Why are men expected to provide and protect?

[richaveli83]

 

[Uitomy]

What natural laws?

Lol Animals don't even do that shyt

Lions lay back and let the females hunt

Only time a male lion fights is to stop other lions from taking over his spot

Even other primates don't do that shyt

Lmao nikka do you not know what a silver back is?

 

[richaveli83]

People are treating responsibility like the plague these days

One day it is "we need to give to the community" the next it is "I don't see why I should have to be the provider".

Welcome to Thecoli.com

 

[Uitomy]

It looks like we're the ones who need some providing.

Black Women Students Far Outnumber Black Men at the Nation's Highest-Ranked Universities

In Higher Education Black Women are far Outpacing Black Men on JSTOR

All that means is black men not racking up student debt, shyt gonna be spooky next decade

 

[Prynce]

Lmao nikka do you not know what a silver back is?

A silverback doesn't hunt to feed his woman no does he protect her or the kids outside of keep his spot as silver back

 

[Standing on business]

OP should’ve left protector out of the title, it would’ve made for better convo. I’ve witnessed many homeboys play that take care of my woman role (financially) only to get nothing out of it. So much money lost over the years. Not to mention the #1 thing black females brag about these days is being educated, well if you’re that educated why do you need a man to provide for you? Shouldn’t it be an equal partnership?

 

[Prynce]

if the gun toting gang banging neighbor saw u walking by and grabbed your ass and said "damn my nikka u looking thick" would u fight him?

clearly, there are circumstances you'd feel ok fighting the dude behind. if i'm not want of them, then you not my man. i don't even think in this scenario most women would let u actually go fight, they'd stop u at the door. but the guy would at least have to show a willingness to protect h

 

[KillerB88]

You don't have to do either but I always say 'For one that won't there is always one that will.'

Should men take that stance toward overweight women that don’t cook, clean, or believe men should lead the household?

 

[Prynce]

Then what's the basis of the thread? Relationships are at the core mutually beneficial. Women traditionally don't work so that they can provide a nurturing home.

If a woman works then domestic duties are split. That's pretty standard.

As far as protecting, as someone else said, you'll be hard pressed to find a woman who will be okay you leaving her to the wolves if she is in danger but you can find it. Women protect their men and child too and you unwillingness to do that probably means you'll sacrifice a lot of respect.

I was having a convo with these ladies and they all said it was a man's job to take care of them

And When I asked what they were gonna do, they all said was have sex and give him kids

I honestly don't think thats a even trade

 

[Prynce]

I'm guessing you not a fan of p*ssy and to be more specific quality p*ssy.

Women chase men with wealth and clout. If you ain't got that then you ain't gonna get the best of what this world has to offer.

The trade off is pretty simple. Women give you sex for providing them with a comfortable life. And the badder the bytch the more she expects.

It is what it is.

Thats not a good trade

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

I've spent my entire life working to make something of myself and now that my fruits are starting to bloom. I realize that I don't wanna trade my resources or life just to have sex with a woman. It's not a good trade

Then don't do it. As long as you don't expect a woman to do anything for you then u are good.

Question is, what expectations should someone hold you to and what do you expect out of others.

 

[Prynce]

Watch what happens in a society we're only the alpha males protect women and everyone else turns a blind eye to what happens to them

Honestly it's biological. When I hear my daughter cry there's just something in me that wants to make sure she's okay to a greater degree than my son.

If you see no value in protecting women then something probably happened to you. It ain't normal

I don't feel a need to protect nobody except my Mom's lol

 

[Prynce]

Cause caring for, providing and holding down a whole family unit feels better than anything.

U should try it instead of being a selfish nobody...

Chasing these goals feels better

 

[True Darkseid]

I honestly feel like that way of thinking is outdated.

I have no desire to spend my money or put my life at risk for some woman

So what do you think your role is, besides f*cking if you have a significant other? (Real question, not trolling)

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I didn't have a family growing up

I just find it weird to take pride in other people

Don't knock it to you try it. Especially as you get older you'll start to appreciate family time and people who love and support you. I moved away from my family but I have established a good network of people who I care about.