Tyler Perry Suggests that BW settle....does not go over well

[Eternally Jaded]

There's a diifference between "she makes more" and "stay at home dad".

Ish is too often zero sum online.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Everyone gets online and tells BW to date damn near homeless men. Just take any old bum off the street just to say you have a man but then when his worthless ass uses you, it's your fault because you should have known better. I am so glad BW are waking up to this nonsense. The "Fund a Bum Foundation" is working over time to get BW back in the box. Luckily BW are beginning to see the light.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want a man to be able to afford the mortgage where was he living before he met me?

Girl the want us dating the homeless man on the street who smells like piss because he has "good" character.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Happens all the time. That's how patriarchy works.

I'm traditional and I love the patriarchy

You love the patriarchy? You love women having restricted rights and resources? You love living without bodily autonomy?

The only reason we even have the ability to read, write, have a bank account and speak our mines is because women have thankfully gone against the patriarchy. I am genuinely baffled how you could love a system that literally sees you as nothing but a resource baby making machine whose only purpose is to serve men.

 

[The ADD]

I don’t advise anyone to settle

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Education is key. Degrees are great (i have two).

but that doesn't make me automatically better than someone with none or one.

Stop. If they didn't add value to you as a person you would not have them. It makes you more qualified in many ways. If you have a degree in accounting then you are "better" than the average person with handling finances (general speaking).

Your degrees show that you can commit to something and follow through. Your degrees show that you are willing to delay gratification and willing to invest in yourself.

Degrees are not just a piece of paper. They are a series of events that add value to your life (generally). Don't downplay your accomplishments to make other people feel better about their lack of progress.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

i mean.... only if you arent able to get a man who can do more...



women who can get more... do

this advice is just for the leftovers who cant figure out whats going on

Seems like being by yourself would be a better opinion in that scenario

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Hate being associated with you nikkas sometimes man.

Yall don't see how much of a bad look preaching this shyt is, and trying to convince your women of this nonsense is, until you get your money up, get in circles with other men making real money and with real power, and truly understand how dynamics work.

There's a systematic narrative to make BM look weak and not masculine. And its not them putting these actors and homothugs in dresses, its with shyt like this.

Its in showing us as weak, and powerless, and incapable of taking care of our women and children...a basic fukking tenet to manhood across every culture since the beginning of time. That's how they accomplish the narrative of emasculating us.

They really out here in our face telling us that Black men are inferior bc we lack the ability of being able to perform basic tenets of manhood and that BW are wrong for even having the expectations that we'd be able to....and you nikkas want to defend it.

They are out here treating Black men like we children or some type of retards who you can't have any masculine expectations of, but you nikkas actually agree with it because you think it'll make things easier for you to get a bytch. Not even no critical thought for the implications of categorizing not just yourself but us as an entire group of men in this way.

No way I would live in a household where I can only pay the light bill. No fukking way. My first job was at 13, and by 14 my dad told me to pay the phone bill just to instill some discipline in me. But this is the light you nikkas basically want your women to see you in. Are you even hearing yourselves? This is what you are fighting Black women for? The ability for them to take care of you like a teenager?? What kind of man are you that you are even comfortable in that type of situation??? Like what are we even talking about here.

Its a reason the thought of taking care of a man is revolting to most women, the same way the thought of wifing the town whore is disgusting to most men. Its biological. Stop trying to convince our women to ignore their own biology and instead step up to allow them play their natural role.

Best post in this thread. Rep

 

[JamesJabdi]

i don't understand the movement of acting like majority of black men are bums or broke. The economy of 2023 for men in general is not that of the 1950's where a man could raise a whole family in a nice house with no college degree on one income. Thats a diffrent era.....I can't blame black women for wanting a man who can do all of the things....but so do every other woman.....and what are these women doing to stand out?

Most of these broads are out here fat and unhealthy, can't cook for shyt and don't want to listen to their man......they want the dream man but ain't the dream woman. BW gotta decide if they want love + good relationship or if they want to impress random people on IG and their bitter friends.

 

[Umoja]

Tell me how y'all would feel about this, and be honest:

Oprah or Beyonce or Michelle Obama uses her platform to say "Listen. Black men are typically more fit and easygoing than black women. Black men want fit and feminine and friendly but the reality is, your soulmate may be overweight and have an attitude because black women go through a lot. It's okay. Choose her anyway because love is all that matters."

Y'all cosigning that or nah?

That's not a like for like comparison.

You don't actually need to change anything. You could just swap the genders around as men are capable of earning more than women. In the black community, that is the norm.

You had to stretch for a different scenario because your lying ass knows people wouldn't even consider objecting to a man settling with a woman who earns less than him.

