Tyler Perry Suggests that BW settle....does not go over well

[The ADD]

nobody said all. a large segment of middle class bm exist who are unmarried because of the pettiness of bw and threads like this that further delude the minds of bw across the country with false info. reinforcing the narrative of “nikkas not being shyt” when a majority of bw could simply choose better and look past all the dumb love and hip hop glitz and glamour and trying to live out a hip hop music video their entire lives

Is it truly a large segment that are married solely for that reason? That seems like a reach. Too many factors at play to actually getting married to say that.

 

[Jekyll]

That has no relevance to what I said.

Nobody tells other races of women to date men who can only afford to pay the light bill.

What if I said other races of men take pride in providing for their women and work hard to make sure she doesn't have to settle. Would you agree? Of course not, so don't do the reverse to me.

Probably because it’s mainly black women living in this delusional social media narrative that most women are being taken care of without having to work.

Meanwhile the average salary barely allows you to rent without being house poor in most big cities. Anybody fighting these crazy unrealistic dating standards is doing god’s work in our broken ass communities.

 

[africngiant]

Is it truly a large segment that are married solely for that reason? That seems like a reach. Too many factors at play to actually getting married to say that.

bw have horrible mentalities

“take me as i am, you better bend over backwards for me and my 2 kids by another father”

“im fat and covered in makeup but im a thick bad bytch” “i ain’t settling for no ashy lame nikka who ain’t on my level”

you’re right they’re above your level stop being so delusional…

it’s 1000s that look just like you but you’re tryna get chose by a mythical nikka when maybe you should finally humble yourself.

that nikka if he existed wouldn’t be worried about you anyway

 

[Surreal]

Other than that corny example of light bill, what did he say incorrect?

 

[The ADD]

bw have horrible mentalities

“take me as i am, you better bend over backwards for me and my 2 kids by another father”

“im fat and covered in makeup but im a thick bad bytch” “i ain’t settling for no ashy lame nikka who ain’t on my level”

you’re right they’re above your level stop being so delusional…

it’s 1000s that look just like you but you’re tryna get chose by a mythical nikka when maybe you should finally humble yourself.

that nikka if he existed wouldn’t be worried about you anyway

I imagine you meant to quote someone else because this has zero to do with my post.

 

[CBalla]

Sounds like a lot of wild assumptions and conjecture tbh because I never once put MYSELF in it. Sorry that your circumstances have made you feel generally inadequate tho

You said
“Also, a woman can be good, loyal and wholesome without entertaining men below her tax bracket. Entertaining bums, losers, scammers and broke nikkas is NOT a virtue. “


Which says alot about you

You getting in your feelings and projecting and even feeling the need to reply to my initial post which didnt @ mention or quote you says alot about you

A hit dog will holler

 

[africngiant]

I imagine you meant to quote someone else because this has zero to do with my post.

a lot of the dating issues gen z women have stems from their own delusions and poor decision making abilities

 

[Rollie Forbes]

 

[The ADD]

a lot of the dating issues gen z women have stems from their own delusions and poor decision making abilities

But that doesn’t address my point at all.

 

[Eternally Jaded]

Your first mistake was thinking the modern woman is afraid of "ending up single".

I know it's a tough pill to swallow but a lot of y'all favorite aunties and grandmas pulled your sisters and girl cousins aside early on in life and schooled them about the realities of marriage and relationships to a point where it made them think twice.

Also, a woman can be good, loyal and wholesome without entertaining men below her tax bracket. Entertaining bums, losers, scammers and broke nikkas is NOT a virtue. I also don't know why you as a man would be okay with your woman leveling you up like this.

But at the same time, as soon as a chick is supporting a bum nikka and things go left, y'all are quick to say she "should've chose better" so which is it???

I think the general point is that a specific tax bracket(over/under) won't decide the overall quality of your relationship.

Basically Tyler is saying that sometimes people(bw specifically in this case) need to get out of their own way, if a fulfilling relationship is what they really want.

An anecdote from my own life, all the most solid relationships I know of, are between people who both met in the middle.
There weren't any Prince's sweeping up peasant girls, it was men and women with God as the bedrock of their relationship.
Was it perfect? Hard no.

Still together, and all love though? Yes.

 

[Uachet]

The best men who have their act together can do is avoid the delusional women, no matter her ethnicity, and seek out a woman who is more grounded in her outlook on relationships. Worrying over trying to get women to change their position is almost like trying to get teenagers to stop doing something they like. They will double down on it, just because they prefer their present outlook to what other outlook you are trying to convince them to take. So instead of doing that, just seek out a woman that has the outlook you desire.

You have to judge them by their character though. If you are seeking relationships with women based solely on their looks, you will be disappointed and frustrated over and over again. Just like they suffer the same over and over again when they are seeking relationships with men based solely on financial status. Your lust for her body and her lust for your wallet leaves both of you angry and bitter at your most likely outcomes.

If you take the time to have a meeting of the minds, then you both can build something great together. The trick for you brothers is to actually pay attention to her and determine where her mind actually is, i.e. her character and outlook on relationships. Be willing to walk away if you two are not compatible, instead of wasting your time trying to convince her to change.

Oh and last, if you feel that finding a woman here in the US is impossible or undesirable for you, there is a whole world of women out there. If you have the means, there is no reason to limit yourself to one geographic area in your search. Don't let anyone dissuade you from your search either. Finding a good wife is worth the effort in time, patience, and expenditures to do. A compatible couple can make life far easier than an incompatible one.

 

[africngiant]

But that doesn’t address my point at all.

it pretty much does though. women choose who to fw so they should choose better it’s plenty of decent men out here who are trying

 

[CBalla]

I think the general point is that a specific tax bracket(over/under) won't decide the overall quality of your relationship.

Basically Tyler is saying that sometimes people(bw specifically in this case) need to get out of their own way, if a fulfilling relationship is what they really want.

An anecdote from my own life, all the most solid relationships I know of, are between people who both met in the middle.
There weren't any Prince's sweeping up peasant girls, it was men and women with God as the bedrock of their relationship.
Was it perfect? Hard no.

Still together, and all love though? Yes.

imagine passing up on someone that is great in all qualities because they are 1-3 tax brackets lower than you whoever does that deserves to be single / miserable

 

[The ADD]

it pretty much does though. women choose who to fw so they should choose better it’s plenty of decent men out here who are trying

But you said a large portion of single men are not married solely because of the choice black women make and I don’t think you have any real basis to say that. It assumes that most of that number you quoted is actively trying to get married and we know that’s likely untrue.

A lot of this conversation conflates not getting married what you want out of dating with marriage those aren’t always aligned.

 

[Eternally Jaded]

imagine passing up on someone that is great in all qualities because they are 1-3 tax brackets lower than you whoever does that deserves to be single / miserable

I'm gonna say this though; the leading cause of divorce isn't infidelity or domestic violence but financial issues.

The thing is, if she's got it and her issue is she feels like he doesn't, then ultimately that's HER issue.
And if she can't get past it, then there's nothing wrong if she decides it's a deal breaker and splits.
Just don't be upset or bitter if another woman falls in love with what you fell in love with about him, and takes it to the finish line, money be damned.

Money don't make anyone happy, but the quality of the people you spend it with does.

Damn, I just described Acrimony I think, but the realistic version where ole boy's tech never landed.