What Are Your Unpopular RELATIONSHIP Opinions?

[Theraflu]

• I don't believe we should judge people as 'fatherless' when it comes to dating material. I believe it's possible for someone to grow up in a dysfunctional home and do better
• Most people are average and will end up with average people.

 

[BrehWyatt]

Soul mates do not exist, there are plenty of people whom you could be in a healthy relationship with

This. I used to believe in it but I've since learned that a lot of what makes a relationship work is perseverance and a willingness to try and work shyt out when it hits the fan. I've seen relationships keep trucking because one side loved harder than the other and practically refused to let the other part (who had done wrong and was willing to accept things being over) not end things.

That being said, on some level, a "good" relationship has to be easy. Somewhere.

 

[Theraflu]

• Men take back cheaters JUST as much as women do and women cheat JUST as much the stereotype of the downtrodden women taking back a cheater is false, men do not discuss it but many have taken back cheating women and been cheated on...

 

[Theraflu]

• Men are taught to focus on looks and not care about degrees and phds but I feel most of us would not catch as many L's if we were more firm in our standards for the women we dates financial stability

 

[GilSho]

There's no such thing as "you can't help who you fall in love with". Makes me cringe every time I hear it.

And perhaps a controversial one: Couples shouldn't have a baby before marriage. Conceiving a child when you have no long term plans together is one of the most irresponsible & selfish things a parent could do.

 

[BrehWyatt]

Love is a choice. Yes, there are certain people you're drawn to or click with/get along better with than others, but I don't think love is as irrational/emotional as it's made out to be.

 

[Mordith]

• I don't believe we should judge people as 'fatherless' when it comes to dating material. I believe it's possible for someone to grow up in a dysfunctional home and do better

Childhood trauma is a major cause of Personality disorders, so someone who grows up in a truely dysfunctional home is going to have issues in adulthood.

 

[The Mad Titan]

Love is stronger than Pride
You can fall in love with anyone given enough time
Love is often confused with lust and entertainment.


Open relationships are for the confused and insecure.
Money doesn't by happiness, but it makes relationships much easier.
Getting to know someone well before getting into a relationship is a recipe for success.

 

[mbewane]

• Despite being a man, I think women who give up their lives, careers, hobbies etc for their husbands are dumb. I've met so many older generation housewives who never did anything with themselves and it's crazy to me they didn't keep at least SOMETHING of their own, some kind of gig or something. I'll never get women who give up everything once they find a man or have kids....

• The concept that non black women are more 'feminine' than black women is a lie, I think people mistake different conversation styles for actual femininity, I think the idea that black women aren't feminine is the biggest lie people tell themselves. I believe this is a white supremacist lie because most of the black women I know are good women in the old school sense of being feminine...

I believe this too, and it's BECAUSE I'm a man. I have no interest in a woman for whom I (and/or the family) is EVERYTHING. Who are YOU? What do YOU like in life? What are YOUR dreams? What are we gonna talk about, what can I learn from you as an individual, and not as a GF/wife? I need an interesting partner.

• Men take back cheaters JUST as much as women do and women cheat JUST as much the stereotype of the downtrodden women taking back a cheater is false, men do not discuss it but many have taken back cheating women and been cheated on...

True, and when men cheat it's because we're "dogs/b*stards/a$$holes" but when it's women it's because they have "needs" and/or is somehow the man's fault...

 

[1 other person]

People who jump in and out of relationships after relationships after relationships are too needy and insecure. It's healthy to be alone sometimes especially after a long term relationship. Women are worse with this. So people are too afraid of 'being alone', which in and of itself is ridiculous.

If you have some issues and drama in your life, you seriously need to iron that shyt out before you get into a relationship with another person. A lot of people just jump into relationships with all kind of issues they haven't faced or tried to deal with. This causes more problems, which some people seem to love.

 

[Black Magisterialness]

• Despite being a man, I think women who give up their lives, careers, hobbies etc for their husbands are dumb. I've met so many older generation housewives who never did anything with themselves and it's crazy to me they didn't keep at least SOMETHING of their own, some kind of gig or something. I'll never get women who give up everything once they find a man or have kids....

• The concept that non black women are more 'feminine' than black women is a lie, I think people mistake different conversation styles for actual femininity, I think the idea that black women aren't feminine is the biggest lie people tell themselves. I believe this is a white supremacist lie because most of the black women I know are good women in the old school sense of being feminine...

this is true...my woman MUST work...she MUST that is a deal breaker. Housewives suck.

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

Soul mates do not exist, there are plenty of people whom you could be in a healthy relationship with

• Men are taught to focus on looks and not care about degrees and phds but I feel most of us would not catch as many L's if we were more firm in our standards for the women we dates financial stability

There's no such thing as "you can't help who you fall in love with". Makes me cringe every time I hear it.

Love is a choice. Yes, there are certain people you're drawn to or click with/get along better with than others, but I don't think love is as irrational/emotional as it's made out to be.

Definitely agree with these

romantic love doesn't exist or is useless
The only pure love is between a parent and their child
And that's if you have a good one

Women choose the situations they want to be in

I don't trust anyone %100 except my parents

Regarding the bolded, yep it's very useless when trying to build a long-term relationship. Romantic love is fleeting.

 

[Verbal Kint]

Most of the issues people give as reasons relationships don't work are excuses. The issue that ends the vast majority of relationships is selfishness in one way or another. Most people simply can't get to the point where they place someone else's needs and wants above their own and ACTUALLY mean it. Lots of cats will do a ton for their girl but kind of resent it deep down OR they create an environment where one partner makes it sooo much about the other that the other partner believes it too so only one is being fulfilled because again, one is operating out of selfishness

 

[Taadow]

The only pure love is between a parent and their child
And that's if you have a good one

That's not "pure" love either...love is actions.

 

[New Username]

Men should be allowed to cheat sometimes