The "only being able to pay the light bill" is a step too far but the underlying principle is valid. As we move to a more a balanced society, more and more women will earn more than men. A more holistic view is required. People can do what they want in life but there is little sense in turning down a good match because a requirement eliminates 99% of the candidates.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

BM - You're a fat worthless baby mama who can't get a man. Your degrees and accomplishments mean nothing unless you have a man to "lead" you. Doesn't matter what he has going for himself. You need to see him as a whole person even though he only has to see you as a utility. Oh and when he eventually does you wrong, it's your fault.

BW - I wanna opp out

BM - No no no baby girl. We NEED each other. Black love! I mean do you want to die alone?

BW - My life seems easier without all that

BM - bytch! Oh sorry I meant to say my Blk queen. That's just WS and feminism talking through you. Using reason and logic is the job of a man. Regardless of how it affects you, your goal in life should be to seek my approval. Now quiet down and make me a sandwich. It's God's will.

 

[Biscayne]

No other race of women speak on being independent and not needing men like black women...



other women know and accept that they are expected to fall in line with their men

no other race of women has the concept of "settling" for their own community

Literally. Every race of man makes more the their female counterparts including black men. Yet this idea, that most black women will have to financially “settle” with their men of their own race, is based on this oft repeated and inaccurate notion that blac women by and large make more than black men. And is spearheaded by the fact that black women outnumber black men in higher education and white collar jobs. But all of that is merely symbolism, and doesn’t account for actual annual income between the two genders. People have taken black womens visibilty in white collar jobs and higher education, and turned that visibility into a fairytale of BW “out earning” black men. Which in turn spearheads this false narrative of “having to settle”. Having a degree doesn’t automaticslly turn you into a 6 figure earner. You can have a degree in a field that doesn’t yield high earning potential. It’s all a small part of the decadent veil. The black gurl boss billionaire archetype. It’s canon at this point. But it doesn’t reflect actual figures and reality.

Tell me how y'all would feel about this, and be honest:

Oprah or Beyonce or Michelle Obama uses her platform to say "Listen. Black men are typically more fit and easygoing than black women. Black men want fit and feminine and friendly but the reality is, your soulmate may be overweight and have an attitude because black women go through a lot. It's okay. Choose her anyway because love is all that matters."

Y'all cosigning that or nah?

Black women have been more or less saying this for years. Calling BMI racist, calling fatphobia “anti-black”, learning to love their curves and stuff of that nature.

 

[FukkaPaidEmail]

This argument is dumb as hell from all angles .

1.Tyler Perry Is a gay man and shouldn’t even be having this discussion

2. The hypotheticals in this thread are dumb as hell. I promise you the majority of black women in real life ain’t gonna think getting a 60K a year nikka is settling …that’s insane to think about
If you making 50K + and can’t get p*ssy there is something off about you ..it ain’t her .


settling is about having to live with bagging the corny /flabby nikka .which are the majority of nikkas who be in these threads waging war .

Example #26363 showing that The majority of the Coli don’t live in black communities ..

 

[Umoja]

BM - You're a fat worthless baby mama who can't get a man. Your degrees and accomplishments mean nothing unless you have a man to "lead" you. Doesn't matter what he has going for himself. You need to see him as a whole person even though he only has to see you as a utility. Oh and when he eventually does you wrong, it's your fault.

BW - I wanna opp out

BM - No no no baby girl. We NEED each other. Black love! I mean do you want to die alone?

BW - My life seems easier without all that

BM - bytch! Oh sorry I meant to say my Blk queen. That's just WS and feminism talking through you. Using reason and logic is the job of a man. Regardless of how it affects you, your goal in life should be to seek my approval. Now quiet down and make me a sandwich. It's God's will.

You stripped for white men in a run down shack.

The words "black men" should not come out of your when it is to do with negativity.

 

[The Half-Blood FKA Prince]

i would encourage no one to settle. Issue is the lines so damn distorted i dont think most folks even realize they settling without even realizing it.

Instead of a laundry list of demands shyt can be simplified with a few blanket qualifying factors:

-do they make u happy

-do u make them happy

-do yall enrich each other's lives?
and not least importantly

-do YALL LOVE EACHOTHER/and are u LOYAL to each other?


Whatever ur list of demands if they are being met the answer to those questions will be a resounding YES.

If not, no matter who is making how much, no matter how good who looks, no matter how good the P or the D is, the sobering truth is ya settling. Doesnt matter who is bringing what to the table at that point. Dont matter how good the cooking or how full the fridge is if it all came from a poison tree.

Or to keep it simple, dont matter how rich/attractive/successful ur partner is if u cant even stand them or they cant stand u, or u dont love or trust each other. Yall basically just playing house and wasting both of yall time.

U shouldnt have to make demands of ur partner. They either in sync with ur wants and needs or they aint.