there is not a deadbeat problem in the black community

[↓R↑LYB]

Everyone sins, I've already repented of my sins and no longer live that type of life.

I'm not talking about your sinning or repentance. I'm talking about the statement of "my hands are clean."

When those 2 girls came and said "I'm pregnant I'm thinking about getting an abortion, what do you think?", at no time did you tell them, that's murder you shouldn't do it.

Did you kill them with your own hands? No. But you're responsible because you didn't utter a single word to save those children.

Ezekiel 33:6
But if the watchman see the sword come, and blow not the trumpet, and the people be not warned; if the sword come, and take any person from among them, he is taken away in his iniquity; but his blood will I require at the watchman's hand.

The book which you use to base your entire faith on says your culpable because you didn't say a word. Like I said, the fact that you had the audacity to say that just has me laughing my ass off right now cause i think you actually believe it

 

[O.T.I.S.]

No one purposely picks a shytty person. They may typically be attracted to a bad guy but who really says .....I want to get involved with a shytty person?

What do women think a "bad boy" is in REAL LIFE though

 

[KinksandCoils]

So this female who dated this guy.

Did she ever talk to him about having kids before she got pregnant and kept the baby?

Did she ever see any red flags that he might not be father material?

I get what point you are trying to prove but a baby can change a relationship a lot. A baby can change individuals too. You know how many women are perfectly fine with having kids but can still suffer from postpartum depression? People can change all the time in any situation. Not everyone is creatures of habit.

 

[KinksandCoils]

What do women think a "bad boy" is in REAL LIFE though

17-21 are the ones that really go for those. I don't personally know any woman that says "ohhhh I want a bad boy"

 

[Blackout]

I get what point you are trying to prove but a baby can change a relationship a lot. A baby can change individuals too. You know how many women are perfectly fine with having kids but can still suffer from postpartum depression? People can change all the time in any situation. Not everyone is creatures of habit.

That sounds quite rare though.

 

[KinksandCoils]

That sounds quite rare though.

Ok. But I don't think it is.

 

[Blackout]

Ok. But I don't think it is.

Well its up to you but the females Ive talked to mentioned red flags that if done by a female would have me cutting her off yet to her it was ignored and bit her in the ass.

Ive seen this happen many times.

But hey believe what you wanna believe but I know what Ive seen.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

Agreed but it's not as rare as u think

Personally, I don't know anyone who that happened to, so I'll assume you're telling the truth and not a demon breh

 

[O.T.I.S.]

17-21 are the ones that really go for those. I don't personally know any woman that says "ohhhh I want a bad boy"

They don't have to say anything... Like many others in this thread have said, It's in their actions regardless of age

But ok, let's say they CHOOSE these guys at that age... then it's either a.) have a kid by them and learn the hardway or b.) Have a kid and keep choosing the same shyt

There are a few exceptions to both scenarios, but in my experiences, it's rare. History is the best teacher so if men AND women can't see the signs and learn from their mistakes then it's hopeless. And I did include men but this thread isn't about men. It's about women not accepting responsibility for their decisions

 

[KinksandCoils]

They don't have to say anything... Like many others in this thread have said, It's in their actions regardless of age

But ok, let's say they CHOOSE these guys at that age... then it's either a.) have a kid by them and learn the hardway or b.) Have a kid and keep choosing the same shyt

There are a few exceptions to both scenarios, but in my experiences, it's rare. History is the best teacher so if men AND women can't see the signs and learn from their mistakes then it's hopeless. And I did include men but this thread isn't about men. It's about women not accepting responsibility for their decisions

Kinda getting tired of men saying how women pick bad men when a lot of men can't stand their baby momas and couldn't stand them even before the baby came....so what is that saying? Men pick bad women just like women pick bad men.

 

[PartyHeart]

You are either not dating at all or you're lying through your teeth. The dating game is 100% the woman's world, why the fukk do you think men are doing shyt like paying for dates, sending women flowers, splurging on Valentines, and shyt like that? Why do you think average looking girls get more messages than good looking guys on internet dating sites? Cuz you have such interesting personalities?

So you responded to my post full of facts that refuted your 'logic' with no reasonable or debatable point whatsoever? Cool.

And you are absolutely correct on this, however, their are a gang of brothers who make wise decisions with their genitals....I don't believe this stance appllies to even half of the brothers in America right now.. At least not the ones that are 27 and up

I agree with you, especially the point in bold. To be honest, the people who I find arguing the most about gender relations and single motherhood are the Black folks that are the most far removed from it

I don't hear single mothers or deadbeat daddies complaining about their situation nearly as much as the rest of us who want to see those particular type of Black folks do better.

That said, there seems to be a growing number of Black men who criticize and feel above the deadbeats, affixing themselves to the "good brotha" category. But they too often defend and purport the exact same behavior/mindset towards responsibility as the deadbeats. Thats the scary part.

 

[Blackout]

Kinda getting tired of men saying how women pick bad men when a lot of men can't stand their baby momas and couldn't stand them even before the baby came....so what is that saying? Men pick bad women just like women pick bad men.

Who denied that?

 

[MAKAVELI25]

So you responded to my post full of facts that refuted your 'logic' with no reasonable or debatable point whatsoever? Cool.

bytch, the only "fact" you posted was that man are the ones who usually approach the woman, a fact which I never denied and everyone knows. What logic of mine did you refute?

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

So you responded to my post full of facts that refuted your 'logic' with no reasonable or debatable point whatsoever? Cool.



I agree with you, especially the point in bold. To be honest, the people who I find arguing the most about gender relations and single motherhood are the Black folks that are the most far removed from it

I don't hear single mothers or deadbeat daddies complaining about their situation nearly as much as the rest of us who want to see those particular type of Black folks do better.

That said, there seems to be a growing number of Black men who criticize and feel above the deadbeats, affixing themselves to the "good brotha" category. But they too often defend and purport the exact same behavior/mindset towards responsibility as the deadbeats. Thats the scary part.

When it comes to the coli, at lot of cats fit this description. Can't really argue with it really. I'm not a deadbeat by any stretch, however, I'm not gonna pretend my intentions are more noble than my deadbeat counterparts when it comes to most females. The biggest difference between me and them is that I wore a rubber or pulled out......

 

[KinksandCoils]

Who denied that?

No one but it's never discussed up here