Black women just love to eat really, a lot of them are overweight and of course they want the man to pay for it if they can. A smart woman or man understands not to take who pays or don't pay on the 1st date too serious, bcuz of all of the independent women confusion going on in the black community.
I'm sure I've dated and been around more of these so called "success" black women living in DC, then more guys on this forum. I will say there's a lot of truth to the OP's posting. A lot of these "successful" women really aren't that successful and they don't really have a lot of money to blow. So they do try to save and get over when they can. They just want the respect of a independent person, but benefits of a traditional catering type lady. Dudes aren't really going for that nowadays. Either you're independent or you're not. This is were all the confusion stems from.
As far as chicks from the hood, the cool ones (not really ghetto) they seem to have less expectation of what a man should do, but appreciate when he does. A lot of these so called "successful" sista have higher expectations and they usually aren't too appreciative nor grateful afterward. They feel that they are entitled to that. My feeling on entitlements are, if you're really entitled, you shouldn't have to debate or ask for it. I'm sure if you're fly and cool enough a man doesn't have a problem paying for any dates. It's the average chicks with dime entitlement issues that is causes this confusion.
I'm sure I've dated and been around more of these so called "success" black women living in DC, then more guys on this forum. I will say there's a lot of truth to the OP's posting. A lot of these "successful" women really aren't that successful and they don't really have a lot of money to blow. So they do try to save and get over when they can. They just want the respect of a independent person, but benefits of a traditional catering type lady. Dudes aren't really going for that nowadays. Either you're independent or you're not. This is were all the confusion stems from.
As far as chicks from the hood, the cool ones (not really ghetto) they seem to have less expectation of what a man should do, but appreciate when he does. A lot of these so called "successful" sista have higher expectations and they usually aren't too appreciative nor grateful afterward. They feel that they are entitled to that. My feeling on entitlements are, if you're really entitled, you shouldn't have to debate or ask for it. I'm sure if you're fly and cool enough a man doesn't have a problem paying for any dates. It's the average chicks with dime entitlement issues that is causes this confusion.







