These single women over 30 be mad AF

[ThrobbingHood]

These dudes fall for the trap and let women shame them out of dating women younger than them.
Brother if all the 30 year old women are “leftovers”, go pull some women in their late 20s. Instead you‘re miserable and whining on the internet like those same leftover women.

Breh, this is what baffles me. If I wasn’t married, I would be easily cleaning up right now. I have these young broads choosing when I’m not with my wife. shyt, even with her they stay eyeing me up heavy.

That being said, you can’t be outta shape, broke and looking unkempt either. If you’ve maintained yourself going into your 30s, physically and financially, you should have no problem pulling women from any pool.

There’s a new group of women turning 18 every single day. I can’t understand these excuses these men have for struggling.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Oh its honorable until the ex jump back in, she doesnt respect you, or the kids dont respect you.

Dating a single mother can blow up in your face.

A lot dudes suffered the consequences and a lot dudes aint taking the chances, which sucks for the good single mothers out there.

Exactly. If a woman is widowed with children, most men will assume she’s a good single mother. She seemingly did everything right and lost her spouse through circumstances beyond her control.

Realistically, that’s not the majority of single mothers in our community. It’s women sharing the same dirty dikk nikka. He’s either a deadbeat or in and out of jail.

No matter how bad women talk about their baby daddy, she made a conscious choice to keep that man’s child. And please believe, she had abortions before keeping his, which tells a man everything he needs to know.

Before, being a step dad was seen as honorable, but not so much now in this culture.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Sounds like bro is the one who is mad. He's trying to punch above his weight class. The attractive, single, no kids women he wants would rather be by themselves than be with him says a lot.

Facts. They be telling on themselves.

 

[lib123]

These dudes fall for the trap and let women shame them out of dating women younger than them.
Brother if all the 30 year old women are “leftovers”, go pull some women in their late 20s. Instead you‘re miserable and whining on the internet like those same leftover women.

Breh, this is what baffles me. If I wasn’t married, I would be easily cleaning up right now. I have these young broads choosing when I’m not with my wife. shyt, even with her they stay eyeing me up heavy.

That being said, you can’t be outta shape, broke and looking unkempt either. If you’ve maintained yourself going into your 30s, physically and financially, you should have no problem pulling women from any pool.

There’s a new group of women turning 18 every single day. I can’t understand these excuses these men have for struggling.

Assuming like you said they're taking care of themselves and financially stable (men) or aren't crazy (women), the complaints really center around not being able to attract who they want. The men complaining want women more attractive than what they can pull. The women complaining want men who are more successful and/or closer to their age than what they can pull. It seems like a large percentage of women in their mid 30s to early 40s not wanting to date men in their 50s is throwing things off. Those same women didn't mind dating those men when they were both younger.

 

[Two Stacks]

Here's my overall opinion:

1. The best men and women (looks, status, money) and also those that are marriage minded and intentional, are married by age 25. Definitely no later than 30. Black women are largely encouraged from about age 12 to grow up fast and build a life, get degrees and jobs. And aren't taught how to treat a man, but what to expect from a man.

2. Today's modern women typically have kids by 25, at least 1, and most times 2. By 35-40 that may be 3 kids, with a divorce thrown in. I've seen multiple women in my HS graduating class get divorced. we are all only 39, 40, with a couple 38 year olds sprinkled in.

3. Step dads are NOT appreciated in the Black community anymore. of course I have no stats....but it seems that appreciation stopped somewhere between 2000-2005.

4. College educated, trade school educated, or otherwise solid hard working black men are not appreciated anymore. The average black 2 income house hold is less than 100k. this shyt needs to stop.

5. Being a multi time, multi partner Baby Mama/Baby Daddy isn't shamed anymore, it's celebrated.

6. Black Churches don't do shyt. They celebrate single mom culture and encourage single, moderately to highly successful men to come into the church and marry those women. Religion is these women's final form when whatever lifestyle decisions they made didn't work out.

7. The people I know who are married that I'm close to are as follows:
married @ 23, with 1 kid.

married @ 31, both parties had a previous kid. they just finally had a kid together after over a decade of trying.

married @ 28, the woman had a kid. they now have added a son.

married @ 31, with no kids (today, they just had their 4th kid).


