We Are the Generation That Doesn’t Want Relationships

[FreshFromATL]

I've done most of these things, with friends, alone, and randoms. I can say without a doubt they all would have been more fulfilling if I had someone I truly cared about doing it with me. I've travelled all over the world alone and with friends, and no matter how good of a time I have the thought creeps into my head at times that I wish I had someone to share these experiences with that I had a deep/er connection with. Not saying I don't enjoy myself, it's just...different.

What fun is it remembering a trip or something funny only to have no one to chat about it with because the friend you made isn't really a friend just an associate you picked up at a hostel or online? Idk...I just don't agree with you.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

I like being single

 

[Pazzy]

Funny.... know more than one person like this especially one person. It's sad.

 

[Woman of god]

Its gonna be A TON of bitter chicks out here 10-15 years from now with this thinking, SMH.

I'm not saying it's impossible, but I also don't think it's as definite as u put it. Not all women desire love and marriage/children, even in their older years. Not sure where ur from, but if it's any type of big city I can almost guarantee there are more never married, never mothers women who are 40, 50+ and are quite happy in life

 

[iBrowse]

the difference is commitment. There's not much commitment in a generation that upgrades its phone every year and has the shortest attention span ever.

Why commit to one person when you can just swipe right a few times and meet another option?

The recent iPhone update is pretty dope though.

 

[iBrowse]

holding fistfuls of cash that's destined for rent and utilities."

I love seeing this .

 

[iBrowse]

Maybe in countries like the US, Canada, Britain, etc.

@Malta @Malta @Malta @Poitier

 

[iBrowse]

The sooner you come to the realization that nothing is promised, deserved or generally within your control the better off you are trust me people .

 

[iBrowse]

All you sad sacks are going to be the first ones hopping back on that love train when some thot/nikka toots that whistle.

It's like none of the other threads that we can pull up on them exist .

 

[Kobes Two Jerseys]

Bingo fam the reason marriages lasted so long back then because people were actually willing to work shyt out. Long as your not being abused or cheated on you should work through the shyt. Small annoyances and minor problems are worth working through

You would be surprised at how many of those 50 and 60 year marriages went through a period of infidelity. But most people never let it be known. Marriage is a serious job that requires a lot of compromise. Even major problems are worth working through. I didn't find out until after my grandfather died that he had cheated on my grandma a couple of times. Even then, she loved his heart and soul til his last breath. They made it over 60 years together.

 

[Kobes Two Jerseys]

There used to be a huge huge stigma in this country when it came to divorce. That's why marriage was such a big deal. You basically got married just once and that was it. You didn't just get divorced, your husband/wife better damn die first. But by then you've already had 2-3-10 kids and plus you didn't work as a woman most likely so you didn't just marry the next guy. Cheating and stuff happened then too, but because the stigma of divorce and fear of loneliness from the womans POV, you just stuck it out. Divorce didn't even make any sense. Compare that today.

People pretend to be happy to be divorced. Lol. They need to stop with that shyt.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

we're all at fault for these issues

 

[Kobes Two Jerseys]

You didn't answer my question

Why SHOULD "meaningful" relationships take effort and hard work?

Why would you put voluntarily put yourself through additional stress when life is already stressful enough?

This is just some feel good Oprah/Tyler Perry rhetoric

"Oh chile work through the tough times if you REALLY luv somebody"

it's all nonsense

Anything meaningful will require work, sometimes hard work. Have you ever had a teenage son? That shyt is no fukking joke. I can't imagine what its like having a teenage daughter after dealing with my son. And hes not even a bad kid, but their attitudes change and as many times as I just want to smack the shyt out of him, I have to work to keep my composure and stay focused as a parent and make sure I do the right thing to teach him the right way.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

People look at the couples that made it 50+ years and it warms their heart but they ignore the shyt they went thru to make it there. U gotta decide if someone is worth taking that journey with, u don't have to date anybody and if a few obstacles are gonna bother your soft ass then go ahead & die alone

Example being the nikkas on here that be leaving a bytch cause she getting big instead of getting her into better, healthy habits.

nikkas want somebody to fukk and somebody who reaffirms their love for them but they also forget that by going into a relationship with somebody you've agreed to go through he journey of life together, and a main part of that is pushing each other to be the best they can.

You're right. I don't think it's that deep tho. We are all merely a reflection of the society we live in. Things have changed and are not going back. Relationships have changed. Society is all about quick fixes and "what have you done for me lately?"

So I propose that instead of saying "nikkas need to..." or "bytches need to stop..." we realize that it's not one party or another. It's the ENTIRE society. And unless that changes it's hopeless to focus on individual actions. The previous generations were no better than us they just had the societal infrastructure that encouraged getting married early and sticking it out.

 

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You would be surprised at how many of those 50 and 60 year marriages went through a period of infidelity. But most people never let it be known. Marriage is a serious job that requires a lot of compromise. Even major problems are worth working through. I didn't find out until after my grandfather died that he had cheated on my grandma a couple of times. Even then, she loved his heart and soul til his last breath. They made it over 60 years together.

Yeah. Recently found out my grandparents cheated on each other.
shyt happens when ur with somebody for that damn long.
They got over it because they were best friends and frankly had too much other shyt to worry about. Like managing a 96 acre farm.