Those of yall 27+ and older, has it become easier to find the type of mate you've wanted

[ill_will82]

I’m 32, and struggled to find women who were right in their head over the past few years.

One thing I forgot about was the woman’s biological clock. Now I’ve met someone who is 30 and I’ve onky dated her for a few weeks and we both have got on well physically and mentally.

She said she wants kids and marriage (in general I mean) and I never quite thought that I’d have to think of the possibility that a woman is going to judge you by that too, especially with the older woman I meet

I was smashing a 24 but she had no substance. Now I’m older I feel more refined. My banter is better, my pockets are deeper and my mind is more settled. I think I need to find a woman to match

It's kinda funny & sad at the same time because when I was in my 20's I was just focused on school and getting my degree. I'll be 36 two months from now and Idk how to necessarily explain it, but it's like once you get in you're 30's it's like you don't want to be bothered w/young chicks because of immaturity issues. Then it's like most chicks in they mid 20's - mid 30's already got a kid or two. Then on the other hand, I'm not trying to date nobody pushing towards 50 either.

Frankly, I'm not trying to be bothered with anyone who has or want kids especially since I'm pushing towards 40’s door in a few years. When I think about it, I might end up alone.

 

[Balla]

24 dates seems like a lot . Where u meet em all?

it's been easier to date i've had yes i keep count 24 dates with different women since November, all were attractive all but one had no kids, all had a great career, all were black women between 29-34.

I probably would have entered a relationship with a good percentage of them, but not ready to be in a relationship after just being engaged last year

All these women care is that you're ambitious and have a good career and no kids, and because I'm a christian and I go to church its just an added bonus as all these chicks are religious and there are no men in the church anymore.

 

[ImGucci]

It’s harder, you’re selection is more limited.

Most women over 28 are fat, they aren’t slim like they were in college. They also have kids from previous relationships.

 

[Balla]

Then date younger more in shape women. You aren't defined by your age.

It’s harder, you’re selection is more limited.

Most women over 28 are fat, they aren’t slim like they were in college. They also have kids from previous relationships.

 

[MikelArteta]

match

well I'm not looking for a relationship just seeing what's out there, and its not like I pay for their meals or whatever.
I actually like it because i have zero expectations so i don't care if after a chick says sorry were not compatible, or she says can't wait for the next time.

Like I went out with a chick last week sunday it was for like 3 hours she was fine as hell but she cursed like a sailor and i hate that and I haven't even spoken to her since , back in my simp days it would have been a diff story

went out yesterday only chick out of the 24 that had a kid, she was extremely beautiful and she even paid for my meal.

Meeting with another chick whose a nurse practitioner in a few days, in my twenties sometimes being single I would starve for a long while now this ish is easy

24 dates seems like a lot . Where u meet em all?

 

[MikelArteta]

It’s harder, you’re selection is more limited.

Most women over 28 are fat, they aren’t slim like they were in college. They also have kids from previous relationships.

false and false

 

[ImGucci]

Hear me out yall and answer this.

Why do yall feel an older guy has to settle for a chick the same age?

Answer this, when you are done with college, what is the difference between being 23 and 33 when it comes to meeting a woman to settle down with?

How come you can find a women at 23 after college, but not 33? Why does you being older have to stop you from finding a younger chick?

If you get with a girl while you're young because you feel you won't get any quality type girls as an older dude, you are settling, you are rushing into a relationship because you feel you won't find a capable women when you're older.

Everyone's different tho, some have did most of what they wanted to do and want to settle down, some have not done what they wanted to do.

All I'm saying is, if you wanna settle down young do it, if not don't settle. Do what you want in life first because it will make you go mad if you haven't done what you wanted yet.

How old are you, no way a 33 year old would date a 23 year old, your mindsets aren’t the same.

Like was said earlier in the thread, even a 3 year age difference is hard. Your mindsets are different, most young girls just want to party and and drink and go to clubs and bars. Most people in their 30s are past that and not about the party life anymore. They are just looking to chill with some one in the crib. Most young 20 year olds want to be out all the time. And not think bout getting handcuffed.

 

[Balla]

Hmmm I never did any online dating, you got any tips? I just wanna run some numbers up!

match

well I'm not looking for a relationship just seeing what's out there, and its not like I pay for their meals or whatever.
I actually like it because i have zero expectations so i don't care if after a chick says sorry were not compatible, or she says can't wait for the next time.

 

[Balla]

What I'm saying is this. You see how you say 20 something girls want to party and shyt? Wouldn't those same 20 something girls still do that while you're 20 as well?

If you're 23 or 33, girls 23 will still be out doing shyt. Would you suggest younger guys date older women with baggage? That's what I'm saying is that if you're 23 how can you wife a girl that's partying at 23 ?

But you have to find a type of girl that is not into that.

How old are you, no way a 33 year old would date a 23 year old, your mindsets aren’t the same.

Like was said earlier in the thread, even a 3 year age difference is hard. Your mindsets are different, most young girls just want to party and and drink and go to clubs and bars. Most people in their 30s are past that and not about the party life anymore. They are just looking to chill with some one in the crib. Most young 20 year olds want to be out all the time. And not think bout getting handcuffed.

 

[AB Ziggy]

It’s harder, you’re selection is more limited.

Most women over 28 are fat, they aren’t slim like they were in college. They also have kids from previous relationships.

These two bolded are what i'm most afraid of of women 28+

 

[ImGucci]

false and false

I don’t know where you live, but in nyc. Like was said earlier, most women over 28 are
1. cynical. They are jaded from a past relationship not working out.
2. Have kids
3. past their prime, and out of shape.

Just go on match or POF and search women over 28. With kids and without,
If you’re interested in single mothers, your options are great.

 

[MikelArteta]

I don’t know where you live, but in nyc. Like was said earlier, most women over 28 are
1. cynical. They are jaded from a past relationship not working out.
2. Have kids
3. past their prime, and out of shape.

Just go on match or POF and search women over 28. With kids and without,
If you’re interested in single mothers, your options are great.

I live in Toronto
1. Some are but that can be had at any age
2. Not all, like I said only one chick out of all the women I went out with had a kid, there are more single childless women than ever before.
3. Well yeah of course they don't look as good as they did in their 20's but black don't crack to many

And I am on match, i'll send you a pm breh

 

[360dagod]

I don’t know where you live, but in nyc. Like was said earlier, most women over 28 are
1. cynical. They are jaded from a past relationship not working out.
2. Have kids
3. past their prime, and out of shape.

Just go on match or POF and search women over 28. With kids and without,
If you’re interested in single mothers, your options are great.

28+are strictly for flings breh

 

[Balla]

Oh u said one out of 24 had a kid. Thought u said the opposite.

match

well I'm not looking for a relationship just seeing what's out there, and its not like I pay for their meals or whatever.
I actually like it because i have zero expectations so i don't care if after a chick says sorry were not compatible, or she says can't wait for the next time.

Like I went out with a chick last week sunday it was for like 3 hours she was fine as hell but she cursed like a sailor and i hate that and I haven't even spoken to her since , back in my simp days it would have been a diff story

went out yesterday only chick out of the 24 that had a kid, she was extremely beautiful and she even paid for my meal.

Meeting with another chick whose a nurse practitioner in a few days, in my twenties sometimes being single I would starve for a long while now this ish is easy

 

[MikelArteta]

Oh u said one out of 24 had a kid. Thought u said the opposite.

nah just one did
the one i met up with yesterday who paid for my dinner

she was pretty cool and everyone knows i had a deep hatred for single mothers