What exactly is wrong with women having high standards again?

[Finesse]

…and there we have it.

”Standards” are great, but they are based on values that one has themselves.
”Expectations“ are based on nothing.

What seems to be happening is people having “expectations” and “preferences“ but calling them standards,
and which criteria people use to be their standards.

examples:

- 5’4” broads calling 5’7 dudes too short
- I was a prolific hoe, but you gotta wait ‘til we married for sex
- I got two kids, but I can’t date no man with a kid
- I make $40K a year, so if he make $39K he ain’t on my level
- I’m a PhD, so he gotta be one too or we won’t be equally yoked


That’s what backwards outchea…

Besides the hoe and kids one there is nothing wrong with those "standards" even if they are "vain".

Men run around with the male equivalent of those standards all the time, even in this thread, and no one bats a eye.

Why is it a problem when women do it? What is wrong with a short girl not wanting a short man. Ugly nikkas dont want to date ugly women. Educated men claim their woman have to be educated as well. And high earning people tend to want to have relationships with people with their same earning potential.

 

[MJ Truth]

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with ANYONE having standards, as long as your standards for yourself are as high or higher.

 

[King Poetic]

Nothing is wrong with what u want but don’t start crying and bytchin after years and years and that shyt isn’t at your door

I what 100 million from the mega jackpot and nothing else less, so let my dumb ass pass on the $100,$500, $100,000 or $5 million dollars winnings only because I want 100 million

 

[rabbid]

Nothing wrong with high standards but only the elite women can have unrealistic standards and actually have a meaningful relationship same with men.

lori harvey would beg to differ. unrealistic standards are simply not conducive to a healthy relationship period. the bar gets higher and higher once you're with her because the chase to perfection is never completed. eventually she'll have to come down from her pedestal.

 

[Taadow]

Besides the hoe and kids one there is nothing wrong with those "standards" even if they are "vain".

Men run around with the male equivalent of those standards all the time, even in this thread, and no one bats a eye.

Why is it a problem when women do it? What is wrong with a short girl not wanting a short man. Ugly nikkas dont want to date ugly women. Educated men claim their woman have to be educated as well. And high earning people tend to want to have relationships with people with their same earning potential.

The “problem” here is what you’ve described is not standards; they are expectations.

Standards have to be earned.

So if you’re a person who hasn’t earned a standard they have, you are less likely to have your standard met.



I agree with you that there’s nothing wrong to have an expectation that you want…
but it becomes a problem when you can’t see why you aren’t getting that.

 

[Elim Garak]

lori harvey would beg to differ. unrealistic standards are simply not conducive to a healthy relationship period. the bar gets higher and higher once you're with her because the chase to perfection is never completed. eventually she'll have to come down from her pedestal.

Nah I disagree she just gets tired of the same dikk that's a whole different thing lol.

 

[Dave24]

It's not about how high your standards are........it's about which standards you value most.

MOST people will compromise their educational/career/economic compatibility etc., standards if the person is more physically attractive. That's usually the biggest problem for men AND women.

If someone makes our love parts happy, we ignore a lot of red flags because we enjoy seeing them naked. Arranged marriage would never work in the United States but the idea behind it is something we should incorporate....

marry who you want...but ask yourself this important question: if I couldn't smash this person and our relationship functioned like a friendship for several years..no sex....would I enjoy being around this person? If you have to think really hard about it, y'all probably aren't compatible.

Can't just love someone. It really helps to like them too.

Big facts

 

[King Poetic]

It’s been a problem IMO when you expect someone to a meet standard that you yourself can’t meet

That’s my only issue I have

I really have the issue when it comes to women with kids or big women

Because I would literally hear them say I need a man making this, he also need to have this and that and need to be small or muscular

And I’m like u got 2 kids by 2 different men, one is a ex con and another lives with his mama and neither pays child support and u want a man physically in shape but your stomach is sticking out more than your ass, so your standards and requirements has been downgraded woman , so I’m sorry high standards isn’t in your vocabulary

 

[Cereal_Bowl_Assassin]

Personally I think some standards are becoming wayyyy too unreasonable. That and people are arrogant about it.

Humility has gone by the wayside sadly

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

How would you know what their standards are if you don't ask them and just assume what they are based on social media?



I mean, it's easy when they broadcast it all over the 'Net, but the women you see IRL ain't putting their business out there like that.​

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Nothing.

In fact I encourage women to be gold-diggers.

 

[Fresh]

It's nothing wrong with women having high standards

it's that most women have 50 million standards to meet, and it's unrealistic

men keep it a lot more simple when it comes to our standards for women

 

[010101]

a woman's standards standards should force a man to level up

the issue is currently women have standards low enough to step over

ha


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[Houston911]

Yeah, the women have high standards thing is a myth. Attractive and/or accomplished women are dating and marrying below their level all the time.

I see broke and ugly dudes shooting above their pay grade in real life all the time yet the internet treats it like it seldom happens.

Yup. Women just be talking to amuse themselves

Women will say they need a 6’3 muscular dude with a big bank account.

Then you see em with a 5’8 bad built fukked up haircut dude and they splitting the dinner bill

 

[Commish]

A woman can have whatever standards she feel that she desire or deserve.

However, men can do the same.

It comes down to whether a man chooses to strive to meet a woman's expectations and standards or not. The inverse also applies..

As long as women are mature enough to accept the outcomes that comes with having certain standards, holding themselves accountable for their deeds and actions and not engage in finger wagging wars towards men, then I am cool.

I just want people to be happy and at peace with themselves...