comfortable with myself Is the main thing I want in my life. I know I'm not a loser. Ive had sex while I was big. Dated while I was big. So why should I let it stop me?
 

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Hmmm. I gotta get my school work together. Study more. I have some books I want to read. I think I need to work more on my weight. That's what sparked my mentality.
This bitter, fearful, mentality that only breeds stress.

So its weight
And clothes
Mentality
Be more social
That's what I'll work on.

actually stick with it until you hit a goal that you want. because otherwise your insecurities are gonna resurface and that will either ruin the progress you already made, or you will push away whoever you made progress during that time by chance.
 

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@Kant @Jayne @baqardi I respect it honestly. Being blunt I'm not afraid to admit that my mindset is toxic right now. I'm nervous when it comes to dating and it just feels like speaking French in Russia.
I have somewhat of a good personality but my looks get it shut down before I take a step. That's what made me obsessed with my looks to the point I strayed away from personality.



@AlternativeFacts

Idk how to really work on fixing the vibe I give off.
Okay.
First step in any problem (my nerdness is coming out :flabbynsick:), is identifying the problem!

Honestly you give off a thirsty vibe

Like I said, attraction is natural so dont be thirsty and dont force it. Dont talk to women with the intention of having sex at first. You gotta be natural. Body language is key. Chest out, dont slouch, arms unfolded and dont be stoic. Be positive. Be interested in her bullshyt and dont be a yes man, that gives off that you just wanna please your way into her panties. Like @misery said, #HOS :hhh:


You gotta find your niche too when it comes to expressing your personality. I cant stress this enough: DO NOT BE OR ACT LIKE SOMEONE YOURE NOT! The only thing you should fake is confidence

Like my niche is being over-dramatic to the point of goofiness and facial expressions. And I know how to be raunchy at the right time :ehh:

Experience is the best teacher tho
 

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Okay.
First step in any problem (my nerdness is coming out :flabbynsick:), is identifying the problem!

Honestly you give off a thirsty vibe

Like I said, attraction is natural so dont be thirsty and dont force it. Dont talk to women with the intention of having sex at first. You gotta be natural. Body language is key. Chest out, dont slouch, arms unfolded and dont be stoic. Be positive. Be interested in her bullshyt and dont be a yes man, that gives off that you just wanna please your way into her panties. Like @misery said, #HOS :hhh:


You gotta find your niche too when it comes to expressing your personality. I cant stress this enough: DO NOT BE OR ACT LIKE SOMEONE YOURE NOT! The only thing you should fake is confidence

Like my niche is being over-dramatic to the point of goofiness and facial expressions. And I know how to be raunchy at the right time :ehh:

Experience is the best teacher tho
You right. You right. I'm cutting back the Johnny bravo fukk shyt. Lol I'm gonna set my goals and start up. I got a lot of work I need to Do. I'm gonna start with committing for a week and go from there.
 

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when your computer's way of telling you it's time to upgrade your video cards by letting you get killed in game cause it didn't load your enemy quick enough

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@LordLoco funny thing is i actually used to follow these nikkas advice on here when i first signed up. none of it worked. absolutely none of it. there's a reason why despite how many threads and all this shyt that's posted about dating and women exist but nikkas are still perpetually single and bitter at the opposite sex. because having success on the dating level changes you as a person.

the most success i've ever had in dating and approaching was just coming from being comfortable with myself. no lines, gimmicks, nothing. all that advice that was on here that i used didn't work because i wasn't comfortable with it and it showed because that's not how i am at the heart.
Breh :laff:
 
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