Why Are Men Who Claim "Good/Nice" Hated Sohh?

[Dirty_Jerz]

Okay, let's do this; I have a female friend who's single.

You play the "nice guy." What do you offer to enrich her life, based on the fact that you're a "nice guy," and not a "thug"?

Well she would have the stable loyal monogomy she wanted, a friend, someone who can teach her about herself (if shes black especially), a great listener, wouldn't bring all that hood stuff around her, could show her how to eat and workout properly, not out doing things that land me in prison and possibly her through affiliation, washes my own dishes, cleans my own laundry, not physically/verbally abusive, ambition and drive to reach goals we might set, etc. Stereotypically speaking of course.

What does she have to enrich my life though?

 

[Skooby]

 

[concise]

I ought to neg just about everyone who has posted in this thread.

 

[Rack4K]

The whole 'women like a$$holes' thing is for losers. Women like nice guys...but they like nice guys they wanna fukk. If she's already attracted to you, being nice is the best thing to be. Period.

I said nice. Not a sucker, pushover or doormat. That's when you stop being attractive to her. Nobody likes neediness.

 

[Taadow]

Sheesh...a nicca can't even be nice anymore.

Maybe...I hold the door open for everyone.
Maybe...I smile at everyone.
Maybe...you really do have something on your face. lol

It doesn't mean i'm trying to fucc you.

But that's okay. Like I said, other folks ain't reppin' it right.
At this point, you gotta treat the designation "nice guy" the
same as "OG", "strong female", or "real nicca".

 

[VICVALLIN]

why don't nikkas understand?? women ARE attracted to men who are nice and treat them well. the problem is most men that portray themselves as, "nice" guys are only mimicking actions they think women want in a man and more often than not, they overcompensate usually by conceding nearly all decisions and rarely saying no. two traits that reek of insecurity and low self-confidence. things that women find UNattractive. when a woman says, "he's too nice", what she's trying to say is, "he's a doormat. he lets me run all over him. he never makes a decision or puts his foot down." unfortunately I know all of this because I used to be that guy that would routine concede and rarely put my foot down.

 

[PartyHeart]

As far as nice guys feeling entitled to attraction, it's because they've been told by women and society that being nice is what makes you attractive to women.

So society has taught you that niceness is all that it takes to attract women? Not physical attractiveness, not education, not earning potential, just show basic human decency and women will fall at your feet? And feigning it at that, because apparently a lot of you wouldn't even do that if you didn't think it could get you laid.

No wonder some of you are so mad. You think all you need to do is basically show up and be male.

- because model-type girlfriends will still choose financial stability or long-dikk over a great psychical appearance. that doesn't change the fact big women can still get a plethora of dikk if they want.

- except when we talk about black women. stop attaching yourself to the dominant society. our women pioneered the whole confident, sexy BBW shyt. i could point out several movies where some sherri shepherd built character's boyfriend/love-interest is some terry crews looking dude.

- funny you say that because a lot of big women will tell you they dont lose weight cus black men like fat asses but i agree, theres little reinforcement that being big will get you the best of men. but there's also no reinforcement that being a "good black male" will get you the best of women.

-But what if the likely event occurs and the big girl doesn't just want to be used for sex and never taken out in public or seen as attractive? She's still losing just like the guys in question.

-But even in the Black community being fat (not shapely) is not seen as a positive. Black men on average seem to like 'thicker' women with curves, but that doesn't mean they like fat women. Most if not all Black female sex symbols are not fat. Sherri Shepherd and Monique are still not considered a prize no matter what they say about being big and beautiful.

-I think there's plenty. You just have to be cute and/or have a high earning potential while being nice. Nice isn't the make or break factor. Like I said, if you think fine men with means are getting rejected by women for being nice, I have a bridge to sell you.

 

[philmonroe]

Sheesh...a nicca can't even be nice anymore.

Maybe...I hold the door open for everyone.
Maybe...I smile at everyone.
Maybe...you really do have something on your face. lol

It doesn't mean i'm trying to fucc you.

But that's okay. Like I said, other folks ain't reppin' it right.
At this point, you gotta treat the designation "nice guy" the
same as "OG", "strong female", or "real nicca".

Man you on your Ralph Tresvant because unless you one of these "nice guys" you know the damn difference. Why people acting silly all of a sudden

 

[Easy-E]

Well she would have the stable loyal monogomy she wanted, a friend, someone who can teach her about herself (if shes black especially), a great listener, wouldn't bring all that hood stuff around her, could show her how to eat and workout properly, not out doing things that land me in prison and possibly her through affiliation, washes my own dishes, cleans my own laundry, not physically/verbally abusive, ambition and drive to reach goals we might set, etc. Stereotypically speaking of course.

