Tyler Perry Suggests that BW settle....does not go over well

[Ricky Fontaine]

Tell me how y'all would feel about this, and be honest:

Oprah or Beyonce or Michelle Obama uses her platform to say "Listen. Black men are typically more fit and easygoing than black women. Black men want fit and feminine and friendly but the reality is, your soulmate may be overweight and have an attitude because black women go through a lot. It's okay. Choose her anyway because love is all that matters."

Y'all cosigning that or nah?

I can't even lie...

That statement seems like there may be a little bit of truth to that.

 

[BaggerofTea]

That has no relevance to what I said.

Nobody tells other races of women to date men who can only afford to pay the light bill.

What if I said other races of men take pride in providing for their women and work hard to make sure she doesn't have to settle. Would you agree? Of course not, so don't do the reverse to me.

you think women of other races live like Ms Ann, dont pay no bills, do nothing but drink starbucks all day. And all they do is lay on their back.


This is simply not the case.

3 married white male coworkers, all of their women are either lawyers or work in investment banking.


All their women contribute financially on their apartment and they go even or close to it on bills.



This narrative pushed by some black women online is out of touch with reality.



Some black women out here allowing themselves to be used as prostitutes by non black men for a season and let go just because they believe this nonsense



Come on ladies, wake up. All these years of "strong black woman" and "independent women" trope has warped yall minds out of reality.

 

[Cloutius Maximus]

Don't black women have more degrees/education on average than black men? Them making more money would add up.

men still work longer hours. you know women showing up exactly at 9 and leaving exactly at 5.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

@Peachstate kind of right Black men have a tendency to pigeonhold ourselves into the most basic medicore type jobs and be content with just that. That mindset has to change.

 

[MaxBundles]

I didn't find anything wrong with anything that he said. Black woman just over dramatic as usual

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

No other race of women speak on being independent and not needing men like black women...



other women know and accept that they are expected to fall in line with their men

no other race of women has the concept of "settling" for their own community

Sounds like a familiar case of get a dog and die alone

 

[Taadow]

Everybody settles

 

[Voice of Reason]

Black women do not make more money than black men.

Anyway, terrible fukking advice, and nobody ever says this to other races of women.

Why didn't he suggest that black men get their money up instead?

Because Black men are systematically economically disenfranchised in ways that even Black women are not. Black women's frustration comes because they have similar economic mobility as white woman but Black men don't have the mobility that white males have.

The massive new study on race and economic mobility in America, explained

Even black men born to wealthy families are less economically successful than white men.

www.vox.com

"the black-white gap persists even among boys who grow up in the same neighborhood. Controlling for parental income, black boys have lower incomes in adulthood than white boys in 99% of Census tracts. Both black and white boys have better outcomes in low-poverty areas, but black-white gaps are larger on average for boys who grow up in such neighborhoods. The few areas in which black-white gaps are relatively small tend to be low-poverty neighborhoods with low levels of racial bias among whites and high rates of father presence among blacks. Black males who move to such neighborhoods earlier in childhood earn more and are less likely to be incarcerated. However, fewer than 5% of black children grow up in such environments."



The inheritance of black poverty: It's all about the men | Brookings



“We conclude based on the preceding analysis that the black-white intergenerational gap in individual income is substantial for men, but quite small for women. It is important to note, however, that this finding does not imply that the black-white gap in women’s individual incomes will vanish with time. This is because black women continue to have substantially lower levels of household income than white women, both because they are less likely to be married and because black men earn less than white men.”




Yet it still some how persists when none of the main tenets are supported by data


The notion that Black women face the same amount of discrimination as Black men and boys is false

And the notion that Black men oppress Black women is ludicrous

 

[KingTut]

Tell me how y'all would feel about this, and be honest:

Oprah or Beyonce or Michelle Obama uses her platform to say "Listen. Black men are typically more fit and easygoing than black women. Black men want fit and feminine and friendly but the reality is, your soulmate may be overweight and have an attitude because black women go through a lot. It's okay. Choose her anyway because love is all that matters."

Y'all cosigning that or nah?

Your hypothetical isn’t even necessary considering men get told to settle on those things all the time.

There isn’t a single person on earth whose partner checks every single box that they want or fantasized about. Everyone compromises on something in a relationship and people who say they don’t or haven’t are just liars. These discussions always go absolutely nowhere because both sides constantly tell the other “well you can’t have it all, you’ll have to settle on some things”, which isn’t even problematic in the first place.

What is definitely problematic is a gay billionaire telling average black people what they should or should not be doing in their heterosexual relationships.

 

[Savvir]

I'm not sure what your point was either.

And any man who takes pride in being a provider would take issue with what TP said.

Tyler perry's advice is based on a false narrative in the first place...

statistically, most black women will end up with a man who makes more than them....

so being concerned about "settling" is just some type of cultural delusion in the first place

 

[Peachstate]

Them warehouse checks ain't hittin like they used to

@Peachstate kind of right Black men have a tendency to pigeonhold ourselves into the most basic medicore type jobs and be content with just that. That mindset has to change.

Also stop saying we make more women then Black women WE ARE MEN we're suppose to thats not some big flex lol and our women aren't and should never be our competition

Listen. No shame in working ANY job, especially since black men still face discrimination in the labor market. Salute, and I mean that.

My issue is, why do black women HAVE to marry down? Why can't she marry on her level or higher? There are real consequences to this for women, but bw are expected to look past logic and reality just to have a man on her arm.

 

[get these nets]

I don't see anything wrong with what he said. His target audience and the people who made him what he is are several generations of Black women.

And what he said here on camera seems to be the theme of his early films. I've never sat through a full TP film but working class men + professional women seems to be common pairings of the lead characters.

 

[Wild self]

This is the result of superficial standards like height, money, type of cars and clothes, and status. Reality TV fukked up the minds of countless women.

 

[vino]

Tyler Perry is another enemy to Black People.

Just looking to create more conversation of the the Black man under performing and the Black women over performing.

More arguments amongst each other, for no reason

 

[Peachstate]

Black men make more money than black women, thats a fact....

but black women have a narrative that black men make less than them...

and think they are settling...


it would be like if black women were fitter than black men (hypothetical)

but black men "think" black women are more overweight (even though they arent...)

then we are told to accept black women for being overweight (when they are actually fitter)

and black men complain about settling for fat women (when they actually are more fit)

lol...

it would be a delusional circle

especially if black men get offended for being told to be with a fat woman (even though the women are fitter)

do you see the actual issue?


you are more concerned with being offended over advice based on a false narrative...

than you are about correcting the actual the false narrative

I already corrected the false narrative in my first post.

I'm offended by the idea that black women should settle financially, whether it's based on facts or not. I simply don't agree and never will.