Anyhoo, being strongk is something a lot of blk women take false pride in. Yet they have this uncanny inability to apply this “strength” to improve the quality of their relationships. I’ve seen even the hoodest, hardest, self professed Shea butter, man hating blk chick seemingly rendered brain dead over some bum ass nikka she allows to dog her out.
In fact, I’m willing to bet a lot of the blk online female toxicity comes from bitter chicks getting used in real life. They pop that shyt online but can’t confront the nikka using her car to pick up bytches in real life, or put that Hotep nikka indoctrinating her in place. That shyt comes from a place of hurt.
White supremacy has functioned to make blk women the caretakers of the world and easily preyed upon. Our self-esteem is broken down in the media, many grew up in homes and communities where they were used and abused and so some blk women take this trauma into adulthood and their dealings with men. How is a chick that grew up in dire poverty, got sexually assaulted and BLAMED FOR IT, while navigating the psychological burden of growing up in a racist white society that devalues her, supposed to magically make great relationship decisions.
Black Women are socialized to accept ANYTHING in a relationship. We get the least in alimony and child support, high rates of physical and sexual abuse, and we are told to be quiet b/c anything is better than being by urself, although ironically, many take all of that shyt and still end up in that condition anyway b/c they make desperate choices in men they deal with that manifests the cycle of abuse they grew up with.
But there is hope on the horizon. I am seeing glimmers of blk women literally saying “fukk it” to everybody and being unwilling to be the workhorse caretaker of everybody while getting blamed for everything. Birthrates in our community are actually plummeting. And for every dude living with a blk woman, many can’t get a blk chick to even look their way. Not as many people are fukking these days as we think anymore. A lot of blk women are abandoning the American blk dream and living the “childless, comfortable auntie” life. What we are seeing is the closing of shop of quality blk women. Now the only ones men are left to deal with are the mentally unstable, diseased birdbrains. That’s why a lot of men complain about these chicks. It isn’t that all or most blk women are pieces of shyt. But the only ones left that will let u buss em down pretty much are. And they got 6 kids by different men with their coochies out on the gram next to a 3 year old. Those are the only ones left birthing kids and dealing with dudes. Other blk women are exiting stage left or are already gone.
No fight, no arguing. No nothing. They making homemade conditioner outta rice water, becoming entrepreneurs, hustling, and working and focusing on themselves. Blk chicks pooling together to provide revenue for each other’s businesses and shyt out here. Forming their own culture of positive reinforcement. And that’s a good thing b/c once blk women take their enabling crutch of support away from sorry male and female elements in our community, them jokers will be forced to grow the hell up.
what world are u living in?