Finally, my sister has been married almost 4 years (got married @ 33. My BIL has been by her side since 2009, took in my nephew, and they had a kid the following year. I constantly tell that man thank you for taking care of my sister and my nephew, because he did not have to do that shyt. He also had a daughter coming into the relationship.

Personally, I'm 39, single, childless. I've dealt with single moms as well as women with no kids. but no true lasting situations, and obviously I don't have any kids, nor have I had any pregnancy or disease scares.

 

[Belize King]

Hopefully we can leave this garbage in the 2025. It’s the same taking points. shyt in dating pools, men ain’t shyt, women ain’t shyt

As a person, prepare yourself to be a great partner. Be open to potential opportunities. Improve yourself, love yourself, and have hobbies outside smoking, drinking, and social media. Maybe one day somebody will present themselves. If not,

We all die alone right? If you are that desperate for a person, you will find somebody to go through life with easily. You see people bad couples all the time.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Nobody going to even consider married wishing they were leftovers

I just was on vacation getting the full court press by an allegedly married man....this happened more often as i got older....you see the allegedly marrried colibrehs on here JBOd out everyday, etc

Saying all that to say i dont have beef with the single men in dating, its the married ones that be killing the vibes....no such thing as a life that's better than yours

#loveyourz

 

[Bigen King]

You get leftovers when you not in sniper mode shooting your shot at females that you chose, not the other way around.

 

[Bigen King]

And you can't be a 50/50 nikka and want a bad bytch, a smart bytch, a loyal bytch, a childless bytch be asking her pay for the 3rd date as a test to see if she using you. Don't work like that nikka.

 

[jay83]

And you can't be a 50/50 nikka and want a bad bytch, a smart bytch, a loyal bytch, a childless bytch be asking her pay for the 3rd date as a test to see if she using you. Don't work like that nikka.

You can you just gotta go date in Europe. German brehs are all about 50/50 and will look at a chick crazy if she start talking that soft life stuff.

 

[JNew]

If your in your 30s today (2025) and have your shyt together dating has never been easier. Especially if you’re traditional.

The difference between 2024 and 2025 is like night n day. I’m mean it’s still the same feminist woman of the last 20 years but the wake up calls have arrived. Give it a few more years and it’s going to be like shooting fish in a barrel.

 

[Redwood]

Society doesn't praise stepdaddies the way they praise other types of men, that's why this is never gonna hit like y'all want it to

Where are the stepdaddy songs? And this will be dismissed as superficial but men that don't receive praise or appreciation tend to opt out of what they consider a bad deal

The only times it's considered "honorable" to be a stepdad is when it's being used to corral unwilling men. There's no "honorable" treatment on the backend, as reflected by society. Again there are no stepdaddy songs. What's the poppin stepdaddy movie that's permeated culture as much as say, Baby Boy? Mind you Baby Boy is one of the most culturally influential movies of the last 30 years

And this lack of general appreciation applies to the kids as well "that's still a child that will be grateful if a man took him under his wing" is not as realistic or common as you're implying it is. There are plenty(PLENTY) stepchildren that are largely aversive, if not indifferent to their stepparents

The reason Gen Z and under males have largely rejected being step dads is because they watched Gen X being finessed into being clean up men with little reward. This is also why "A real man" is now seen as a backhanded compliment for suckas

Had one with John Witherspoon,

 

[jadillac]

End of the day, for men, I can't speak for women, it usually comes down to..... Location and where you are in your career.

If you don't hit your stride til your 30s, you're suddenly behind in finding a legit partner
Now you're dealing with divorced women, women with multiple kids, clubbed out women with all male "friends", etc

And if you don't live in an area like Houston, or DC etc., you may have a hard time finding a Black women who may have slipped thru the dating cracks similar to the way you did.

Just my opinion

 

[Mass]

Its like waiting until your 30 and established to settle down is a crime.

 

[trix1234]

She didn't sound mad to me. She sounded right.

Hmm....I follow her and shes a single mother so I'd hazard a guess and say she was slightly triggered.

Bit leaving that aside, in another thread not so long ago you made a long list of negative traits you found in the men you dated so if you agree with what she is saying....does the same not apply to you.....in other words her point was that "what does it say about you that you keep attracting these same people" so if she's right then does the same apply to you?