Washington Post: Hookup Culture Isn’t The Real Problem Facing Singles Today. It’s Math.

[Bless't]

of course you can. it just implies you prolly wanna meet someone else

or maybe you'll be unmarried forever, which is also cool. i just hope you got the genetics that will keep you getting laid into your 70s :intoodeep:

Why does me not looking to marry someone imply that I'm looking for someone else?

That's an old school mentality breh. People do actually stay together without getting married in this day and age. *gasp*

 

[Ashley Banks]

Look,you arent understanding me. Do you know why dudes complain so much about the 30+ women? They come with baggage and hangups. Its to be expected. Im not chiding you, im saying, what you *think* your partner feels and what he actually feels can be two different things. Same for him. If hes out late at 3am and he didnt contact you, are you going to call with concern or call because you are afraid he is with another woman? Or the second time it happens? The third? The overly friendly girl at his job....and him being out late...will you trust him or just go with the assumption he is cheating? Not all men cheat, and fewer men will feel good knowing they are expected to do it anyway.

This is what i am getting at, and keeping it in verbally doesnt keep you from acting like a person that doesnt trust your partner, even when you find what you are doing harmless. Im saying this as someone who has been there on both sides, and am paying the price. My mother once found a photo of a kid in my fathers workpants. It was a 8 year old kid that he had with another woman during their marraige. 2 kids i thought were my cousins for years? Turned out to be step brothers and sisters of mine. I saw that. I had that "do you want to live with me or your fath" conversation when it all fell apart. How the fukk am i supposed to pick at 5 years old? Your not alone in this, but imma leave it alone. When i didnt know how to cope, i had no one. You choose to keep it to yourself, and thats a detriment to the relationship. Good luck to you though, and even more luck to the guy who loves you and has no idea how you feel.

He'll be fine

 

[At30wecashout]

He'll be fine

Ok. Just saying though, dont suffer in silence One moment...one week...one month....you think you are alright. Then something takes you back to the little kid who saw heartbreak and next thing you know you have sabotaged what you had going, and nobody is around to listen cause you werent listening to them.

I know this feel very well.

 

[DAlbert]

And I have a huge family full of womenBut I see this daily. The few who got degrees, are looking for similarly-qualified men, while swimming
in a pool of mediocre dudes.

This is why I put my dating on the backburner till 30. Once I get out of debt next spring, imma act a goddamn fool, though

Got a lot of affection-less years to make up for. Imma sell more dreams than Walt Disney

prosper my felllow coli brethren, prosper

 

[nawshus]

Boo Hoo. Even with the dating game allegedly stacked in favor of men, women still have more sexual partners then men, women cheat more then men & more likely to have std's. Millennial women are single because they can't/won't accept that most guys don't want to be in serious relationships with whores.

Now if women really will be soon graduating college at nearly 1.5x the rate of men, why is the biggest concern of the Washington Post that this will ruin the dating market for women and not the fact that young men are being left behind by the education system?

 

[Originalman]

Once you remove this crowd from the stats, the divorce numbers drop. Educational attainment greatly affects divorce stats as well with those with lower education having higher divorce rates.

Peace

Not only that rural folks have higher marriage rates.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Ok. Just saying though, dont suffer in silence One moment...one week...one month....you think you are alright. Then something takes you back to the little kid who saw heartbreak and next thing you know you have sabotaged what you had going, and nobody is around to listen cause you werent listening to them.

I know this feel very well.

I'll live

 

[Originalman]

This has nothing to do with education...couples meet in college or even grad school all the time.

The issue is that women keep holding out for that perfect dude, or that dude who isn't realistically attainable for them. They keep turning down the simps until they get in their 30's and those looks/body decline(plus wanting kids).

Yeah sad to say I have seen this happen myself with women and men. Them boring nerdy folks end up making the best mates.

 

[LadySimone]

I've seen older guys with some of the women on campus (smaller, private) While it's not like 50% of the women are fukking with older guys, it's not uncommon at all. Dudes in their late 20s, and 30s are getting p*ssy from a lot of girls on campus (especially the Arab and Black girls).
I know for a fact that there are older guys running around with younger women at UCLA and Berkely, not in secret either.

 

[LadySimone]

Boo Hoo. Even with the dating game allegedly stacked in favor of men, women still have more sexual partners then men, women cheat more then men & more likely to have std's. Millennial women are single because they can't/won't accept that most guys don't want to be in serious relationships with whores.

Now if women really will be soon graduating college at nearly 1.5x the rate of men, why is the biggest concern of the Washington Post that this will ruin the dating market for women and not the fact that young men are being left behind by the education system?

Because women but things that's why.

 

[Originalman]

Damn I was totally off wasn't i?

See I was just under the impression that people get hitched because they just get sick of being soooo self centered all the damn time. Like really son, your whole life?

In that way I sort of respect marriage, long term relationships etc... I don't advocate it, but I see why people do it.

But preaching to kids why they should never do it, its wrong under every circumstancd and fukk hoes all day till u die, is a disservice to the experience of life. Idk, it's just how I feel.

You make some great points. Actually the black folks on here who I won't mention their names love to bring up white folks and what they do. When one of the biggest things they do is stress to their kids to find a mate when they go to college.

I will never forget taking a class in college and a study came out about marriage. The professor asks the class who came to college with the intention to get a degree and who came to college with the intent to get a degree and a mate.

Now the class was about 60% white and 40% black (with 200 students). You would be amazed how many white kids and white girls for that matter raised their hands when the professor asked how many kids went to college to get a degree and a mate (a bunch of them). Let's says say 60 white hands went up and maybe 5 black folks raised their hands.

That just shows how negative a view black women and men have of marriage and how black parents the last two generations have not stressed the importance of marriage to their kids.

But I will say I have to give it to rural black folks. They may not talk about marriage all the time. But families certainly expect their kids to get married (no matter if they hoes, former hoes, rich, poor, middle class, baby mommas or daddies, young or old). The expectation is that your ass gets married.

And you do see them get married at a higher rate than city folks.

 

[Originalman]

Hey Fons, it's that time of the month bro. In a weeks time I'll be loveable.

So basically you bleed 24/7....and 365 days a year.

 

[Shadow King]

If I work on building my cult following I can eat in my 30s

 

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If I work on building my cult following I can eat in my 30s

This.

 

[dennis roadman]

Why does me not looking to marry someone imply that I'm looking for someone else?

That's an old school mentality breh. People do actually stay together without getting married in this day and age. *gasp*

Fair enough, my point was whatever works for you is cool.

By let it run its course I thought you meant eventually end