There's such a big epidemic of Young dudes living with their girlfriend

Jaylen Tatum

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“She worked for Fox News
One of her mans that she lent her drop to
Won't come back wit' it so she want him clapped in it
Says it's important that it looks like an accident
She was snortin' and her eyes had bags in it”
 

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U know what's funny? I think u rly believe the bs u just typed. Forreal
There's always gonna be a couple guys that don't often step up to women. That's life.

But U think the majority of these "entrepreneur" women are with bums/no good guys because all the good guys around her are scared to approach/ make convo?

:what: what world are u living in?
i don’t know what you mean by “entrepreneur” women. And just because a woman is with a man you think your better than don’t make him a bum or no good.
 
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Anyhoo, being strongk is something a lot of blk women take false pride in. Yet they have this uncanny inability to apply this “strength” to improve the quality of their relationships. I’ve seen even the hoodest, hardest, self professed Shea butter, man hating blk chick seemingly rendered brain dead over some bum ass nikka she allows to dog her out.

In fact, I’m willing to bet a lot of the blk online female toxicity comes from bitter chicks getting used in real life. They pop that shyt online but can’t confront the nikka using her car to pick up bytches in real life, or put that Hotep nikka indoctrinating her in place. That shyt comes from a place of hurt.

White supremacy has functioned to make blk women the caretakers of the world and easily preyed upon. Our self-esteem is broken down in the media, many grew up in homes and communities where they were used and abused and so some blk women take this trauma into adulthood and their dealings with men. How is a chick that grew up in dire poverty, got sexually assaulted and BLAMED FOR IT, while navigating the psychological burden of growing up in a racist white society that devalues her, supposed to magically make great relationship decisions.

Black Women are socialized to accept ANYTHING in a relationship. We get the least in alimony and child support, high rates of physical and sexual abuse, and we are told to be quiet b/c anything is better than being by urself, although ironically, many take all of that shyt and still end up in that condition anyway b/c they make desperate choices in men they deal with that manifests the cycle of abuse they grew up with.

But there is hope on the horizon. I am seeing glimmers of blk women literally saying “fukk it” to everybody and being unwilling to be the workhorse caretaker of everybody while getting blamed for everything. Birthrates in our community are actually plummeting. And for every dude living with a blk woman, many can’t get a blk chick to even look their way. Not as many people are fukking these days as we think anymore. A lot of blk women are abandoning the American blk dream and living the “childless, comfortable auntie” life. What we are seeing is the closing of shop of quality blk women. Now the only ones men are left to deal with are the mentally unstable, diseased birdbrains. That’s why a lot of men complain about these chicks. It isn’t that all or most blk women are pieces of shyt. But the only ones left that will let u buss em down pretty much are. And they got 6 kids by different men with their coochies out on the gram next to a 3 year old. Those are the only ones left birthing kids and dealing with dudes. Other blk women are exiting stage left or are already gone.

No fight, no arguing. No nothing. They making homemade conditioner outta rice water, becoming entrepreneurs, hustling, and working and focusing on themselves. Blk chicks pooling together to provide revenue for each other’s businesses and shyt out here. Forming their own culture of positive reinforcement. And that’s a good thing b/c once blk women take their enabling crutch of support away from sorry male and female elements in our community, them jokers will be forced to grow the hell up.
 

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Homie there’s dudes in their 30s and 40s shacking up with these females eating the females kids fruit loops and playing ps4 , smoking weed while the chick is out there working and going to school

but u know what... it’s these females fault period for having bum dudes as live ins

nikkas would be in trouble if Black women were the monsters we like to pretend they are. The only reason a lot of nikkas ain't homeless right now is because a Black woman is sheltering them.

:francis:

It can but being in a bad situation and getting into a relationship can also cripple you if there's no real pressure for you to do better. A lot of men shacked up with women who know how to get it on their own feel very little outside pressure as long as they're providing sex and comfort. Problem is, men in these situation eventually grow to be resentful of the women supporting them and begin to exhibit self sabotaging behaviors.

If a woman makes a nikka into her son, her son will eventually seek out a girlfriend.
- Matt

If this is the case, nikkas gotta stop the "no one cares about Black men" nonsense, nikkas out here getting saved left and right by the very same women we collectively have deep contempt for.

