Tyler Perry Suggests that BW settle....does not go over well

[Savvir]

Both statements are untrue.

I wonder how we got to a point where one of the main talking points of the women in our community are not in line with reality.

Black men are so looked down upon, that our women aren’t even satisfied with complaining about our actual flaws. We’re being judged by flaws that don’t even exist.

 

[NO-BadAzz]

But you said a large portion of single men are not married solely because of the choice black women make and I don’t think you have any real basis to say that. It assumes that most of that number you quoted is actively trying to get married and we know that’s likely untrue.

Out of the 51% of bm that are single and childless, 64% are in the middle class

What % would you say wants to get married and have a family?

Over half of BM are single and childless, and half are in the middle class

These men are doing pretty well in life, most are doing better than women from the numbers.

Also, should those men marry the women they come across?

 

[africngiant]

But you said a large portion of single men are not married solely because of the choice black women make and I don’t think you have any real basis to say that. It assumes that most of that number you quoted is actively trying to get married and we know that’s likely untrue.

i understand, im ultimately saying a middle class bw still has virtually no excuse to not be able to find a decent middle class bm of her equal. i think a lot would rather look for some bs excuse to not go through with it because they don’t want to compromise with that man or they’re just too delusional and want to keep on having their “fun” forever

 

[Wiseborn]

Hmmm…

In a capitalist society; how can a group have more economic power but still be subject to a group with less economic power?

They cant. The whole "Black women are doing better" because they got an associates at ICDC was cap from day one

 

[The ADD]

i understand, im ultimately saying a middle class bw still has no virtually excuse to not be able to find a decent middle class bm of her equal. i think a lot would rather look for some bs excuse to not go through with it because they don’t want to compromise with that man or they’re just too delusional and want to keep on having their “fun” forever

Yeah but that’s very far off from your original statement. So much hyperbole for someone with limited dating experience.

 

[Savvir]

They cant. The whole "Black women are doing better" because they got an associates at ICDC was cap from day one

I edited my post to reflect what you said. Woke up half asleep, thought your post said “true”

 

[africngiant]

Yeah but that’s very far off from your original statement. So much hyperbole for someone with limited dating experience.

how is that off from my original statement at all?

 

[Wiseborn]

I edited my post to reflect what you said. Woke up half asleep, thought your post said “true”

Yep no patriarchy and no real boss bytches like that outside a few examples

 

[CBalla]

I'm gonna say this though; the leading cause of divorce isn't infidelity or domestic violence but financial issues.

The thing is, if she's got it and her issue is she feels like he doesn't, then ultimately that's HER issue.
And if she can't get past it, then there's nothing wrong if she decides it's a deal breaker and splits.
Just don't be upset or bitter if another woman falls in love with what you fell in love with about him, and takes it to the finish line, money be damned.

Money don't make anyone happy, but the quality of the people you spend it with does.

Damn, I just described Acrimony I think, but the realistic version where ole boy's tech never landed.

heres the killa part tho, lotta these college educated women who make 38k-90k have issues because they tryna impress other on social media.

you can make good money but if you dont know how to manage it, it wont matter if the other person is in your tax bracket or not

i def understand where you coming from with your post tho

 

[africngiant]

I find that it's a very complex issue that tends to lean towards extremes on opposing sides with little middle ground. I know a dude from DC that looks like he don't have a problem getting a woman but he struggles. Once they realize he's not a street ninja, or a super high earner and will actually treat them nice, they dead the situation.... It's disgusting for normal black men.

facts…

 

[The ADD]

how is that off from my original statement at all?

“a large segment of middle class bm exist who are unmarried because of the pettiness of bw”

That’s not the same as saying middle class bw have no excuse for not find an equal bm.

 

[africngiant]

“a large segment of middle class bm exist who are unmarried because of the pettiness of bw”

That’s not the same as saying middle class bw have no excuse for not find an equal bm.

my conclusion is that bw should stop being so delusional and petty which is pretty much the premise of this thread

 

[The ADD]

my conclusion is that bw should stop being so delusional and petty which is pretty much the premise of this thread

But again not the statement I responded too. You’ve walked that portion back so my work here is done.

 

[Savvir]

BW - I wanna opp out

BM - No no no baby girl. We NEED each other. Black love! I mean do you want to die alone?

BW - My life seems easier without all that

1. 75% of our women are opting out after having children with the same black men that “ain’t on their “level”

2. Statistics show that their life is actually much harder without having a man. Life expectancy lower, likelihood of poverty/financial hardship is higher, success rate and health of the children are lower. So the accepted sentiment of our own community is completely out of line with the data from reality.

The result of the Mindstate based on that false narrative is a worse community overall. At least judge men on their actual flaws so we can accept that we’ve earned the vitriol we grow up hearing.

 

[saturn7]

will never understand where this bullshyt narrative came from

I think it is because the women think that because they have greater numbers in college enrollment/degrees that they automatically make more than brothas.