To the people that live with your significant other, let me ask you something real quick...

[Spence]

One of the worst times of my life honestly. I was upset bc it was my first and only child, upset for her bc she went thru hell for months, my mom took it hard and I was only 19.

Miscarriages are rough, we had one after our first was born and were beat up about it. Her body rejected the pregnancy and we both think it probably would’ve been our first son. She got pregnant 3 months later with our 2nd daughter. At some point we will try for our third next year to keep all their ages close.

If I had any advice I would say open up to counseling to see if there are feelings there about trying again, 1 miscarriage doesn’t have to condemn you expanding your family even though it takes a big psychological toll.

 

[jilla82]

the real answer is most people move in together to save money on bills

 

[old pig]

I wasn't expecting her to say she could stay. Like I said shes adopted so she didn't have any other family there. My mom felt that bc my oldest brother is adopted too.

just joking…no disrespect intended…I know it came from a genuine place on her part…still tho I wish my family adopted my GF at 15

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

the real answer is most people move in together to save money on bills

Which to me is one of the worst reasons. That financial strain makes people overlook red flags and end up in these toxic situations. Not saying all but it happens a lot.

 

[Peachstate]

Shes adopted and her parents didn't like her dating someone like me bc she was in all AP classes and I was dabbling in the illegal sales of pharmaceuticals. They told her either leave me or get out so she left. My mom has a big heart and didn't want to see someone on the street with so much going for them in life after all she's been thru so she let her live with us. Been with her ever since

Your mom should have told her to dump you. No offense.

 

[Dabrothawithnoname]

Which to me is one of the worst reasons. That financial strain makes people overlook red flags and end up in these toxic situations. Not saying all but it happens a lot.

And a lot of people dont leave because they can't afford to live alone.

With these rent prices these days a lot more people gonna start playing house.

 

[karim]

How long were y'all together before you moved in together? What made you realize that it was time?

I ask bc my older sister is temporarily living with me and my girl. She been with this dude for about 7 months. He's cool and respectful to her so I have no problem with him. She told me yesterday that she's gonna move in with him soon. She grown so she can do what she wants but the thing is she couldn't really explain why she thinks it's time. She said it just feels right. Me and my girl lived together since we were 15 so I don't know nothing about all that as an adult.

I'm just wondering what made other people realize it was time to shack up.

7 month would be too early for me, and rushing a relationship often is a sign of narcissism or other (potentially abusive) personality disorders, but she might just want to set up her own situation instead of living with you or they really clicked and it works for them so
When I moved in with my then girlfriend it was after six years and the relationship soon deteriorated afterwards. We split up after one year of living together. In hindsight the signs were all there before, so in the end, it's probably not really about the time that you're together, but more about whether or not you are in a healthy relationship.

 

[Sex Luthor]

Your mom should have told her to dump you. No offense.

Why is that?

 

[Sex Luthor]

just joking…no disrespect intended…I know it came from a genuine place on her part…still tho I wish my family adopted my GF at 15

I mean it worked for us but I don't know how it would work for other people.

 

[maxamusa]

How old are you? You're still with your girl? Sorry if you already answered that...that's thread worthy alone....

 

[Peachstate]

Why is that?

Because you were a drug dealer and your girl was a stellar student with a future.

My ex wasn't a criminal but he had other issues. His mother pulled me aside and was like girl, what are you doing?