Goddamn :wow:

Blaming women instead of the bum men being bum men smh

I'm not assigning blame, just stating facts because there's this false narrative that everyone is against Black men, including Black women when in reality Black women might be the glue that holds the community together.

Men are incredibly loyal to other men, but when nikkas fall on hard times, they don't look to these men to shelter them.

:hubie:

You nikkas love getting online and playing pretend but the real world will always tell the whole story and it's a lot of nikkas living from pillar to post that would be fukked if Black women weren't available to shelter them.

:hubie:

Oh, it’s coming. This next decade ain’t gon’ be nothing nice. Why did DrX get banned anyway?



A part of it is control. However, black girls are groomed to have a mentality of lack in the dating department & this drives the decisions of many girls. That being said, the decision to get with a bum is due mostly to women trying to prevent continued abandonment experienced by their fathers. That’s why the black nuclear family (defined as a black man, black woman & black child) is the #1 factor in stability & upward mobility in our community...even before money.

@Matt504 outchea preaching a whole word.

It's pretty telling how yall take this as a personal attack when it's nothing of the sort. It's just a reality in our communities.

:hubie:
:wow::blessed::whoo:
 

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Same here. I’ve lived with a man once and never again. I was too annoyed. I need my own space, when I don’t want to be bothered, it’s annoying to have someone all up in your face. Not to mention different levels of cleanliness, having his friends over, snoring, taking up the bed—endless annoyances, few benefits.

I see no value in cohabitation without marriage as it's the only thing reason that will make me willingly give up my freedom and personal space. For me, it ain't worth it otherwise.
 

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i don’t know what you mean by “entrepreneur” women. And just because a woman is with a man you think your better than don’t make him a bum or no good.

It was earlier stated that the rate of female entrepreneurs is significantly higher than that of men. So I'm grouping all the female corporate, upper paid as well as independent business owners under the term entrepreneur to make typing shorter.

Don't repurpose my words. A bum is someone that doesn't want to do anything of value except mooch off others. We can all agree that a guy with a good mind and good career is better than that. No need to change my words for what you're implying.

Now back to the point. A lot of these type of women choose these bums not because of some perceived shortage of good guys, no, but because that's what they want. Not all but a lot of women that allow that type of shacking up with guys like that fully choose that. Let's not act like that's not a common experience that's often seen and spoken of.
 

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I see no value in cohabitation without marriage as it's the only thing reason that will make me willingly give up my freedom and personal space. For me, it ain't worth it otherwise.
Exactly. It’s a young and dumb type of move And I know it because when I was young and dumb I did it, because I thought I was in love and wanted to spend every moment I could with him. Quickly found out how annoying it was, and that in the end, the benefits were few.

The annoyances and issues when you involve someone else into finances, homes, etc aren’t worth it unless there’s a “future” otherwise why deal with the hassle?

One thing I’ve never done and will never do is take care of a man. But I do know women, young, grown, and even old, in those situations. I don’t see what they get out of it, to each their own.
 

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Same here. I’ve lived with a man once and never again. I was too annoyed. I need my own space, when I don’t want to be bothered, it’s annoying to have someone all up in your face. Not to mention different levels of cleanliness, having his friends over, snoring, taking up the bed—endless annoyances, few benefits.
Cups, worn socks and shyt scattered all over the place.

This one broad had a take-out container on my nightstand overnight. Trifling af
 
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You nikkas love getting online and playing pretend but the real world will always tell the whole story and it's a lot of nikkas living from pillar to post that would be fukked if Black women weren't available to shelter them.

:hubie:

Like i said, you must be basing that on your failed life, cuz it damn sure dont apply to me

Do better matthew
 

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Need to be reminded that these women choose ain't shyt guys ALL the time. If he's a bum that gets it in, she doesn't expect him to spend on her like that....

But if you're a good guy with a career, all of a sudden they expect the most out of you like it's a romcom

Weird times
But wait...wait...let's not forget.

You're a good guy with a career, financial security, funny, supportive...cool dude but guess what you might be missing that will STILL make your girl cheat on you.

A six pack. :martin:

*Hits the gym after work*

:wow:
 
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