Well, that's great. But, you and I both know that's not a majority of "nice guys," on here.

What does she have to enrich my life though?

And this is the biggest thing; there are literally millions of women out there. You don't like this one, move on.

I know ya'll ain't all mid 30's men, with their lives together, who just can't find a great woman to settle down with after dozens of tries. Dude wanna "just have their fun" just as much as young women, but, we demonize them before we do ourselves.

What I see; dudes take their experience with one or two women (they cannot let go) and spam thecoli about how all women are this or that.

There's a huge thread about woman fawnin' over a dude's mugshot. Now, they could be trollin', but, nope. It's; "SEE, ALL WOMAN WANT THUGS."

So, woman can't fawn over a mugshot, but, the men here literally have a forum (JBO) with some of the filthiest things on this site?

You don't even have to click the threads to know what goes down, there.

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If you're a good dude, you should connect with the right woman. She may not be built like a urban magazine model or a woman with 100,000 followers, on Twitter. She may be a "homely," quiet type. But, it's up to us to find them. You know....man up and not worry about ppl who are wastin' their time with "thugs."

 

[Taadow]

Man you on your Ralph Tresvant because unless you one of these "nice guys" you know the damn difference. Why people acting silly all of a sudden

Oh, I do know the difference...I find it hard to believe everyone else doesn't know the difference,
and therefore groups the different ones together...that is what's silly.

 

[philmonroe]

Oh, I do know the difference...I find it hard to believe everyone else doesn't know the difference,
and therefore groups the different ones together...that is what's silly.

Ok my bad but honestly its only certain people that do that grouping them all together

 

[Dirty_Jerz]

Well, that's great. But, you and I both know. That's not a majority of "nice guys," on here.



And this is the biggest thing; . There are literaly millions of women out there. You don't like this one, move on.

I know ya'll ain't all mid 30's men, with their lives together, who just can't find a great woman to settle down with after dozens of tries. Dude wanna "just have their fun" just as much as young women, but, we demonize them before we do ourselves.

What I see; dudes take their experience with one or two women (they cannot let go) and spam thecoli about how all women are this or that.

There's a huge thread about woman fawnin' over a dude's mugshot. Now, they could be trollin', but, nope. It's; "SEE, ALL WOMAN WANT THUGS."

So, woman can't fawn over a mugshot, but, the men here literally have a forum (JBO) with some of the filthiest things on this site?

You don't even have to click the threads to know what goes down, there.

___________________


If you're a good dude, you should connect with the right woman. She may not be built like a urban magazine model or a woman with 100,000 followers, on Twitter. She may be a "homely," quiet type. But, it's up to us to find them. You know....man up and not worry about ppl who are wastin' their time with "thugs."

What i don't get is why is it only a mans job to make change? Women can't find a genuine nice and or good man, the answer is men need to "man up" and start searching for them. Then you have to pass all these rigid qualification tests to prove you are genuine(unless you're model face handsome or way above their income tax bracket) and if you even slip up a little they flaking on you, giving a breh that 'tude . If she got single friends doomed from the start, they're gonna put in WORK to make sure you ain't sugar honey ice tea to her. Inviting her to go clubbing, teaching her feminist values they never shared up until then, getting all in her concious inception blocking.

An average looking male will be rejected and called ugly by an average looking female. A female will flat out ignore a male who walks up and say hello if she not interested .

Show me a man who acts like that. Social media has almost every female homely or not gassed up to different heights, while for men the equivelant is simping reaching new lows. Don't even dare approach a woman unless you come equipped like a phone on a plan with unlimited everything, or risk being that guy that women spread ill things about on social media, further hurting your chances because now you're a loser.


It's terrible to hear "man up and find that woman you want" when it's just not that simple at all. Even if you do find what you are looking for that doesn't mean she's interested. Not in the least. I feel for my brehs in the struggle so i don't hold it against them at all for going at the neck of those women. They're making an example for the next generation and that matters, for sure.

 

[Taadow]

Ok my bad but honestly its only certain people that do that grouping them all together

I would agree with you, but this thread got me wondering...

It didn't take long for it to become "A 'nice guy' is an a$$hole because all guys are dogs"-show...

 

[Neil Tyson]

The reason nice guys are vilified because they think they are owed just for being nice.

These guys obviously never listened to Snoop Dogg's Doggystyle or some G-Funk that would've no doubt put them on some game.

 

[Dirty_Jerz]

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One more thing that's kind of off topic about those jbo goons. While women would have sex with that convict and risk pregnancy because he's handsome to them even if they wouldn't date him, would you agree that he would probably give them what they want? Now the same for those women that get beat off to daily, you think they are risking pregnancy to give any of those jbo goons the time of the day?