Tyler Perry Suggests that BW settle....does not go over well

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Why do black men have to marry down? Most of yall got kids, most of yall are overweight, too many of yall are miserable misandrists that will destroy any man's happiness. Not to mention the fact that alot of yall don't even like men that would positively impact our community. The list can go on... :mjlol:

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Dunno if he's right statistically, I've only dated 2 black women ever that made more money than me. One of them used to not so jokingly make it an issue, she was African; always badgering me about what my job title was; and the other was a lot older than me so she probably didn't give af.

It's not bad general advice, but most won't agree. Women like to date up and a lot of men get intimidated by being beneath financially. I've dated women of other races who made it a point when they found out I made less than them too.

Personally, I wouldn't give af if my lady made more money then me, it would actually be refreshing. I just rarely find that people are ok with that dynamic.
 

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this is confusing...

the pool of men make more than women on average...

but women are complaining about downgrading lifestyle?

seems like the real issue is that anything other than an "upgrade" is settling...

it's gotta be easy as hell to find somebody making the same money as you... from a pool of people that make more than you.

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TP was specifically talking about higher earning bw. That's who I'm talking about. A financially stable bw should not have to marry a man who can only pay a bill or two. Thats ridiculous and insulting.
 

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It's like the uproar over a bw attorney who said she wouldn't marry a busdriver. Why was she even asked that question? It's so insulting.
if a high earning woman doesnt have the characteristics to attract a high earning man...

(from a pool of high earning men that outnumber her and her peers)

is getting a lower earning man even settling?

or is it just accepting her place?
 

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I don’t like Tyler Perry, I hate about 90% of his movies.
That said, his advice to women was to not get hung up on monetary gain and instead seek men who love them, respect them and honor them.
If Black women see that as “settling” then y’all brehettes are cooked. Cooked!

Damn, I know money is important but y’all don’t have no balance, and then wonder why y’all stay getting finessed.
Money first, character and integrity second.
Y’all like it, I love it.:hubie:
 

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Why do black men have to marry down? Most of yall got kids, most of yall are overweight, too many of yall are miserable misandrists that will destroy any man's happiness. Not to mention the fact that alot of yall don't even like men that would positively impact our community. The list can go on... :mjlol:
Y'all don't. And you aren't. So you're proving my point lol
 

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Why do black men have to marry down? Most of yall got kids, most of yall are overweight, too many of yall are miserable misandrists that will destroy any man's happiness. Not to mention the fact that alot of yall don't even like men that would positively impact our community. The list can go on... :mjlol:
:ehh:facts
 

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I already corrected the false narrative in my first post.

I'm offended by the idea that black women should settle financially, whether it's based on facts or not. I simply don't agree and never will.
What I’m not understanding is how are bw settling if bm make more than them?

If a certain bw makes a lot, why can’t she date a bm who makes more than her?

If bm make more than bw as a whole, no, bw are not forced to settling, they choose to settle or they can’t get the man they want.
 

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That's not who TP is talking about though. He's talking about high earning bw.

It's like the uproar over a bw attorney who said she wouldn't marry a busdriver. Why was she even asked that question? It's so insulting.



What if I told you a lady can be a waitress, but if she's beautiful, smart, and feminine, a billionaire man will marry her? :jbhmm:
 

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What I’m not understanding is how are bw settling if bm make more than them?

If a certain bw makes a lot, why can’t she date a bm who makes more than her?

If bm make more than bw as a whole, no, bw are not forced to settling, they choose to settle or they can’t get the man they want.

:pachaha:
 

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It was a joke!
Do ya’ll ever get tired of getting mad and arguing over this shyt :russ:

Its the same exact arguement day in and day out
People who have nothing going on start talking in blanket statements to make themselves feel like they're part of something

I bet my coli cash a majority of ppl arguing about BM dating this, BW dating that are single...if I'm busy getting my dikk sucked, I'm not gonna be worrying about what "Ms. Unwashed Coochie" or "RedpillBlackViking" has to say about something
 

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What no one has mentioned is how Settling and Dating Down is 100% dummy shyt.

Why? Because that argument is surrounded purely by income. Just because you make more money than someone doesn't make you better than them. It's poor people that have way more humility and genuine humane acts than rich people.

bytches who talk about Settling and Dating Down are walking red flags.




I agree Finances is the biggest box. But these women aren't talking about monetary investments. They want big houses, luxury cars, fine dining and travel. A couple bringing in $120k together can be very comfortable. But let these women tell it, a man making $60k ain't enough.:skip:


You don't need a $200k salary to live comfortable, but you do need it if you want to go to Paris/Dubai.:comeon:

The only broads I see saying stuff like that are the ones calling dudes "Broke" or "stingy" for not sending them money or offer to pay bills before they've gone out on a date.
 
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